"I am so grateful to have the support of this group. This is a very difficult time for me the hardest loss I have ever experienced. It’s only been three weeks and I am allowing myself to feel all the pain, crying ,screaming. I don’t want…"
"I am wondering where all the members went? Hoping to connect with others who are grieving spousal loss also, and support one another here. It is much harder to do it on our own. Off-line friends may now find it difficult to be around us due to…"
"Hi Brian, I extend my genuine concerns to you, I share similar pain. Going out is also very difficult for me, it seems like I really do not want to engage in life anymore. In the beginning, I used to go out at night.... it seems to be little…"
"Betty, I feel your pain. And please keep being here, one day at a time. It is extremely gut wrenching, and cry out loud if you need to.....I have the same loss as you..... still very distraught. I continue speaking to him daily in my prayers. If you…"
Since my loss, I have found myself to be a traveller, floating through this temporary place, earth …. for a very finite time…
About my Loss:
I lost my love, soulmate, best friend and life partner of over 25 years to cancer. Our lives are shattered. Initially, I was isolated, feeling utterly alone. Soon my despair takes a further descent when it appears even in the subconscious mind of friends, people touched by death like us are to be suppressed, obscured; or better yet, buried together with our deceased mates. This may sound rather shocking to some. Yet if we were to be honest, this cruel jungle mentality is somehow reflected in those sudden insensitive comments, and long silences we received from our friends or even family members.
Only after many months later, I came to realize that those who have never experienced the loss of their beloved spouse cannot possibly understand such deep pain and loneliness. This includes grief therapists. It is hard to fathom for them, that there is no moving on for us here, at this liminal space, barely breathing …. for Love Never Dies.
So yes, I want to be brutally honest…. with myself, and you …. possibly my new tribe here. To break our isolation, and distraught, I hope we can join our hearts and mind together, to comfort, encourage and help each other, spiritually, emotionally and practically.
For now, I dedicate this to you:
May you be well, and loved by the Divine …and that we may all find our paths to healing.
I am truly sorry we are meeting here, yet thank you.
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I am so grateful to have the support of this group. This is a very difficult time for me the hardest loss I have ever experienced. It’s only been three weeks and I am allowing myself to feel all the pain, crying ,screaming. I don’t want people around right now I need time to process all that has happened. Such deep sadness, I am heartbroken
I am wondering where all the members went? Hoping to connect with others who are grieving spousal loss also, and support one another here. It is much harder to do it on our own. Off-line friends may now find it difficult to be around us due to avoidance of death and our deep sorrow. Let's connect and support each other here. Take care at the meantime.
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