"Dear bluebird, No, no one who has ever lost a cherished loved one can understand our loss. I used to mean well and try to comfort others, but I still had my David and could not possibly know. And yes, I do believe in an afterlife. Dave was a very…"
"I've found this site to be helpful, too, in that at least I know that some of the people here understand somewhat what this hell is like for me, because they are in similar situations. I don't think that people who still have their…"
"Thank you bluebird,
It has become so necessary to connect with all the kind people here. "Hell" - can any other word describe this place with "No Exit?" I'm so sorry about your husband - I too wished I had died with my…"
There are many people here, me included, who understand the sort of loss and pain you are feeling. Not exactly, of course, as this hell is different for each person, but we get it. My husband died five years ago, and I wish I had died with…"
It is so hard, especially after just a month, to lose your love, your everything in life. I lost my beloved partner of 35 years less than 3 months ago. The agony is indescribable - no one understands, or can reach you in this…"
Sorry you're not doing well.
Hopefully the results of your bloodwork will give your provider somewhere to begin with treatment - what do they say?
What kind of work do you do? If you can't do it anymore, aren't…"
"Bless you Richard,
You're pulling all my strings.
I too cry out for my beloved to come for me and not leave me behind; it's been my worst nightmare.
Is there some physical malfunction the reason for your weight gain? What does your…"
I am so sorry for your loss.
My partner of 35 years also died in Sept at the age of 70. My David looked like your father in your profile photo together. It is so painful; we are never ready to let them go - we need…"
My name is David.
I'm new to this site. I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear husband; we do whatever we can find to ease the pain. I too have found that journaling helps; it can be very cathartic.
It is amazing that…"
"I'm so sorry, Richard
The loss of your dear Annette would be more than enough to handle. You also have health and financial problems, and a job you dislike - all so overwhelming.
I understand how you want it all over and be with your…"
"Thank you, Alice
It was so nice of you to send me your kind thoughts. Even though it's been less than 3 months since my David's passing, sometimes I feel as though I have said it all and heard it all. yet the grief and pain live…"
"Hello David, I’m so sorry that you are suffering. It is a completely devastating experience to lose the one you love most. It’s one thing I know about. There are many grieving people on this site who read the posts just to feel…"
"Dear Nat, I’m so very sorry you had to lose your beloved husband. I wish you strength and comfort as you make your way through these early days and nights. There are many kind souls on this site who know about deep pain, and I recommend…"
"Bluebell, my thoughts and prayers are with you. My brother called me the other day and he said are you ok? There is a twenty year age difference between us, so we are not that close and he lives five hours away. I said to him, yes I though you would…"
"Another bad day. I was shopping for Christmas cards and gift bags when without warning, I broke down in tears at the register. Thank goodness the cashier was a sensitive caring person and did not just blow me off. She said "Your Mom will always…"
"Paul, Each of us have memories of a time and day of the death of our beloved. Mine just happened to come at a time of the year when normally the excesses of celebrating kick into high gear. Not better not worse than anyone else's…"
"My friend just lost her husband before Thanksgiving. I'm trying to reach out to her, because I know how she feels, but she does not seem to want to respond. She's keeping very busy! I feel bad for her, but I guess…"
"Hi Dawn, I saw your posts and wanted to introduce myself. I'm also in Canada, in Ontario. I lost my husband suddenly in 2015. He had cancer but had been given 3 to 5 years and was gone in 8 weeks. If you'd like to…"
As hard as it is for the rest of us to endure the upcoming holidays it must be at least doubly difficult for you given the circumstances your husband and you were dealt with.
To everyone here who has put up with this hell for multiple…"
"Paul, In particular this time of the year everyone who hasn't lost their love is celebrating. I used to be one of them. Then one day a long time ago, I took my sick husband to the hospital Xmas Eve day and found out the day after…"