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Multiple Losses Group

I am creating this site for the many of us who have suffered several losses. I lost my mom, dad, grandma(2nd mom), grandpa, my beloved dog and divorce. Many of us have lost more than one person or event. Come share!

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Too many in a short time.

Hey everyone,  since May of 2020 I lost my birth mother with whom I had established a good relationship.  In June my stepmother who raised me passed away. July was a break. August they found my…Continue

Started by Nina M Helme Mar 21.

Lost dad an wife within a month. 2 Replies

On March 12 my last living hero passed away from lung cancer. He is the greatest man ive ever known. He loved us all unconditionally no matter our mistakes. He was always honest and to the point and…Continue

Started by Shane Hughes. Last reply by Penny Feb 7.

From 2/7/2019 to 4/13/2020

On February 7, 2020 my father passed. Two months and two days later on April 9, my husband passed. That December, my nephew was murdered. In March of 2020, my aunt passed. One year and four days…Continue

Started by Pennywyze Jan 15.

Car accident and the a suicide 5 Replies

Hello. My name is sara. So on the 18th of feb at exactly 3pm my grandad passed away then at 3.02pm my nan died. They were involved in a massive car accident. And they were gone. That day change my…Continue

Started by Sara. Last reply by Joe von Anjou Aug 15, 2020.

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Comment by Penny on January 31, 2021 at 4:40pm

Hey, it's Pennywyze. I didn't have all my information backed up before I factory reset my phone, and I lost all my contacts and other important stuff.

Comment by Pennywyze on January 26, 2021 at 4:46am

This year has just gotten started, and it feels like it's already May. I try not to think about the "what ifs" when it comes to the people I lost because that's only going to drive me to drink. And I'm not a drinker.

Comment by Pennywyze on January 23, 2021 at 5:14pm

hi, all

Comment by Anon Dee on October 16, 2020 at 6:36pm

hi, i lost my whole family when i was 32. Now am 60 and alone and dont know how i got here.

Comment by dream moon JO B on August 17, 2020 at 4:51pm

so sorry joe had so mush lossss sien 2012 i hav dad deids dad dies evry thng seam 2 go doon hill aftr he died 

but 202020 i loss a frind 2 cov 19 my nbor 2 but did get 2 sy gudby 2 thes i cud not coz of cov19 restrcsn i no im ginna loss mof frins coz of cov19 coz 1s its got big c hav had tretmet csnseld cox of it frinds it cud of had ops cud of ssvd thm wil die coz of coz ofcov19 wish cud of savd th,i cnte vn sea a dr my lsf on rt coz my fignrs keepi  lockin or 2 sp thm goin in 2 spazemss 

Comment by Joe von Anjou on August 15, 2020 at 2:49pm

My brother was killed in a car accident decades ago. I was the first to try to identify him. What I saw has never left me. Over the years, I found a way to live with it.

Then, last April (2020), my mother died after a five year battle with vascular dementia. She was in a care home. I had not seen her in over a month because of the pandemic, but I talked to her over the care home's phone the Monday before she died. She was combative as usual. No indication she was going to die.

My mother died on a Friday.

For a month after my mother died, I was functional. Many things to do. Funeral had to be arranged, although date uncertain at the time (I was finally able to bury her in July.) Then, another nurse from the care home called to let me know I could pick up my mother's things. That nurse was on duty the Friday my mother died. She broke down and started crying over the phone. I tried to be as professional as I could, tried to tell her it was not her fault, tried to tell her to take care of herself and to watch out for vicarious/secondary traumatisation, which is a serious risk in the caring professions.

But, then, I just melted.

Some days ago, they had a trivia contest on the radio. I knew the answer to a question, so I called it. The host told me to stay on the line so they could get my details for the prize. I told the host that my mother died, so I don't deserve any prize. The host was silent for a minute, then said, "I still think you deserve a prize. My condolences."

That is where I am at. One second I am functional, the next, the memory creeps in. The worst part over every day is between deep sleep and waking up. I used to see my brother in that time. Now, I see the look of horror in my mother's eyes from the lastfive years as she sensed her faculties were going but could not say so out loud.

