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V. R. replied to Roslyn's discussion learning to cope with my loss
"Hi Ros, no, I didn't know about your injury. I'm so very sorry to hear about it, but don't worry, I'm sure this has nothing to do with your headaches, since it happened two weeks ago. Of course, you feel more vulnerable now…"
Saturday
V. R. replied to Roslyn's discussion learning to cope with my loss
"Dear Ros, It must be a great comfort for you having your Pete's favorite tree as your special private place where you can talk to him. I, too, had my hubby cremated (he had expressed this desire a couple of times). Neither of us thought it…"
Thursday
V. R. and Linda Stenberg are now friends
Jan 16
V. R. left a comment for Linda Stenberg
"Just wanted to say, Linda, you have posted really lovely photos.  I understand when you say you can't imagine a future without your soulmate. I try to convince myself by saying that the fact that I still can't accept my loss is…"
Jan 15
V. R. left a comment for JOYCE F MARSHALL
"Hello Joyce, hope your operation went well. Wishing you all the best for a speedy recovery.  Enza"
Jan 15
V. R. replied to Roslyn's discussion learning to cope with my loss
"Hello, Ros, fortunately, so far we have escaped snow, but January isn't over yet and there's the whole of February which is the worst of all. We've been having sunny days but extremely cold, ice in the mornings, but I prefer this…"
Jan 15
Linda Stenberg left a comment for V. R.
"Thank you so much for your comment.  So sorry to hear about your husband dying from a heart attack.  I completely can understand your pain.  It has been about 11 months now for me, and it still feels like yesterday.  I don't…"
Jan 11
V. R. left a comment for Linda Stenberg
"So sorry to hear about your loss. I understand how devastated you must be, and such unfortunate circumstances. I lost my love, suddenly, unexpectedly from a heart attack, 14 months ago. One minute he was here, the next he was gone. My heart goes out…"
Jan 11
V. R. replied to Roslyn's discussion learning to cope with my loss
"Hi, Ros, how are you? You sound like such a hard worker, using your mower for so long and only stopping because of the rain. I totally understand your dedication and determination to keep your property in perfect condition like you've always…"
Jan 11
V. R. replied to Roslyn's discussion learning to cope with my loss
"Hello Ros, hope you're doing well. When I read about your supermarket visit, I wanted to cry because this always happens to me, too. I've had to change supermarket and I tend to buy different items I've never bought before, but when I…"
Jan 7
V. R. replied to Roslyn's discussion learning to cope with my loss
"Ros, I just have to say: "Wow". You'll never believe this, but Islington is exactly where I was born and where my parents and I lived for 26 years(in the Holloway district). A real coincidence, considering London is huge, I think…"
Jan 5
V. R. replied to Roslyn's discussion learning to cope with my loss
"This is the 2nd part of my post Ros, sorry, because I tried so many times to write, but I kept losing it all,so I end up forgetting what I wanted to say! Anyway, yes, I agree with you, I would never want to live in an appt in town/city, and to think…"
Jan 3
Roslyn left a comment for V. R.
"Hi Enza You sound so determined to carry on your husbands legacy regarding your property:  good for you.  That is how I feel too.  I feel the baton has been handed to me if you will, to be the next caretaker.  We didn't put…"
Jan 2
Roslyn left a comment for V. R.
"Hi Enza Maybe your FIL really didn't know what he should do?  But I do understand your irritation, I really can feel for you. Yesterday I mowed for 3 hours until it rained so hard I had to stop.  While ever I'm doing that I feel…"
Dec 31, 2021
V. R. replied to Roslyn's discussion learning to cope with my loss
"Hi, Ros, I've just come back from a walk on our property and believe me, I had the exactly the same reaction as you. Maybe it's because only me and my husband spent time together there, my kids have never been really interested. I suppose…"
Dec 29, 2021
V. R. replied to Roslyn's discussion learning to cope with my loss
"Hi, Ros, I'm now trying to write on the comment page, because I keep losing my post, it's already happened 3 times now.. I hope you are well. Glad Christmas is over, we've just got new year to get thru now. You shouldn't be mad…"
Dec 28, 2021

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At 6:43pm on January 11, 2022, Linda Stenberg said…

Thank you so much for your comment.  So sorry to hear about your husband dying from a heart attack.  I completely can understand your pain.  It has been about 11 months now for me, and it still feels like yesterday.  I don't cry as often as I did in the beginning but I still think about him all the time.  It's hard to even imagine a future now.  I'm just curious how you have you coped with the unexpected loss, if you feel like sharing.  

