Jules

My suggestion is to come here and express your grief whether it be sadness, anger, disbelief, numbness...what ever form it takes. There is no judgement here. There is a book out there called "The Courage to Grieve" that I found helpful. Maybe try it when you are able to concentrate better.

I am not a grief counselor, but I have experienced a recent loss of a loved one. I also have been a Hospice RN for a few years. That being said, it is important for you to know you are not alone and that what you are feeling is normal. It is okay to grieve in your way and on your timeline.

Bluebell

I HAVE COMPLICATED GRIEF FOR OVER 4 YEARS, I SEE A THERAPIST EVERY 3 WEEKS AND TAKE MEDS BUT THEY ARE NO HELP. HAS ANYONE TRIED MEDICAL MARIJUANA FOR THIS CONDITION.

I am sorry you have suffered for so long Linda. I, for one, have had no experience with medical Marijuana.

Bluebell

hi linda iv smoket i no its agans law in uk bt it carmd me it did juts wish ty wud giv it 2 us us in a pill fom thm i wid not of brok law 

i rmer sen a doc yrs go thy usd canbos for evry thng thy did

big c

desprson pane relf thy did

it min iv somush goin on i cud 

Jamie 

Crying won't bring her back, BUT it is a part of grieving and if you feel like crying then cry. I think holding it in isn't good. Everyone greives in a different way. Your boyfriend is grieving also. Tell him that you are dealing with it and he should try to understand the loss process is different for each person. If you need to talk to a counselor, do it. Don't be afraid. 

I'm sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. I lost my bestfriend and my dad just days apart. That was 18 months ago and I still cry, I also feel at times that I will never be happy again, I try to strong for my family. 

Take care of yourself. Enjoy every minute with your other baby

 wish i cud be e pele we usd2 be i go on vimeo coz ther sogd is ese 2 post bt i lk my own songs 2 id do

The%20Beatles%20%20In%20My%20Life.mp3

luv ths song hop its ok diana

I%20Watch%20the%20Sunrise2.mp3

thes seam 2 relx me well a bit thy do

sory abit tyop probs loss fealin min y hand i a bit gt lot of numd sso on in bth bt mst 1 sun 2 be sorted i so sorry nt slef puty its not dnt if its stes coz of loss or mom bean polyd nt no bt its nt self pity wish i wz tld 

evry tim i hear ths if feal lk it is it a lng way coz i miss daddy /dd so mush ev mor so iv had i shid be ovr t bt im not ths yr i feal it mor aft 5yrd bt bean a bad 1 ths yr ls dnt judg me11%20-%20Track%2011.mp3

it feal a lng eay way i do

dnt no if its i mis my dad mom bean ill bean snap on/off tramtid coz of vict o f crim pls dnt hav a go ts alred ymest me up wt hapnd it did 

wish my d wz still hear coz it wuf of not hapned 

its hwy iv post songs he wiud of luvd on i uv my dad he wud 

los dad

thn 201 2012 loss

2013

2014

2015

2016

2017

im sory if im rntin 2 mush 

bt moms dem/azl get 2 me she foget war she livs stil thgn she livs in hose wear hse livd in 1970s/60s evn 1930s

40s

askin wear ded pele not bean 2 sea her its died yrs go

iv loss he bef shes gon i hav 

i no i need 2 cry bt if i do im word il cry til 2020 or mor wer im cryn lk a foti or sea goi mad

ld i can cum hear 2 say way i feal or othr webs if i cnt get on hear

i jut wish i cud hav daddy bac i do feal low 2 day 2 oz wz my fav anti bday 2 day 2 wish se wz stil hear 2 its isin peple i luv it get me it duz

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i no iv bean goin2 a  spirlastt churdhh few pepepl getin anserss evn me 

This will be my 6th Christmas without my Husband. Last night I went to a Hospice Workshop entitles "Hope for the Holidays". It really was wonderful, the speaker gave us many ideas how to endure the Holiday.

so sorry linda 

bean thingin of xmas ti im 

try to thng of ecsusess to avod invitss but iv ran off exsusess i havv

but hopflyy spoook churchh iv bean goin to medim may givme advisess he/she will

but fealin bit low coz of bit of bad news of my nebow frinds big c spreed to her it has 

but peppl it go to spooks chirch hav all bean thru griefff thy hav hearin diffo storyss is sad but its lk a suportt of conslingg coz we all no ech othrs pane we do

I'm having a rough time still I been keeping everything in my grandpa passed away it will be two years March 25th and we had a family fued on Christmas day and it's still lingering on.i'm sorry if I'm a bother to anyone.

Hi Mindy

You are never bothering anyone, when you come to these forums we are all in the same boat. 

Death effects everyone a different way. When my Husband died it effected me and my family. They really don't understand my grief so I really don't share anything will them anymore.

I have being seeing a therapist once a month for 6 years and share all my thoughts with her. I tell her everything and it really does help. It avoids conflicts with friends and family.

I hope this might help you deal with the family.

