missing the boys don't ready this if you are feeling rough it will only make you feel worse.

Christmas is just a week away and I am missing my boys more than I can say. I idd'nt get invited to any parties and no christmas bonus. No body calls , no cards were sent to me and no greetings from anyone.I understand I guess. Why would they want me around anyway. Sounds like I''m feeling sorry for myself. I guess I am. My mother yelled at me last night when I called her. She said nobody wants to be around me for fear of recking their holiday. Not too many people are allowed to see me cry. I keep it bundled up inside so I don't offend anyone.I someimes wonder if I should Kill myself like the lady told me to.I hate these damn holidays I'll be glad when they are over. There not celebrated the way it's supposed to be anyway. It's all about shopping and spending money nobody has. Who can out do in the present department. The sun is shining but there are clouds in my heart. I want to just scream at the top of my lungs. If only one person would just listen. My best friends mom is dying andthey live to far away for me to get to them. I'm pretty sure I'll have to fly there when she dies. I'm all my friend has so I will have to get her through this nitemare. Then I'm done. I am so mad aat God right now if I die I will surely go to hell which is fine with me like I haven't already been there and back a few times.You tell me where is the almighty when people are hurting and sad feeling like crap. What only a few get miracles. Am I not good enough for a small miracle? I feel like the grinch. Maybe I am the grinch. You give me one good reason why I should praise the lord when he never listens to me.Ihave had to fight all my life. Child abuse, beatings, sexuall abuse, name calling, and everything else that has made me so bitter. I probably belong in hell, maybe I'll fit in there. I'm sorry but I dont have one good thing to say today. Life is worth living my ass. I don't see one good thing about it today.My kids are dead my family dont want anything to do with me all these years of pretending in front of everyone how strong I am and how Happy I am when really I feel like my heart is broken and unrepairable. Truth is I feel like kicking the crap out of something. I want it all over. I want all this dying to stop right now. Merry christmas aw humbug. Today I'm not sorry for anything i've said. This is how I feel today and I dont care. All that crap I'll be there for you and we will help you what a joke.Nobody wants to ehlp they wnat to get as far away as they can. Well they can just keekp going. I dont need any of them And as far as God goes he can leave me alone to he's had enough practice at it.

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Comment by coachlouise on December 23, 2010 at 3:40am
May I give you a one hour free coaching session, I will listen, and listen some more then share what you told me back to you. This is very helpful,  If you are interested just send me a message. My heart goes out to you, Coach Louise
Comment by Ammy on December 19, 2010 at 11:22am

Anne, I'm torn as to what I should say here.  I am glad that you let your frustration out.  You are not a whiny, selfish person.  You probably said what others are also feeling, but will not acknowledge.  We go through so many different emotions.  I sometimes feel like I'm on a roller coaster.  Up and down.  Trying to feel the way I think I should, but then feeling what I can't control.  I too would like to just throw my arms up in the air and say "forget it, why should I go on?", who really cares?  All I know is that I have been going on and every night I'm thankful that another day has passed.  I long for sleep so I don't have to feel or think.  I know that my son would not want me or any of the family weeping.  He just wasn't that type of person.  I don't think your sons would want you feeling this way either.  We need to go on for them.  Try to go back to those happy memories you were talking about.  I'm thankful that you wrote them because it helped me when I read them.  So you should know that you are needed.  You have something to give in spite of your pain.  I will not get into the God part except to say that it's okay to feel angry, but He will never leave you alone.  We are the ones that walk away because we can't understand.  He is in the same place He was when His son died for us.  Write me privately if you want.  I would like to be here for you, but I can't promise I'll be here all the time because I also have some horrible days.  Love & hugs, Ann

Comment by Patricia J. Jones on December 19, 2010 at 5:16am

My pain is fresh with just losing my husband on December 3rd (two weeks ag) but can I help you in any way?  I know how it feels to be so desperate and alone.  I lost my brother many years and I got so tired of people telling me to get a grip and move on.  People can be so cruel.  I right now feel my life is not worth living anymore but I'm hoping things will get better with time.  I would love to be able to help you in some way.  The Christmas season is so difficult when you're witnessing the joy of young families all around you.  Nobody understands the pain we are going through.  I'm here for you.

Comment by anne on December 18, 2010 at 4:38pm

You are a serious pain in the butt. You whiny selfish poor me brat.This is all what you deserve for being such a nasty person. shame on you. Maybe you would be doing the whole world a favor by checking out. Then nobody would have to listen to you rant and rave like a lunatic.

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