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Did your loved ones tell you they saw are did they talk to loved ones that passed b4 them?
My mom woke up one day and asked me where her dad went..I said mom what are you talking about. She said my dad was just here..where did he go. he saved me from dying. I didn't doubt she saw him but he had passed on Dec.09 I told her mom grandpa died hes gone..she started crying. she had forgotten he died. I felt so bad.
A week before she passed her sister karen who ended up passing 5 days b4 mom..came to visit my mom I walked in on my mom talking with someone but I couldn't see anyone in the room I asked her she said my sister Karen you know Karen right? Aunt Karen had been on life support for yrs. Her family got called and said that she had no brain activity so they pulled the plug. I have no doubt in my mind she came to my mom to lead the way for her and so did my grandpa but my mom the fighter she was fought it till her body gave up for her :'(
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Permalink Reply by BS on
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Before my Grandma passed away in December 2010, she was talking to my Uncle (Her Brother) who died a couple years before she did.
How are you Melissa?
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Permalink Reply by Melissa Broome on
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I'm ok today but that can change at any time. Sorry I didn't reply on chat when you said hello I was afk. How are you BS?
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I have my days, this month is the month that my Grandma started getting sick, then her 1 year anniversary is coming up so its hard.
I find it so interesting how our loved ones that are about to leave us talk to other loved ones that have gone before us. They can also sense death is near for them.
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So sorry, I too find it very interesting my mother used to look at certain sides of her bed I thought she was looking at me..But she was looking above me. I am sure she had someone trying to guide her but she fought to stay with us as hard as she could. I miss her so much
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Permalink Reply by Kris Baclawski on
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My sister who was my mom's primary caregiver related a story which occurred just about a week before Mom passed away. Mom was sleeping a lot but wanted to be awakened when my sister left for work. As she awakened on this day, Mom mistook my sister for her mother (our grandmother) and said something about needing to get ready for school. My sister just thought this was "senility" on Mom's part at the time, but in retrospect is thinking differently. Pretty symbolic, perhaps?
There is a family history apparently of "precognition"--her mother abruptly sold one set of cemetary plots and then purchased another set next to her in-laws. Her mother also had some precognitive abilities though I was never able to ask my mom about them.
Today in Michigan is the first day of fire arms deer hunting season. Mom loved to hunt--accompanying her dad when she was too young to carry a rifle and then shooting her first buck at 13 years old. During the depression, venison was a welcome source of meat. She continued to hunt into her late 70's and early 80's though by then I think she mostly enjoyed sitting in a blind and watching the wildlife around her. I hope she's hunting with her dad and brother in the afterlife.
It's been almost five months since she passed away from complications of an emergency surgery. I still have flashbacks lf the events of that horrible weekend in June. In less than 48 hours, she went into the hospital with a colon bleedout; had surgery to stop the bleeding; and then had a massive stroke in the early hours of Monday. No chance to say goodby or how much I loved her while she was still conscious.
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So sorry for your loss. I know, my mom was only 53 she had one of those colon bleed outs but she was on Hospice end of life care.. SO we just had to keep mopping up the blood. I didn't tell my mom goodbye either I was the last that she opened her eyes to and when I left the room just 15 minutes later she passed. I didn't tell her good bye I didn't want to say good bye to my mom. I will see her again..It's not good bye it's see you later :)
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Thanks for your kind words and the reminder about seeing her later. My older sister has sensed Mom being around...and just after I posted earlier in the week, I "heard" Mom "thanking" me for some of the nurturing things I tended to do for her--giving her back and neck rubs, crocheting leg warmers, and spending time to listen to her.
Some days, as you know, are better than others. My 90 yr old dad had two blocked heart arteries less than 2 weeks ago but is doing tremendously well following the placement of 2 stents. Sometimes it just seems that somewhere there's another shoe ready to drop at anytime.
My form of therapy is in part trying to find meaningful things to do to fill the hole left behind by Mom's passing. My older sister and I have agreed to finish Mom's autobiography. As the self-appointed family historian and genealogist, this should be very interesting to plug away at during the long Michigan winter. There are trunks full of letters written to and from Mom to her parents, sisters, cousins, starting back as far and the mid 1930's.
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Kris, That is so great you have those letters, I was just wondering about my family a few months ago. I wish I would have asked my mom more questions, About family but I thought I had time. My grandma has dementia really bad so she doesn't remember much. One thing I will never take for granted anymore is time with my loved ones..Look my mom is still teaching me things even after she's gone. Every day is precious. I will treasure my memories forever of my mother and her pictures that I have.. Because there won't be anymore but I'll hold on for dear life of what we had and shared.
Big hugs to you!
your friend Melissa
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Permalink Reply by Anne Delina Johnson on
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My best friend, saw her grandfather frequenetly, he would speak to her, he passed 20 years ago, she also saw her great aunt, and a few others. It gave her a bit of comfort during her final days of cancer, but gave me despair as I had hoped they were there to help her, not take her from me. :(
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yes, it comforted me seeing my mom talking to people that weren't there that I couldn't see. I definitely was comforted by them as well. I'm glad she wasn't crossing over by herself. But after she did time and time again I wish I could go with her.
Take care of yourself!
Melissa
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Thank you! it was and is a comfort knowing she's with everyone she loved and missed a great deal. I am feeling her loss deeply as this is her favorite holiday, and her birthday is on Dec 11th.
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Awww I'm sorry, My sons birthday is December 11th He will be 2 yrs old. I hope your able to find a special way to celebrate your dear friends birthday in her memory. April 30th was my mom's 54th Birthday..But I was too upset this yr. Next yr I will bake her a cake and send a carnation or daffodil up on some balloons for her :) she loved flowers and those were her favorites! take care :)
Melissa
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