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Struggling with new year
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Hi I wrote this poem when struggling to get my head around there being a new year without Steve, it just doesn't seem right that life should go on without him. I thought I would share it with you as…Continue

Tags: poetry, grief, poems, poem, babs

Started this discussion. Last reply by Babs Jan 21, 2013.

Don't walk alone, hold my hand

I thought that this story was a bit like this site, we are all on the grief path but not alone, just reach out. I looked around blinking in the pitch dark trying to work out where i was, I seemed to…Continue

Started Oct 27, 2011

What do people do on the anniversary of the loss of a loved one
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In three days time it will be the anniversary of steve's death, I want to do something special to remember him but not sure what to do, Any suggestions would be greatly recieved, How have you dealt…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Cynthia Horacek Aug 20, 2011.

Does anyone else suffer from physical symptoms due to grief,
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I get violent muscle spasms due to a feeling of terror, Is this normal or am I going mad?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Babs Aug 9, 2011.

 

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Disenfranchised grief

This group is for all those whose grief has been disenfranchised (not supported or acknowledeged by family, friends or society) I hope this group will exist to enfranchise your grief. Please don't grieve alone.See More
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Dixie Allison Duke commented on Babs's group Disenfranchised grief
"No One Understands I feel like no one understands what it's like to lose your Mother when you are 2 years old. So many grief support groups and pages are focused on recent losses, and I get so frustrated because no one out there is like me. My…"
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"grief is getin wors now cz of cov 19"
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About Me:
I live in the south of England and work with some amazing autistic children at a special needs school. I love animals and have a cat and a puppy. I also love writng poetry.
About my Loss:
I have been struggling with disenfranchised grief, when my ex boyfriend died and also from when my aunt died when I was 15, she lived with us and was a mum to me, both difficult and complicated situations.

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How can I help?

A poem I wrote a few months ago when a friend was at a loss how to help, unfortunately she is not in contact with me now, she couldn't watch me in pain. I know its hard to see someone you love in pain.

How can I help?

Sometimes the right words are hard to find

but its ok to listen, I don't mind

sometimes its hard to know what to do

but you know, its just good to be with you…

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Posted on August 27, 2011 at 2:36pm

My near death experience

I know that a lot of you have lost loved ones to tragedies like my experience nearly was and must have wondered how your loved ones felt if they knew they were going to die. I guess maybe everyones reactions may be different but felt to share my story and how I felt when I knew I was going to die. I hope it may help in some way.

When I was 11 I was out at sea with my dinghy when a massive freak wave came towards me, I wasn't sure what to do whether to try and ride it or try and get to…

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Posted on August 27, 2011 at 11:09am

The lifeline of love

Thought I would share with you another poem I wrote,

The lifeline of love

We were knitted together as one

it was you that was my lifeline

until death came and took you away

and snapped right through our strong twine

Now I am falling so very fast

no lifeline with which to save me

I never thought the line would…

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Posted on August 24, 2011 at 5:53am — 2 Comments

Has your grief affected your faith?

I have been a christian for 18 years and have loved the lord with all my heart and been an active member of my church for that time. I have been through many trials and have always found strengh in God and my church family. At the moment though I am really struggling, I havn't been to church since January and have not been able to worship, I know God is with me and don't want to abandon him or my faith but there seems to be a barrier. I wondered if anyone on here has found this difficult. It…

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Posted on August 21, 2011 at 1:58pm — 15 Comments

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Babs, go on blogs, I have posted my speech any suggestions from you will be greatly appreciated!!
 
 
 

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i miss the family its no longer here

i miss the family so much its no longer here mom dad uncle sister  aunites pets frineds its like family i miss them all im woried im going to have no body soon i am iv being on this forum since 2012 dont get on much thease days i dont iv saed a lot of goodbyes from people from my church im a spirtalest  but its still hard saying goodbye See More
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Walter Craig posted a discussion

...both parents

I lost my mama to cancer after her 10 month battle with Vulvar Cancer and I had to witness some very horrific days. She suffered so much and I tried to be there with her as much as I could but she did not survive this monster and passed away.my dad was also battening lung disease and he passed away 7 weeks later. I am 32 and no siblings and no family of my own.some days I feel lost and I don't know if I can carry on...See More
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Speed Weasel posted a blog post

The Wheels on (My Grief) Bus Go Round and Round...

New Year - 2025!At the start of the year I returned to Thailand for another medical mission.  This was my fourth trip for this and I was somewhat ready/prepared for the heightened emotions.  Not sure why...no real connection to Jen or her accident, but in the past these trips offer some extended alone time, away from others, away from people that speak the same language and as such seem to bring the thoughts back to the forefront.  Strangely, the same levels of emotionality were not there.  Not…See More
May 30
Speed Weasel commented on Dottie's status
"Dottie, do you find the anniversary dates to still be as emotionally difficult as the first couple times?  I find that some years, it is very fresh and raw, others almost (almost) slip by without fanfare."
May 30
Speed Weasel replied to Mabel Murphy's discussion My husband passed away
"So sorry for you with his passing. That is rough, that there has been so much time between the initial diagnosis and the final moments.  On top of the 'normal' grief, you may also start to feel relief, which is likely to add to the…"
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