I have been feeling very lonely and very depressed lately.  Old friends are busy with their lives.  Even my children are busy.   My daughter lives 45 minutes away.   She is busy with her new house.  My son is 10 minutes away.  He calls and invites me to go places with them.  I miss the friends that Joe and I had together.  They seem to be busy when I call them., so I quit calling.   My sister in law is very good about calling me.   She comes once a month with her husband to stay overnight.  I'm thankful for that.  It's hard for me because I don't drive, and cannot get out of the house when I want to.  I'm thankful for this sight, because I need to talk.

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I'm sorry you're feeling so down.  It's good that you have your children and your sister-in-law, but no one can take the place of your husband.  As far as your friends, it's quite possible that they just don't know what to do. People don't know how to deal with death, and it makes them think about their own mortality and that of their loved ones. I don't know your friends, so I don't know if that's what's happening, but it is what often happens. Maybe you could write letters to a couple of your closest friends, telling them that you miss them, and that you know Joe's death was hard on them too, and that they might not know what to say to you, but that they are important to you and that you want to maintain the friendships.  

Thank you bluebird for the kind words.  That's a great idea to write to our friends.   I still send Christmas cards, and birthday cards, but I should send a card once in awhile too. Thank you for the advice.

I'm glad I was able to help a bit.  :)

I know how you feel  I too can not drive so I'm always home ALONE most of the day.  Everyone says if you need me call, but when I do they always have something going on, so I hate to impose.  I just keep to myself most of the time.  

I too, have been feeling extremely lonely for the last year. I thank God for my female Black Labrador Retriever, who my Mom loved SO much! She's all I have! And all I want! :-)

Yet, I feel we BOTH would benefit from being around people more. We have one aunt still living here. All siblings live out of town. And I went through a breakup 2 years ago that is still not finalized. And it seems more and more people have been distancing themselves from me and not responding to my texts and calls. I do NOT sit there and talk about all my grief and depression! I just need someone to be there for me and comfort me. My dog does it for me always! I am so tired of us being alone and having to do EVERYTHING myself! It is wearing me out mentally, physically and emotionally.

ANY thoughts are welcome! :-)

It must be hard not being able to drive.  When I’m not sleeping because of the depression, I feel the need to get out of the house.  But then when I’m out I’m alone anyway and see other people with their families and that is sad.  People are getting tired of me stopping over.  I do sit there and talk about my grief if I do talk.  That’s the only thing on my mind.  And now my Dad has cancer and I can’t take care of him.  I can’t do everything, I have trouble doing anything with the grief, depression, and anxiety.  It’s a living hell without the person you love most.

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