Then, I remember my mother is dead. This is the kick in the stomach I wake up to every morning. I try to exercise as much as I can to release endorphins to counter the kick in the stomach. It works like Tylenol. Temporarily.

Comment by dream moon JO B on May 5, 2020 at 3:19am

yes i did hav a cat cald lucy shes in spirtt 2 shes ok now 

i had 2 get pts in 2016 coz her body giv up on her kidny lungs hert 

i no wen viris goz we can all liv agan

i loss a frind 2 it 4 or 5 wks go 

non of her frinds cud say gudby to her only her mum dad sistrs wear alod to atnd funrelll 

i no gluvs is a nitemer werin thm evn wear mks on my fase im wear coz it cuts brethn off bit duz bean bean it riks grp its onlway i can get sum fres aier fredim it duz

i hav 2 get cat food for my 2 cats i do

Comment by Rhonda Partin-Sharp on May 4, 2020 at 9:44pm

JO B - I know the lockdowns are hard and it is natural to have a fear that our loved ones with dementia/alzheimers will forget us if they don't see us for a while, but it is better to keep them safe from the virus.  All we can do is pray for the and for the world until this pandemic is over - and do all we can do to keep ourselves and our loved ones safe like wear masks and gloves and adhere to social distancing.

It is hard to be away fro our churches too.  I know that is true.  It is the same though - better to be safe and not take the risk to spread the virus.  Does your church do online services.  If they don't, maybe you can get online for another church to hold you over until the pandemic is over and it is safe to go to church again.

I remember from when I used to be on here before that you had a cat named Lucy - am I remembering right?  If I remember right, I think you showed me a picture of her once and she was a mostly black cat.  Do I remember correctly?

I am glad the Spiritualist Church was able to give you comfort that your Dad is well again in the spirit world.  I think all of our loved ones are, but I guess sometimes it gives us a little peace to be reminded of that.  I know sometimes I'd like to have assurances that my departed loved ones are okay, but then I remember that faith is believing in what we can't see and I realized I must have faith that they are okay, because I probably can't get 100% solid irrefutable assurances while I'm still in this life.  But, so many people have had After Death Experiences that they shared that have slowly increased my faith that our loved ones are okay once they pass away.

Comment by dream moon JO B on April 24, 2020 at 1:45pm

yep

thert it wz

u

bth in homse coz of dem/alz

unlce dnt evn no i am it all moms gona fogget us evn mor so coz of loc doon

wen iv bean 2 sea her askin for deadd pepel gona sea her had 2 say thy bizzzy but in way thy r in spirtt wolrd 

evn got cond robbd in 2017 befr mum had 2 go in 2 restl caree coz i wz so exsorsdrd 

askin wear lucy is hvt got hert to tell her she died in 2016

but iv 2 cats 1 i namd aftr my dad othr 1 aftr my fav anit 

im missin churhc 2 bean goin sinse 2018 

wear luvd got trhu  my dads got trhu bit he haz it spirtlsht churchh

his well agan in spirtt wolrd 

Comment by Rhonda Partin-Sharp on April 24, 2020 at 1:20pm

Hi JO B - I don't know if you remember me.  We used to talk a lot but I haven't had time to be on this group for a couple of years because I was a caregiver for several family members in a row and the longer it went on the more tired I got to the point with the last couple I took care of I just couldn't seem to do much beyond take care of them.  I did talk a bit on Facebook but haven't really had time to be on here.  I have bad legs and when they would start to hurt I would sit down for five minutes on Facebook to rest them and then get back to work.  It's a little harder to do five minute breaks on a group like this where people need to talk, so slowly over time I kept getting on less and less until for the last couple of years I wasn't getting on at all.  I'm sorry we lost touch due to that and I'm sorry that your losses continue.  It must be so hard not to be able to see your Mom and does ulc mean uncle, because of the coronavirus lock downs.  I am so sorry you are going through that, but it is better to stay safe.

I still remember some of your stories after your Dad passed away, like taking balloons to his grave and having them pop as a way to let you know he was with you.  So much love you had for your Dad.  I will always remember your stories.  I am so sorry you lost him and I hope you will soon be able to get into the nursing homes and see your Mom and Uncle. 

God bless you.

 

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