Efren Loredo
  • Male
  • Hobbs, NM
  • United States
Share
  • Blog Posts (1)
  • Discussions
  • Groups
  • Photos
  • Photo Albums
  • Videos

Gifts Received

Gift

Efren Loredo has not received any gifts yet

Give a Gift

 

Efren Loredo's Page

Latest Activity

Amanda left a comment for Efren Loredo
"I think finding people who have had the kind of experience you had is challenging. There aren't really many places dedicated to children who have had the experience of losing both parents for very different reasons. I am speaking from personal…"
Jan 24
bluebird commented on Efren Loredo's blog post Finding it harder to deal with my parents murder/suicide as I get older
"I understand; I haven't seen a therapist for much the same reason -- nothing they can say or do will bring my husband back to life, nor undo the devastation his death has made of my life. However, I have seen a therapist in the past for other…"
Dec 31
Efren Loredo commented on Efren Loredo's blog post Finding it harder to deal with my parents murder/suicide as I get older
"bluebird thank you for taking the time to read my blog and for your support"
Dec 31, 2017
Efren Loredo updated their profile
Dec 31, 2017
Efren Loredo commented on Efren Loredo's blog post Finding it harder to deal with my parents murder/suicide as I get older
"No I have never gotten or seeked professional help. They way I see it is their is nothing anyone can tell me that's going to help me unless they can bring my parents back. I guess I'm set in my ways."
Dec 31, 2017
bluebird commented on Efren Loredo's blog post Finding it harder to deal with my parents murder/suicide as I get older
"Of course you miss your mother dearly. I am so sorry you had to go through such a horrible thing, especially as such a young child. Have you ever gotten any help in dealing with this? "
Dec 30, 2017
Efren Loredo posted a blog post

It's becoming more difficult dealingl with my parents murder/suicide as I get older

My name is Efren I am now 43 years of age. When I was 10 years old I witnessed my father murder my mother then take his own life. This happened 33 years ago but I'm having trouble coping with it now more than ever. I've been really depressed as of lately and not being myself. It seems to hit me during the holidays but every year it seems to be getting to me more and more. Some might say I'm feeling sorry for myself and to get over it already, easier said than done. I'm just look to hear from…See More
Dec 30, 2017
Efren Loredo is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Dec 30, 2017

Profile Information

About Me:
I'm originally from San Jose CA
About my Loss:
In 1984 I witnessed my father murder my mother then kill his self.

Efren Loredo's Blog

It's becoming more difficult dealingl with my parents murder/suicide as I get older

My name is Efren I am now 43 years of age. When I was 10 years old I witnessed my father murder my mother then take his own life. This happened 33 years ago but I'm having trouble coping with it now more than ever. I've been really depressed as of lately and not being myself. It seems to hit me during the holidays but every year it seems to be getting to me more and more. Some might say I'm feeling sorry for myself and to get over it already, easier said than done. I'm just look to hear from… Continue

Posted on December 30, 2017 at 4:30pm — 4 Comments

Comment Wall (1 comment)

You need to be a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community to add comments!

Join Online Grief Support - A Social Community

At 4:24pm on January 24, 2018, Amanda said…

I think finding people who have had the kind of experience you had is challenging. There aren't really many places dedicated to children who have had the experience of losing both parents for very different reasons. I am speaking from personal experience. When I was 1 and a half, my father murdered my mother and then tried to either kill himself or convince others they had both come to harm by others. He survived and was imprisoned for life. Although I was not old enough to remember the murder, I was in the car at the time. As I have gotten older, I wonder how who I am today was affected by that loss. I can never know for sure, but I know I have been. It is a hard thing to come to terms with the things you go through in life knowing your mother will never experience them with you. It is also so conflicting to know someone who is the other half of you is the reason. I am still rather young and I struggle with the idea of having a child knowing the mental health issues that likely contributed to the murder and those that I have that are similar. It scares me. I miss the life I could have had, but there is nothing I can do to bring her back. I cherish her photos and writing. Her items that I have. A good therapist would never tell you to get over what happened. It may however, help you come to terms with the fact that being sad and wasting your life looking back will never bring your parents back. You cannot be the martyr and be filled with guilt constantly to revive a parent who is gone. If you want to remember your mother....do it. But think that she would never want to have died just for you to feel the way you are all the time. I bet she would want you to remember her fondly, lovingly and have a life that you love, that is full because she never got that chance. I hope some of what I said helps you. I stand by the therapist. Another piece of advice you can take or leave....if you don't feel the therapist is helping you don't be afraid to try another. Just like a healthcare provider, your should feel like you are getting better or going in a good direction for you. You won't hurt their feelings if it isn't a good match for you. Sorry for the lengthy comment. Good luck!

