You're too young to be a widow

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You're too young to be a widow

I never thought that I would be a widow in my forties.  My friends can't relate and feel the need to comment on everything, even if they have no experience with grief.  I know they mean well but only we know what we are going though.

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How do I get up?

How so i get up off the floor where she died and do the things i need to. She died yesterday morning, i did everything i could and i couldn't save her. How do I do this. I'm broken, lost, and alone.…Continue

Started by Jarrod Roettger Apr 15, 2023.

Don’t know where to start... 2 Replies

I am new to this group I never wanted to join and am hoping someone has some insight on how to live each day without the love of their life. I’m a very recent (1/10/18) 37 year old widow. My husband…Continue

Started by Lisa Lennon. Last reply by Vicki Jan 24, 2018.

Falling in Love with Spouse's Family Member or Best Friend

I'm new to forums and discussion boards as a way to connect. Please forgive any redundancy in my hopes of reaching out.I'm looking to get some perspective from this community on a tough but not…Continue

Tags: spouse, member, family, friend, best

Started by Lauren Dec 11, 2017.

People can be so heartless sometimes 8 Replies

I know that, people dont know how to deal with the passing of a loved one, especially when they are young and we are young, but the hardest comment I have had to endure since the passing of my…Continue

Started by ShingingLight1967. Last reply by Bryan Kelly Reeves Oct 8, 2017.

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Comment by marcye jackson on March 23, 2011 at 5:51pm
Hi everyone i'm so glad i found this site it's really been helping, i'm pretty much trying to figure out what God wants me to do with my life and where i go from here, ive learned ill never know why and im ok with that because one day hopfully ill see him again until then i want to do all i can to help with whatever.
Comment by ShellyC on February 25, 2011 at 10:46am
Just a quick hello and to shar my loss.  I lost my husband to cancer on 10-22-09.  I spent most of the first year in a fog and thought I had finally hit the path to healing. Then my 17 yr old daughter finally had grief hit her full force, she was only 15 when her dad passed away and she faught off the grief for so long.  Now that she is finally grieving it has brought a lot back for me and seems as though my grief is starting all over again.  I was 38 when he died and he was only 53.  We had 20 wonderful years together, just wish we could have had many more.  I am the youngest in a local widow group I attend and most are further out then I am, except one, whom just lost her husband this past October.  they are all over 55 though and atleast one has teenage children like me, roughly the same ages.  They do help a lot and it is nice to know your not alone out there and it does help that others know where your coming from and don't try to divert the conversation or avoid contact all together for they may have to deal with a grieving widow.  I
Comment by Amy on February 18, 2011 at 10:15am
Welcome Natasha and Brittany.  I am so sorry for your losses.  I am glad that you found the page and hope that you feel some comfort in knowing that we can relate to what you are going through.  You are not alone.  Please use this page to ask questions, tell stories or vent your frustration when you feel the need.  We are all here to support each other.
Comment by Brittany Hensley on February 16, 2011 at 6:43pm
I lost my husband on Jan. 26, 2011 do to an accidental overdose. He was 30 and me 25. I am now a single mom and have moved into my parents house trying to figure out my next step. Before I can do anything I have to get myself back to life.
Comment by Natasha L. on February 16, 2011 at 3:08pm
Hello everyone. Just wanted to quickly share my story. I lost my husband, Matt, on September 27th, 2010. He was 26 years old and died in his sleep from sudden cardiac arrest. So here I am, 32 years old, a single mom again, living with my parents, and trying to figure out what life holds for me now.
Comment by Amy on January 21, 2011 at 5:32am
Welcome ladies.  I hope that we can help each other.  Just knowing that someone else is going through the same thing and that you are not alone makes coping easier sometimes.  The loneliness can be overwhelming.  Sometimes it sneaks up on you when you least expect it.  At night, in the car, when you are alone, in for a few minutes.  Please know that it is ok to cry.  Crying is good.  You have to let it out.  Hopefully this site will help you let out whatever you can.  You are not alone, even when you feel you are.
Comment by Trisha Manning on January 18, 2011 at 1:27pm
I lost my husband almost a year ago and my stilborn infant son two years ago. I feel that anyone is too young to be a widow. Because I am on the younger side I have all these well meaning people trying to fix me up with their brothers, cousins, whatever every other weekend daddy is out there. When I lost Mike, I lost my future and the hope of a family. At this point I do not want someone else...or their kids. I want Mike back...and our child.
Comment by Linda Gutierrez on January 18, 2011 at 10:13am
Hi Amy, my name is LInda and i feel like i'm reading my own page! Except i just turned 56 without my Babe. Right now I'm at my mom's in Okla. for another week. This was a hard trip for me cause my husband would call all the time to make sure i was safe. He left me Sept 30, and our 25th was sept 14.
Comment by Amy on January 18, 2011 at 6:28am
So, I am reaching out to anyone who has lost a spouse or life partner.  I lost my husband of 25 years in September, 2010.  It took awhile for me to start grieving.  I was so busy staying strong, making all the medical decisions, comforting my children and family and taking care of everything in my regular life, that I don't think I let myself grieve.  Of course, I cried.  Mostly, by myself, and almost never in front of my family and NEVER in front of my husband.  Now that I am 4 months into the loss, I have found the need to talk to others who are going, or have gone though, the same thoughts and feelings.
 

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