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From the Heart

What does success in coping with death mean to you? Does it mean you can now walk your dog through the neighborhood and actually look up and smile as people go by?  Does it mean you went and bought flowers for the oak barrel that has been neglected for the past year? Does it mean you made chocolate chip cookies for the first time in God knows how long?  Or did you just go for a ride without crying or talk to your kids about something stupid and inconsequential?      There are no secret answers…See More
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From the Heart

Losing anyone sets you on the path of going through stages that only you can determine. However, the promise that you will get through them and come out of the tunnel into the sunlight is somewhere in the back of your mind.  Most people come through in time.  The promise of being happy is so alluring that it cannot help but generate an interest in moving forward.~Mike Spirit Systematic return of the spiritis shocking and rewarding to the mind. Freeing negative forceshelps to reverse the…See More
Apr 16
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From the Heart

First, I had to learn to love myself and to define myself individually without the “couple-ness” that was so easy to hide behind in the past.  I had to set the boundaries I was willing to work within, and most importantly, picture what I was supposed to be like when I became the new me.  I know now that I was functioning without a base of my own.  I believe grief’s job is to knock out your foundation so you never feel steady on your feet.  When that happens, though, confusion, fright, and…See More
Apr 8
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From the Heart

For me, when Barb died, it was like a light went out. I remember feeling like every cell in my body was drained of energy. I felt lifeless, non-emotional, cold, and hopeless, rather like the marionette that hung in my closet when I was a kid. My formwas here, but nothing within me was working.                                ~Mike  You Are  You are my lightyou are my soulyou are me.You are rightyou are wrongyou are me.You are loveyou are fearyou are me.You are my lightyou are my soulyou are…See More
Mar 30
Mike posted a blog post

From the Heart

Remembering back to the day she died is like a brilliant flash of light. Barb died of a massive heart attack brought on by complications from Type 2 diabetes. To me, diabetes is a very destructive, heat-seeking missile. It weakens the body into  submission. Even though Barb had been diagnosed only a couple of years before her death, she was already following most of the prescribed medical regimen for patients with the condition. There were so many pills for so many things going wrong in her…See More
Mar 18
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About Me:
I am a Author of a newly released book entitled "My Compass, Our Story-a journey through death and life." I am also a certified grief counselor which I took on after the death of my wife.
About my Loss:
My wife died eight years ago after a short struggle with diabetes. We were married for 34 years.
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From the Heart

What does success in coping with death mean to you? Does it mean you can now walk your dog through the neighborhood and actually look up and smile as people go by?  Does it mean you went and bought flowers for the oak barrel that has been neglected for the past year? Does it mean you made chocolate chip cookies for the first time in God knows how long?  Or did you just go for a ride without crying or talk to your kids about something stupid and inconsequential?

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Posted on April 24, 2017 at 10:40am

From the Heart

Losing anyone sets you on the path of going through stages that only you can determine. However, the promise that you will get through them and come out of the tunnel into the sunlight is somewhere in the back of your mind.  Most people come through in time.  The promise of being happy is so alluring that it cannot help but generate an interest in moving forward.

~Mike

 

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Posted on April 16, 2017 at 12:19pm — 1 Comment

From the Heart

First, I had to learn to love myself and to define myself individually without the “couple-ness” that was so easy to hide behind in the past.  I had to set the boundaries I was willing to work within, and most importantly, picture what I was supposed to be like when I became the new me.  I know now that I was functioning without a base of my own.  I believe grief’s job is to knock out your foundation so you never feel steady on your feet.  When that happens, though, confusion, fright, and…

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Posted on April 8, 2017 at 12:53pm

From the Heart

For me, when Barb died, it was like a light went out. I remember feeling like every cell in my body was drained of energy. I felt lifeless, non-emotional, cold, and hopeless, rather like the marionette that hung in my closet when I was a kid. My form

was here, but nothing within me was working.

                                ~Mike

 

 

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