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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Give yourself time to heal

Started by Felicia Evans May 8.

I feel worse 2 and a half years on, than I ever did. 7 Replies

Started by Michael Thompson. Last reply by Ginger Apr 17.

Still lost and broken 2 Replies

Started by Pamela philipp. Last reply by Pamela philipp Jan 5.

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Comment by Michael Thompson on July 19, 2018 at 4:00am

Hello everybody.  Roughly a year after my wife died of Bowel Cancer following a 22 year marriage, we married in 1992, my wife died in 2014, I decided to write an article to my local paper about grief from the left behind spouses point of view, whilst also playing tribute to my late wife, Pamela Ann Thompson.  I released before I started writing that I had to write my article in such a way as to not take away the fact that the person lying in the hospital bed was the real victim here.  This article came about because on visiting my wife, irrespective of other visitors, friends family ect, that may have been there also, just how lonely, isolated, and alone I felt as my wife's husband, and so I just knew I had to write to my local paper about how losing a wife or a husband affects those left behind.  Here is that article, with a picture of my late wife, and the little Yorkie on her lap remains with me.  

Comment by Linda Engberg on June 20, 2018 at 6:28am

Trina,

I agree with your post, that I will not be reunited with my Husband

Julian if I take my own live and I would devastate my family.

All we can do is wait for our time to come, which I hope is soon.  

Comment by Trina Mamoon on June 19, 2018 at 12:54pm

Linda, these simple words say it all. Love for our departed soulmate is what creates grief. Thanks for posting.

Comment by Linda Engberg on June 19, 2018 at 6:15am

Comment by Trina Mamoon on June 18, 2018 at 6:05pm

On the topic of suicide, there are two reasons that I have not contemplated taking my own life. One of them is that I cannot allow myself to leave my loved ones to deal with the trauma and heartbreak if I were to commit suicide. In my opinion, it would be unconscionable to do so. And the other reason is that in my faith too, suicide would bar me from reuniting with Joseph. I simply CANNOT run that risk. It is already hell on earth for me, I don't want to jeopardize my afterlife, my eternal life with Joseph by taking my own life. I'll just have to be patient and live out this sorry existence to the end.

I am only too aware that a just and loving God would not punish His/Her creation by disallowing us reunion with our loved one/s in the afterlife, but if God were always just and loving, He/She would not subject us to the kind of spiritual and emotional torture that we-- members on this site--experience daily, and neither would there be war, poverty, famine, child mortality, and a disease like cancer. Therefore, I simply cannot run the risk of committing suicide and take away the possibility of meeting up with Joseph when I die. I can't wait for that day when I will join my beloved darling Joseph on the other side! Please God, let it come soon!

Comment by Trina Mamoon on June 18, 2018 at 5:51pm

Dear Geraldine,

Very sorry to hear that you are having another anxiety-filled day. Lately, I am having more of the depression attacks, with more frequency and more intensity. This living hell is just unbearable! When will this all end? 

Sending you vibes of comfort and prayers for your peace.

Hugs, Trina

Comment by Geraldine Brown on June 18, 2018 at 5:32pm

Another morning waking with anxiety that feels like it is choking me. Missing my husband with an ache inside that I cannot explain. If only cancer didn't exist or there was a cure, my beloved would still be here.

Comment by Avi on May 31, 2018 at 5:09am

I am sorry for your loss Valerie. I wish all the strength. He is still with you. 

Comment by Valerie lundgren on May 31, 2018 at 4:38am

I lost my partner , my best friend , my sons daddy . He passed away on May 10th 2018 . I have never gone this long without talking to him. We had a bond like no other. A part of me has died. We found out in September that he has stage 4 colon cancer with a year left to live. Well he lived for 8 months . Now he is gone. He was my air. How am I supposed to continue breathing without my air? I miss you Ballz . That was his nickname from me. Because of his ballsy fiery attitude but he had the biggest heart. : (

Comment by Avi on May 31, 2018 at 1:09am

I lost my mother to Stage 4 Gall Bladder Cancer on 15 May 2018. She survived 7 months after the diagnosis.

 

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