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Comment by Nancy L 6 hours ago

I have been super emotionaly today.  A good friend of mine lost her mother 11 years ago today.  She still grieves for her.  At the end of June last year we found out my mom  had cancer, she died 6 months later.  I finding the 6 mo anniversary very difficult to cope with. 

I feel so alone...I too feel is if I don't have roots anymore.  My family is selling the house that I grew up in I have always refered to my mom's as home.  There are still many of my things from my childhood are still right where I kept them.

My thoughts and prayers are with everyone here.

I just miss my mom.  I wish she didn't have to leave me. 

Comment by Jeff R 11 hours ago

It's tough when you lose several immediate family members at once...sometimes you wonder if it's some sort of endurance test.  This happened to my cousin many years back.  It took time and support from other family members for her to begin to feel "normal" again.  My thoughts are with you.

Comment by Cynthia Gee 12 hours ago

Mark, I apologize in advance if I'm out of line but I worry about you.  I am hurting too from the very recent death of my mom and probably couldn't lend a ton of advise, but having people to talk to is important.  You sound isolated and alone- maybe you have people you are talking to, I don't know. But I just wanted to offer my support if you think that would be at all helpful.  All my best to you.

Comment by Martha Days 15 hours ago

Dear family:

I say we are family as we are connected in our loss. We have a lot in common, we love greatly and when there is great love, there is great loss.

 

We are not alone, God is with us every moment. And, I know our beloved mothers are watching, guiding, and protecting us in the spiritual realm.

 

Now, that does not mean that at times I forget all of this and feel

helpless.

 

I wish everyone on this wonderful forum strength, and the certainty that there is a lot more than we perceive. Heaven awaits us when it is our time, and we will be reunited with our loved ones.

Comment by Mark yesterday

It's been a year and a half and I still can't believe my mom is gone.  My entire immediate family is all gone.   I feel like I'm serving some prison sentence where I have to battle the feeling of emptiness until my own last breath.  I'm left alone wondering just exactly what my purpose was on this earth and feel more like whatever it was suppose to be has been supplied.  Now I'm just a bill paying pinball that gets invited to someone elses family gatherings for the holidays so they can say they did a good deed while I get to ache inside watching them all enjoying one another.  I could get a pet to say something is mine but for as cute and loyal as they are it's not the same.  At this point in my life allowing anyone in my life on a personal level is useless.  I'm still so exhausted emotionally over the loss and all the struggles it would be an additional mind game.  I read about the tragic deaths of children and wonder if there is a daily quota to be met in regard to death why does God still spare me knowing I'm miserable and allow the end of an innocent young life?  I just miss my mom so much and will never understand any of this.

Comment by Maddy yesterday

Hi Muuna,

I understand that it's very easy to get overwhelmed by others' grief at times. It seems sometimes like people want to lean on you/us when they are grieving or they count on you to help them through your grief. My mother was very well known in our community and it seems like every time I go home to visit my dad I run into someone who knew/loved/worked/went to school with her, etc and they are always wanting to express their condolences....but it ultimately turns into them being comforted by me somehow. It used to really get to me and I would get angry, but I learned to look at it that my mother touched a lot of people and therefore there are a lot of people who miss her. I also find it comforting to know that we are not the only ones who are keeping her memory alive.

I hope that you can find a way to deal with other people's grief in a positive way....or at least in a way that does not set you back in your grieving process.

Thinking of you.

Comment by Cindy C yesterday

Thinking of you Muuna. I am sitting in my moms house trying to write thank you notes from her funeral a month ago. I havent wrote the first one. My dog came with me tonite and ran into the room where she always watched tv. Everyone needs to mourn our loss but whenever i have a dry eye, it seems i run into someone who just found out or who hadnt seen me yet. Its very hard...but i guess it shows how much they were loved. And thats a nice thought to hang on to. Take care.

Comment by Muuna yesterday

Today has been particularly hard. My mums best friend was out of the country when mum passed away so she came in today to grieve at our home. In our tradition, grieving is very loud and expressive and the women sit on the floor so that's what she came to do. It brought all the memories back, the loud daunting wailing, the feeling of emptiness, the confusion, my already broken heart broke all over again. 27th June will mark 3 months that she's been gone.

Comment by Natalie on Saturday

July 9th, 2013 will be one year since my mom went to be with the Lord. I have felt so lost this past year but the rest of my family seems to have moved on as if nothing even happened. It has been quite a rude awakening for me because my heart cries and longs for my mom every single day.  I, too, am so thankful for the good souls in this group. It is so healing to know that someone understands.

Comment by michael sandoval on Saturday

My condolences to all the new members and to the old members too.  Next month will be one yea rsince mom got sick and it will be one year sine she passed in Sept.  I can't believe its been a year.  feels like yesterday.

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