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Permalink Reply by Gail Richardson on May 22, 2009 at 4:22pm

Fred - I know how you are feeling about this - my foster daughter was molested as a young girl and I have often imagined how good it would feel to reek some justice on the pathetic examples of human being that did it. But, then who would look after her and keep her safe from anyone else????
Your wife is right - she needs you, your kids need you and more to the point - You need them!! I hope one day you will be able to see for yourself how karma comes round to bite those sorry so and so's right where it hurts. It WILL happen - I promise, it always does.
Gail

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Permalink Reply by Ann Edmondson on June 4, 2009 at 2:18am

Fred--you are so right-- God did stop you from making a BIG mistake. Vengence is His. However, I doubt it was the death of your daughter that He was truely doing. Bad things happen to good people because of evil actions of others. Stopping you is the level head of your wife (and her stern looks).

Of course there is nothing that says we can't vent the anger (ie., the rantings) we feel and do regarding matters like this. My step-daughter was molested by her mother's boyfriend. When my husband and I found out about it we told the cops to find the S.O.B before we did. Thank God, they did. Listen to your wife--sounds like she may have the level head in this one.

Even Christ Himself ranted in anger in the Temple Courtyard when he called people thieves and money mongers (paraphrasing this one). So vent all you need to--I'll listen if no one else will............~Ann

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Permalink Reply by Robert Tinsley on June 24, 2009 at 9:41pm

i dont think god took her to stop you because as a loveing father you would have stopped yourself think about would you rather kill and take yourself away from your angel i think god neededtheir help somewhere else and the anger you feel is justified but if you did know wouldnt you rather see them go to prison with all the fathers who made bad choices and will never get to hold their children again due to their own mistakes i can promise you they would deal more justice to your child than you taking yourself away and ive learned not to qestion god only know that he needed them more than us i lost four in nine months so while i do not know exactly how you feel i can understand your pain i hope god helps you as he has me and the anger will never go away but try to remember all the good you can and know your child is looking over you right now ((((((((((hugs from one dad to the next)))))))))))))))))))))

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Permalink Reply by Janice Shapiro on September 3, 2009 at 3:02pm

hey fred. maybe so. we'll never really know the reason G-d took our children. but yes, maybe her soul had to go for a very specific purpose. you are angry. angry at what happened to her. and angry that she has passed on. but you sound like a good person, with a really good person in your wife too. stick together. do your best in life to do your daughter honour, and to do her proud.
best, jan

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