"Dear bluebird, No, no one who has ever lost a cherished loved one can understand our loss. I used to mean well and try to comfort others, but I still had my David and could not possibly know. And yes, I do believe in an afterlife. Dave was a very…"
"I've found this site to be helpful, too, in that at least I know that some of the people here understand somewhat what this hell is like for me, because they are in similar situations. I don't think that people who still have their…"
"Thank you bluebird,
It has become so necessary to connect with all the kind people here. "Hell" - can any other word describe this place with "No Exit?" I'm so sorry about your husband - I too wished I had died with my…"
There are many people here, me included, who understand the sort of loss and pain you are feeling. Not exactly, of course, as this hell is different for each person, but we get it. My husband died five years ago, and I wish I had died with…"
It is so hard, especially after just a month, to lose your love, your everything in life. I lost my beloved partner of 35 years less than 3 months ago. The agony is indescribable - no one understands, or can reach you in this…"
Sorry you're not doing well.
Hopefully the results of your bloodwork will give your provider somewhere to begin with treatment - what do they say?
What kind of work do you do? If you can't do it anymore, aren't…"
"Bless you Richard,
You're pulling all my strings.
I too cry out for my beloved to come for me and not leave me behind; it's been my worst nightmare.
Is there some physical malfunction the reason for your weight gain? What does your…"
I am so sorry for your loss.
My partner of 35 years also died in Sept at the age of 70. My David looked like your father in your profile photo together. It is so painful; we are never ready to let them go - we need…"
My name is David.
I'm new to this site. I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear husband; we do whatever we can find to ease the pain. I too have found that journaling helps; it can be very cathartic.
It is amazing that…"
"I'm so sorry, Richard
The loss of your dear Annette would be more than enough to handle. You also have health and financial problems, and a job you dislike - all so overwhelming.
I understand how you want it all over and be with your…"
"Thank you, Alice
It was so nice of you to send me your kind thoughts. Even though it's been less than 3 months since my David's passing, sometimes I feel as though I have said it all and heard it all. yet the grief and pain live…"
"Hello David, I’m so sorry that you are suffering. It is a completely devastating experience to lose the one you love most. It’s one thing I know about. There are many grieving people on this site who read the posts just to feel…"
There are numerous individuals who find themselves in a situation where they have to plan a funeral for the very first time ever in their lives. As since they have never been asked to be part of a dreary event like this one, being unsure of what to…
"My goodness Maria how awful for you. That must have shaken you to the core. I can relate to the Siamese twins it was the same for us and I fear I'll never experience happiness again.i would settle for contentment but how can that be possible…"
"Hello Maxie, Sharon here. I wasn't blessed with 55 years with my love, we had 46 years together, married at 18 years old. It is 2 years out for me and I miss him so much. I am still going through the days of not getting dressed, not going…"
"Hi Ginger, your loss is so natural. Why should you let go? Don't let go. Keep your memories forever of her. You will never forget her no matter what happens. You are embarking on a journey of many emotions. Most come to terms with their loss.…"
"Thanks, Joe. I appreciate you describing your experience during your accident. It gives me hope that there really is something after this life. My greatest hope which keeps me going and half way sane is that we will be joined again…"
Thanks for your honesty, and I feel the same. Personally, I hate it when people say it is our choice, to look forwards or back, etc, partly because that sounds like they are blaming the bereaved for feeling sad and missing their loves, and…"
"Dear Maxey, How I feel for you and can empathise so much.I ask myself that question How can we have been loved & cherished all those years and then be expected to move on within our lives. I too read inspirational stuff & have a psychiatric…"
Word for word I could have written what you did. I've have the very same thoughts, all of them that you have. I feel the same way. I wish I could give you some positive outlook but I can't. My wife died…"
"I know your pain , my husband and I were like Siamese twins, we were on a holiday in Italy when I woke up to find him dead beside me. My whole world has fallen down , he was and still is the live of my life. I guess this is the ultimate price one…"