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Another Nightmare

Friends of ours set out on a three month missionary trip to Costa Rica leaving February 7th 2013. Received a call late February 10th that Tom had passed away that day of a heart attack. His wife, Linda, will be home with him soon. Two of his children flew to Costa Rica to be with their mother.

There are no words to express my sadness. It is Normal to Feel This Way because God did not create man to die or get sick. Thankfully we are comforted by the hope Jesus mentions at (John 5:28,…

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Added by Brenda Ann on February 12, 2013 at 4:30pm — No Comments

Sometimes the best way of helping ourselves is to help others. . .

There is just so much grief - caused by many events in our lives - unfortunately death may well be the worst but many other happenings rank right up there. This is 15 yr old Brandon Parra. He is not my blood grandson but he calls me grandma and it sure feels like he is mine. He has been in the hospital off and on, every few weeks for over a year - this stretch has been 4…

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Added by Brenda Ann on February 11, 2013 at 11:55am — 1 Comment

My brother in law

Sad to report that pancreatic cancer claimed my brother in law's life early this morning.  Over the last 2 years he has cared for my mother in law.  She has Alzheimer and is 90 years old. Roger, my brother in law worked with mom to get her muscles toned and made sure she drank enough etc so that today she is in far better condition than 2 years ago when my father in law passed away.  They were in assisted living - which now I feel was no assistance at all.  Roger was a wonderful son and a…

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Added by Brenda Ann on September 5, 2012 at 1:11pm — 3 Comments

Closing Chapters

It is so difficult to see another piece of history end. Waves of the past keep flowing over me. Memories. . . such good times. . . our friend Jackie will be missed as is her sister Paula each and every day.  Thank you, Jackie for remembering everything about me and all your smiles and hugs and always putting Jehovah first. It will be wonderful seeing you and Paula and making new forever memories together.

Added by Brenda Ann on January 17, 2012 at 1:13am — No Comments

Grief and Comfort do not have to be public

After my father in law passed away July 2010 I became personally aware that people truly had a tremendous need for comfort and a solid hope.  I find most people think that they have faith and hope but when they really need both there is a huge hole.  My husband, daughters, son, Mother in Law and extended family all reacted differently.  I never knew that there could be a physical reaction - I got so sick - it was like a virus for about 3 days...



When the final call came it was…

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Added by Brenda Ann on December 14, 2011 at 8:00am — No Comments

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