 
 
 

Latest Activity

Marie D commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Hi Brett, I am here, still struggling with deep depression. I need your and others advice, how do you handle Mother’s Day? This will be the first one since Mom passed on Christmas Day. I am overcome with grief, and dread just thinking about…"
37 minutes ago
Madeleine replied to Madeleine's discussion What would you do if you could have your lost loved one back for just five minutes?
"Thank you - I totally agree. They never really leave us."
50 minutes ago
Madeleine replied to Madeleine's discussion What would you do if you could have your lost loved one back for just five minutes?
"Hi Morgan, I'm so very sorry for your loss and heartbreak. It makes me wonder if asking people to write to their lost one on my website is just too much for many. I really hope people's words can make readers feel less alone in their grief…"
51 minutes ago
morgan replied to Madeleine's discussion What would you do if you could have your lost loved one back for just five minutes?
"Madeleine, what would I do if I could have my husband back for just five minutes? My first reaction would be to run into his arms, hug him and then make mad passionate love like we did so many times and then I would ask him if I could take the pills…"
2 hours ago
dream moon JO B updated their profile
6 hours ago
dream moon JO B replied to Madeleine's discussion What would you do if you could have your lost loved one back for just five minutes?
"noy let go but i no ther is afrer lifess coz thy can vist us is m ush is thy need 2 esplyyy wen we need thm "
6 hours ago
dream moon JO B commented on Jesse's Mom's group Signs from Our Loved Ones
"lst 4 wks iv bean goin 2 spirtalstt churshes lot of pepepel had mesagess off lovesd 1s thy hav evn off e pepeepl it die ovr 60 or 70 or80 yrs go "
6 hours ago
Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"My sister kept some of my mom's voicemail to her. There is no way that I could listen to it. She also took some video footage of her while she was on Hospice. Seeing those would be very painful. Like you, looking through a photo album is so…"
13 hours ago
Crystal K commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"This is just so hard and I know we are all going through it... I just wish they told me it was going to hurt this much- I would've spent every minute with my mom and learned everything about her :( "
18 hours ago
Crystal K commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Thank you Brett. I do try to honor her but it is so painful.  I attended church service yesterday. I think I did pretty well.  No unexpected outbursts. But then I came home and found an old album of photos, saw a picture of me and my mom…"
18 hours ago
AnneJ. commented on Virginia G's blog post Post traumatic stress disorder
"Virginia, personally I am convinced, looking back, that my brain put up a shield to protect my mind from the devastating scene of my husband of 20 years dropping to his death in the shower. I'm still 99% nuts and that's the truth.…"
yesterday
Madeleine posted a discussion

What would you do if you could have your lost loved one back for just five minutes?

Hi, I'm new to this site and would love to share my new project inspired by the loss of my mom 24 years ago - www.yourjustfiveminutes.com.Just Five Minutes was created to help those dealing with grief reconnect to their lost loved one, either by dreaming the impossible, or by simply reading other peoples' words who may be experiencing a similar sense of loss as you.It asks one question: 'What would you do if... came…See More
yesterday
Victoira Robinson joined Katherine Ellis's group
Thumbnail

Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.See More
yesterday
Victoira Robinson joined Jesse's Mom's group
yesterday
Victoira Robinson joined Karen's group
Thumbnail

I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....
yesterday
Madeleine updated their profile
yesterday
Kelly Johnson joined Jon-Paul Ackerman's group
yesterday
dream moon JO B commented on Jarvis's blog post After Death Communication
"sum tims u bestt of goin 2 a spirtlshh churshh u r "
Sunday
dream moon JO B commented on Jarvis's blog post After Death Communication
Sunday
dream moon JO B replied to dream moon JO B's discussion mad at god
"im begin 2 lern anot o sid  i am mor thn "
Sunday

© 2018   Created by Jarvis.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service