Brother Did You Know that:

At age 40 you would die from a Severe Traumatic Brain Injury due to you having a seizure and falling.

Why? Because you were supposedly going to a rehab but instead you chose the city mission. Were you confused? We will never know.

Your alcoholism stole everything from you. Your wife and children became secondary and they had to leave because of it. You were overwhelmed and depressed but your alcoholism would not allow you to think clearly enough to see the path of destruction.

By the time your family knew of your alcoholism it was too late. We tried helping you but what we didnt realize is that you could not abruptly stop drinking. We sent you to detox several times but you still would not seek help due to your pride. You had to go to the private rehab residential programs. But because your assets were frozen, you didnt have the funds to go.

You alienated all of your family and friends. At some point we all gave up trying to help. This haunts me.

Your funeral was filled to capacity. 300+ people came to show their support. We heard many stories of the heroic things you did as an accomplished firefighter.

Fire trucks came and parked outside the funeral home in shifts. I stood and looked around and was deeply grateful but yet saddened at the thought that maybe you never knew the support system you had. Were you too afraid to be honest and seek help because it would make you seem weak?

We loved you dearly brother!

Views: 52

Comment

You need to be a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community to add comments!

Join Online Grief Support - A Social Community

Latest Activity

Jennifer replied to Robin H's discussion Lost my Partner who wasn't my partner in the group Being the Other Woman/Other Man
"Welcome to the group.  I lost my partner on February 5th this year, so it's still pretty raw for me too.  Reading through your story really touched a chord with me.  Like you, I didn't think I would ever find a group like…"
Thursday
Jennifer joined Cathy Richardson's group
Thumbnail

Being the Other Woman/Other Man

This is for anyone who has lost their lover to death and you were the other woman/other man in their life. We have to grieve in silence. I can't find any support groups and feel like I'm the only one going through this situationSee More
Thursday
Jennifer and William Gardener are now friends
Thursday
dream moon JO B commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"i miss mom so mush i do"
Apr 11
Susan E Marshall commented on Susan E Marshall's photo
Thumbnail

My husband

"Thanks, Rosie. (I have memory problems and forgot about this site. I'm just seeing this now. April 6th)"
Apr 6
Natasha updated their profile
Apr 5
Angie Rowland joined Rita-Cecile's group
Thumbnail

LESBIAN ..GAY 2 SPIRITED loss and grief

Anyone who has lost their gay partner..soon finds that there may be a few things that are different...such as sorting through things and feeling like an intruder because it is also family stuff etcSee More
Apr 3
Speed Weasel posted a blog post

Assumptions

An assumption is an unexamined belief: what is thought to be true without ever really realizing that we think in that way. For better or worse, understanding starts with entertaining the idea that something is true.  Truly profound thoughts generally come to light from the relaxation of these (flawed) assumptions.  This is where I find myself today...Perhaps, one of the more significant drivers to pushing down the loss and grief at the time of the accident, ignoring it and mindlessly walking…See More
Mar 13

© 2024   Created by Ninja.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service