"I had a conversation with my son two years after his passing. I lost him during pregnancy and it haunted me that I would never know him and that brief conversation meant the world to me. He revealed things I hadn't even realized I had been…"
I'm Alex, age 40. I'm a Recovery Peer Support Specialist and the mother of a 5-year-old daughter. What no one tells you about grief is how intensely LONELY it is- you may not be the only one who lost someone but you are the only one who lost that specific someone, and it can make you feel completely isolated in your pain. This is why I think having support during the grieving process is super important.
About my Loss:
I went through a pregnancy loss with my son in 2010. It was the most traumatic experience of my life, and I still grieve him immensely.
More recently, my father passed away in June of 2020. We were extremely close and I don't think the reality of his passing has sunk in yet, but I know when it does it will be devastating.
"Alexandra Tomko -
That is beautiful... thank you for sharing it. I loved reading it. Its horrible that you were assaulted by another man... I'm sorry to hear that it happened. I have to say that, I am amazed by your courage and strength…"
I am not in your situation, but since you have had basically two significant losses (the death of your mother, and the death of a happy marriage), it might be helpful for you to consider seeing a therapist. At the very least, it will give…"
"In about 1.5 months, it will be 8 years since my husband died. For me, the pain has not lessened, nor has the sense of shock. I still find myself sometimes caught short by my disbelief, the sense that this cannot be real. I just re-read my…"