At 3:29pm on January 2, 2022, Roslyn said…

Hi Enza

You sound so determined to carry on your husbands legacy regarding your property:  good for you.  That is how I feel too.  I feel the baton has been handed to me if you will, to be the next caretaker.  We didn't put in all this work to see the property go to wrack and ruin.  It gives me purpose and I know you feel the same too.  I believe it will make us stronger in the long run.

With all this manual work and my adrenaline working over time I have lost a few kgs in weight, which hasn't hurt me.  I feel better physically, but I have a way to go yet emotionally.

How lovely to have such a nice neighbour who is prepared to come over and help you.  It makes a huge difference doesn't it?  Do you have many friends who make regular contact?

I have a couple that do, that's what counts I think.  Others say a lot but I think it just makes them feel ok. When you suffer a death like we have, you soon find out who is genuine and who isn't.  Often it's the ones you think you can count on, that you finally realise, you can't.

It has been constant here for the last week with rain showers.  The grass is growing at the rate of knots and in between the rain I mow:  either by push mower or ride on.  If I'm not doing that I'm pruning low lying small tree limbs or whipper snipping grass and edges.  If I was in a small apartment/unit I think I would go crazy.

I won't wish you a happy new year, but I will wish you one with lots of love, peace and as much happiness as you can muster knowing that your love will always be by your side, no matter what.

hugs

Ros

At 1:42pm on December 31, 2021, Roslyn said…

Hi Enza

Maybe your FIL really didn't know what he should do?  But I do understand your irritation, I really can feel for you.

Yesterday I mowed for 3 hours until it rained so hard I had to stop.  While ever I'm doing that I feel at peace.   But at the same time, just like you, so many places on our property just bring me to tears because of the memories I have.

I woke this morning to a new year and of course I cried.  I get so fed up with crying and as you know, all the "what if's" just spring to mind again.  Things I can never, ever change.

The bbq was nice.  Marty and Joel who have been like adopted sons to me come over every weekend to help in some way or whenever I need help with something.  They were here along with another young family.  The young family have been kind too, but they aren't someone I would have here often.  Young children who aren't properly supervised I find annoying, especially now.

I was thinking of you this morning as I woke, knowing that you would soon be into your NY.  I wish you peace.

Ros

At 3:13pm on December 20, 2021, JOYCE F MARSHALL said…

Thank you for the kind words. If prayers are answered everything with be fine.

  

At 7:49am on December 20, 2021, JOYCE F MARSHALL said…

Thank you.  It was just him and me.  Now I am facing a hip replacement on Jan 4th.  I put it off during his illness which lasted 5 months.  I am getting very afraid of the surgery and could use one off his hugs about now.

At 8:47am on December 17, 2021, JOYCE F MARSHALL said…

Thank You.  I know things will get better.  We were together 37 years.  My whole house seems empty.  I am trying but the holidays are hard.

 
 
 

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Roslyn replied to Roslyn's discussion learning to cope with my loss
"Hi Enza Yesterday my headaches were bad so I managed to get an appointment with a doctor who was on call at my local surgery, since it was a Saturday morning. As soon as I was in her room I just started to cry.  I felt so silly, but being there…"
Saturday
V. R. replied to Roslyn's discussion learning to cope with my loss
"Hi Ros, no, I didn't know about your injury. I'm so very sorry to hear about it, but don't worry, I'm sure this has nothing to do with your headaches, since it happened two weeks ago. Of course, you feel more vulnerable now…"
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Roslyn replied to Roslyn's discussion learning to cope with my loss
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