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The battle started last night,unable to get much sleep.Tossing and turning upset stomach,nervous.clouding thinking.This is my 3rd or 4th weekend alone,lastweekend was a total washout,so I'm hoping this weekend is a little better.Am really struggling to cry even through I feel very sad.I do seem to be very choked up with an intense headache.Maybe I just syke myself out on the weekends.Have a hard time getting use to not being able to do things with my wife that we enjoyed for 19 years.I know things will change and I pray I will like the person I change into.Thanks for listening
Hey Vince, I been in you shoes and all I can tell you is that things will get better although it may not seem that way now.. I missed my late wife so much in the days and weeks following her death I often wondered if I'd ever see the light of day but it came. I know grieving really sucks at times and I often found myself just crying for no reason other than I missed her.
May I suggest taking a walk around the block and try to remember all the good times. Remember to breath too..
Thanks for the advice,but let me ask you a question?The memories I have don't have any sound to them.I mean I don't remember her voice,just remember events and her smile the most.Have you experienced anything like that.
I can still hear hear her lovely voice in my memories. When she would leave me a voice mail on my cell she would always say " Hey its me" as if I didn't know who was calling. I miss that a lot but can still hear it.
Vince - it's still SO early so be very compassionate, patient and tender with yourself. Try to get outside, if you can. You can grieve and live at the same time...you can grieve and still do things that you enjoyed with your wife...it's okay; it's life going on, even with great sadness. Take care and let life happen to you...you will be alright. As always, wishing you all the best. Lynne
Lynne,Thanks so much for the encouragement at some point I'll be able to help someone as you guys are helping me .right now, seems like I have more questions than answers.I long for the time when thoughts of my wife brings a smile to my lips before it brings a tear to my eyes.Thank you so much for your help.