"Dear bluebird, No, no one who has ever lost a cherished loved one can understand our loss. I used to mean well and try to comfort others, but I still had my David and could not possibly know. And yes, I do believe in an afterlife. Dave was a very…"
"I've found this site to be helpful, too, in that at least I know that some of the people here understand somewhat what this hell is like for me, because they are in similar situations. I don't think that people who still have their…"
"Thank you bluebird,
It has become so necessary to connect with all the kind people here. "Hell" - can any other word describe this place with "No Exit?" I'm so sorry about your husband - I too wished I had died with my…"
There are many people here, me included, who understand the sort of loss and pain you are feeling. Not exactly, of course, as this hell is different for each person, but we get it. My husband died five years ago, and I wish I had died with…"
It is so hard, especially after just a month, to lose your love, your everything in life. I lost my beloved partner of 35 years less than 3 months ago. The agony is indescribable - no one understands, or can reach you in this…"
Sorry you're not doing well.
Hopefully the results of your bloodwork will give your provider somewhere to begin with treatment - what do they say?
What kind of work do you do? If you can't do it anymore, aren't…"
"Bless you Richard,
You're pulling all my strings.
I too cry out for my beloved to come for me and not leave me behind; it's been my worst nightmare.
Is there some physical malfunction the reason for your weight gain? What does your…"
I am so sorry for your loss.
My partner of 35 years also died in Sept at the age of 70. My David looked like your father in your profile photo together. It is so painful; we are never ready to let them go - we need…"
My name is David.
I'm new to this site. I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear husband; we do whatever we can find to ease the pain. I too have found that journaling helps; it can be very cathartic.
It is amazing that…"
"I'm so sorry, Richard
The loss of your dear Annette would be more than enough to handle. You also have health and financial problems, and a job you dislike - all so overwhelming.
I understand how you want it all over and be with your…"
"Thank you, Alice
It was so nice of you to send me your kind thoughts. Even though it's been less than 3 months since my David's passing, sometimes I feel as though I have said it all and heard it all. yet the grief and pain live…"
"Hello David, I’m so sorry that you are suffering. It is a completely devastating experience to lose the one you love most. It’s one thing I know about. There are many grieving people on this site who read the posts just to feel…"
"You had half your soul ripped out... basically. Of course you're going to struggle.
Most folks just don't get that because they are still fine. They have not been so deeply wounded and have nothing to compare your struggle to.
"I have a rollercoaster. Some days I am fine alone, others I simply need a wife to love on and make stuff for and ask her opinion. That's just how it is. I don't get a choice and folks who constantly tell me "get over it, it's…"
"I have to look forward or I just want to lay down and die. My son needs a dad. He needs a mom too but I can't find a woman who will step up and do that for him.
She died when he was 5 so he didn't know her well. He has not had a mom since…"
"Just got here. Widowed at age 28. It took 18 hours from healthy wife to no more wife. That was nearly 8 years ago. She wanted me to move on and I wanted the same for her if I went first... strange that we had the conversation mere months before her…"
"The dr from the hospital talked to my therapist. I didn’t get any more answers. I am convinced they gave up on her and since I did nothing, I’ll never know if she could have been helped. I can’t fathom why I acted…"
"I feel for you Brett if you are fighting all this alone. A big hug from India.
Last few days were really guilt stricken for me as I was at my hometown and all memories of my mother's treatment were refreshed and it really pains.
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Kim and Joeann joined Online Grief Support - A Social Community
"It only rains here when I want to go to the pool.
I am worried about Bluebell as well. I think she would have chimed in by now if she was feeling well.
I had a selfish moment today. I actually have a lot of those. I was at the store and I started…"
strange, I had and continue to have similar problems regarding what to say about myself in this context, but somehow I stumbled here after my husband's death and it has been helpful. Just reading of bereaved people's…"
"Before this nightmare I myself would never have imagined how debilitating the loss of a spouse is. Tracy B 2014
I thought I would be able to focus on my career to help me heal, but I don't even like going to work any more. At home, I can't…"