Writing things down in this blog has helped me.  It helps to get things out, whether you go to therapy, or just write.  Here, I say things I'd never really say to anyone.  I never told Sue's sisters about the night she went into the hospital, mainly because I don't think I could get through it.  I've told them enough without getting into details no one has asked for.  Maybe, at some point, I will want to try therapy, but not right now.  It's been a long 3 months....I had to go through…

One thing that I know now is what I've lost. Not my loss.... my wife....but all the things she gave me that I no longer have.  First is her love.  The most awesome, incredible, unbelievable love I've ever known.  A dream come true if there's ever been one.  I don't know what I did to deserve her.  She was always there for me.  When my ex decided she couldn't handle our son, Sue didn't blink.  Of course he could live with us.  Sue wanted him, no questions asked, no…

One of the most frustrating things for me is the way grief comes and goes.  There are times where I'm not wanting to do anything but miss Sue, and then there are times when I can string a few days in a row where I'm feeling a bit better about things, and I'm actually productive...well, maybe not as focused as I should be, but productive none the less.  I just hate the way it's just so random.... I never know when I wake up if my grief will overtake me or not.  I have no control over it yet,…

To introduce myself, I'm 48, I have a 16 year old son who is autistic and a 14 year old daughter from a previous marriage.  My ex-wife decided she didn't want to be in a marriage any longer, so we divorced in 2005.  She passed away from complications from the Swine Flu in 2010.  Sue welcomed my kids in our home and treated them like they were her own from the start.  Sue's story is what one would call "complicated".  She was divorced and came from a big family.  The years before we met were…

I've read that writing can help, so......

It will be 3 months on Saturday, although I guess She really left us 2 days earlier.  I don't really think she was here for those 2 days she was kept breathing on the ventilator.  We had just bought our first house, and we were in the middle of moving in.  She got to spend exactly one night here.  It was Halloween, and I was handing out candy to the neighborhood kids.  Sue was a service provider for the County mental health service.  If you or…