Well today was the day after our Thanksgiving weekend.  At first I didnt think I could handle hosting the dinner knowing my husband wouldnt be at the head of the table, and who would carve the turkey.  Not to mention that our sons place would be empty again too.  He died March 2010.  First our daughter and her family called and they wouldnt be coming home this year for financial reasons.  They got a little behind during Toms illness with all the trips back and forth and then our daughter stayed with us at the end.  Basically she didnt work for over 2 months.  Then our oldest son got sent on a fire crew to Alberta and was not supposed to be home by Sunday.  Next it was our youngest sons family.  They decided to go down to Vancouver for the weekend and spend it with his wifes sisters.  So that left my oldest sons wife and their two kids, and my sons widow.  I figured I could handle making dinner for just the five of us.  I bought all the groceries and tried to get some decorating done.  On Friday my oldest son came home from the fires in Alberta, 3 days earlier than expected.  Yeah, I would have one of our children for dinner.  On Saturday my youngest son called and said they had changed their mind and could they come on Sunday.  Of course I said yes.  By then I was actually looking forward to having them around for the day.  But I had to go buy a bigger turkey!  Saturday night there was a knock on the door and it was our oldest granddaughter.  She had ridden the bus all the way from where she lives with her mom to spend Thanksgiving with me.  So on Sunday at the dinner table was 5 grandchildren, 2 sons, 3 daughter-in-laws, and a very thankful me who started out thinking it would be too hard to do it this year and ended up being happy God knows how to ease us into doing the right thing in the end.  Now if only He can help me through Christmas.

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