Losing Someone to Cancer


Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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I Wish Someone Will Take Care of the Paperworks for Free 1 Reply

Started by cin po. Last reply by Kevin Bailey Mar 19.

I feel worse 2 and a half years on, than I ever did. 6 Replies

Started by Michael Thompson. Last reply by morgan Mar 5.

Stupid cancer commercials 3 Replies

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Comment by Michael on April 16, 2017 at 11:35am

Katherine, your mom sounds just like mine.  I thought I was the only one who had a mom that loved you for who you are because the people I know never truly understood me but her.  You brought back memories as though mu mom was here with me right now.

Comment by loui gae on February 28, 2017 at 7:30pm

it is the worst for anyone has to go through fought a six year battle but it won out in the end my mate of fifty years is gone and there was nothing i could  to fix it 

Comment by JO B on January 28, 2017 at 11:49am

me 2 kevin it ruens livs it duz it kills us 2 2 sea loved 1s sufferr it can

Comment by Kevin Bailey on January 28, 2017 at 11:29am

I truly hate what cancer did to my beautiful wife, no one should ever have to go through that, cancer has stolen a precious gift from all of us. the pain I have isn't going anywhere, I really hate myself for not being able to do more, I tried my best but it was too strong, I remember trying to just get her to eat but she just couldn't, it would be a battle everyday to get her to eat or at least drink an Ensure. I didn't understand what she was going through, I just wanted her to eat and get stronger and come back to me. I just love and miss her so very much. I feel like I missed the flight she was on and got left behind. God knows I wanna get a flight to where she is right now but I gotta be here for our kids. My heart is broken never to be repaired again until I join my beautiful wife again.

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 28, 2017 at 7:32am

Hi Sherry,

I am so sorry for all your losses, this year I lost a nephew to bone cancer (48) and sister-in-law breast cancer (58), I also lost my dear Husband 4 years ago. Life has changed for me for the worse, Everyone I love is dying. My friend just lost her sister this week. I know death is a part of life but I can't wait until my time comes to be united with them.

God Bless You, Linda

Comment by Sherry on January 27, 2017 at 10:59pm

Hi, I recently stumbled on this site,,, my dad died 5 years ago, from pancreatic cancer,, poor guy went through major surgery, the whipple, only to find out they didn't get it all. Radiation, chemo gave him six months before he died. One year later, my younger brother was dx with stage 4 biliary cancer. He put up a good fight, no surgery, only chemo, which was the only thing keeping him with us, until he couldn't do it anymore. He fought hard for a year and a half, he died leaving behind his wife and10yo son. It was terrible sing my dad, but watching my brother die, was unthinkable. All I can say is, it was like having a front row seat to pain and suffering. My world changed,  and that person I use to be before they were diagnosed, she died too. Oh, and my mother died 1 year after my brother, not cancer, but COPD, it was so painful watching her suffer after the loss of my dad, then my brother. I still feel numb, sometimes it feels like a bad dream. Well, I guess this is a safe place to talk about losing the people you love, Thanks!

Comment by emma on December 27, 2016 at 9:19am

I lost to many people to cancer , the hardest one for me was my dad 10 years ago he passed away from brain cancer , the Christmas holidays are never the same anymore without our love ones that we lost ...

Comment by Kevin Bailey on December 24, 2016 at 10:16pm
I honestly just want to be with my beautiful wife right now, I honestly and truly hate the holidays right now. I used to look forward to them, being with my wife and helping her cook. I remember her stealing some of the cookies I just made and she'd give herself away by laughing. Now she's gone and I'm alone. I honestly believe that it's so cruel to be left behind after my wife passed. I would've been so happy to leave the same way they left on "The Notebook" cause any other way is just suffering.
Comment by Jan on November 29, 2016 at 9:12am

Here I go again. Go to bed at night with a bit of a better outlook on things - try to plan to do something useful the next day.  The morning comes and I'm like "what was I thinking"? I'm on my second vehicle since my husband passed. I put 32,000 miles on the first one in 12 months trying to run away from my feelings.  I traded it in and got this one 1 week ago w/42 miles on it. I now have about 500 and I'm getting ready to run again.  I tend to get worse if I have doctor appts. to face and I have 2 this week.  How I wish I could feel "normal" again. This pain is life changing and I never did take change well.  God bless you all.  I hope your fairing better than I am today.

Comment by morgan on November 25, 2016 at 11:33pm

Kimberly, There is nothing more you can do but what you already have.  It will have to be enough.  This isn't a test of how much... it is just how a deep connection works.  We will forever miss some of the people who have meant the world to us for the rest of our living days.  And hopefully one day that red thread will bring us together again in another time and place......We have only today, our present, the gift of our love.  You are and will be enough for her today.  Baby steps.......you will learn all about baby steps soon but try not to be too hard on yourself.  It takes away energy you need.  Its hard enough without adding to it.  Give her a hug for us.  We will be here for you like you are for her.......



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