Best of Luck, Linda 

I been trying to stay positive but since everything that went on on Christmas day it's kinda hard to I been wanting to let things out but been holding it in and acting like nothing is wrong. Thinking that I'm a mistake by being alive.

Mindy,

All I can tell you that I know each of us grieves in their own way.

For myself I will never get over my Husband's death. He was my soulmate and truly was "The Wind Beneath My Wings" 

They now are broken and they will never heal.

so true linda so well saed 

all i no is br ok enn grieff wingss  is 1 no 1 gets till thy get it 

if we broee a am arm or a leg we wud be ok ish but grieff is so sad coz 1 thng no can get fix 

u can fix a car or so on but u can not fix loss u can not 

Hi Jason M,

All you need to do is message Diana the grief counselor, her info is at the top of the page. 

She replies fairly quickly 

Hello to everyone in the grief counseling group. We are in the process of starting a zoom grief support meeting beginning in January. Would any of you be interested? If so, let me know what days and times would work best for you.  I am flexible. I can also meet one on one via Zoom if you would prefer privacy. Wishing all of you peace and comfort. 

Diana Young is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting.

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I'm interested. I'll add those dates to my calendar. Thank you so much!

Ms. Diana, I would very interested in being a part of some of those virtual meetings as I am struggling in my daily life now more and more.  

@JoeHousley and @Amalia Vacca, Glad you will be able to join in. I will see you at the Zoom meetings in January.  Looking forward to it. Until then, wishing you peace and many blessings.   

Ash,

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Diana, it's very kind of you to offer these grief counseling sessions via Zoom. I just wanted to express my appreciation to you. Thanks.

Zoom Meeting: Grief Support Group Guidelines:

Keep your sharing focused on your own thoughts and feelings.

Limit your sharing to three to five minutes, so everyone has an opportunity to share — and to ensure that one person does not dominate the group sharing time.

We are here to support one another, not “fix” one another.

We do not give advice or solve someone’s problem in our time of sharing or offer book referrals or counselor referrals!

Anonymity and confidentiality are basic requirements. What is shared in the group stays in the group. The only exception is when someone threatens to injure themselves or others.

We are not to share information with our spouses/family/co-workers. This also means not discussing what is shared in the group among group members. 

Offensive language has no place in our support group.

Looking forward to the meeting. Is pet loss covered in this meeting?

Linda Engberg, We can talk about any loss during this meeting. Depending on the number of participants, we may be able to hold meetings for different types of losses in the future. At this point I have no idea how many people will attend, so we will evaluate and make adjustments as we grow. See you Monday at 7 pm ET.  

Thank You Diana, Losing my sweet dog Babie J was ever worst than losing my husband who was soulmate.

Linda Engberg,

Oh my goodness.  So sweet.  I miss my dog as well. Mine was a bichon.  He was put down in 2015 because of Cushing's Disease. My fiance at the time had to do it.  I just couldn't. 

 That was my baby and I miss him so much.  

so sorry i no a losss of a pet is so haerd it is i no i had 2 get lucy pts i had2 get my brhtr to do it coz i cud not coz i no it wud of kill me it wud of

my lucy she wz a grt suportt wen dad died i no peepppl will say im silly  but lucy wz famlyy 2 me so wz evry 1s pet famly 2 thm

Dear Dream Moon and Diana,

Your furbabies are just beautiful and I am so sorry you lost them. Their love is unconditional and I know we will see them again at the Rainbow Bridge. God Bless, Linda

thnx

i loss lucy in 2016 a wk aftr my bday 

i no peppl dnt get it but thm fur kids wz kids 2 us thy wz 

Hi Dream Moon,

Losing Babie J was the worst thing that happened to me. I miss her so much.

Awwww, so cute!

Thank You Diana.

i prefr anmilss 2 peppll i do 

why

thy do not judg way we grif greivv thy do not

thy lov us wen we get ill thy do 

i no lucy sat be my sid wen i had a tosh of newmona yrss ag she did '

evn wen pamdicss took me wayy she nw i wud be bac

my 2 catss iv got now wen i wz ill f wyrs go nevr lft my sid thy did not

i no lucy will be aornd me all wayss coz i gt her frm cat dog hletrr i did lk dianas dog linf lindas dog wil be arond us thy will be 

i no my rt getin wors so i need 2 stp typin

noww jutss relsd my mic app will wok on heer wud of dabvd me frm typin

Hi Dream Moon,

I am so sorry for your loss of Lucy. Thank You for inviting me to your fur kids group. 

it min i feal num 

loss of my mom my heroo lk my dad i no i kid mom & dad wz my heros not peppl on tv mom  DAD wz my heross

I'm sorry for your losses Jo.  I agree, our Mom and Dad are our heroes.  We miss them terribly when they are gone. I talk to mine even though they are gone.  Perhaps they hear me.  We never really know for sure but I believe it is possible.  

thnx i no in 2020 i wz abot to calllass it spookss churchh to lrn on medshipp on how 2 cop on premnistnss so on

but cov 19 took it way took i

not bean avl 2 hug her sinse 2020 or kiss her sisee 202t way on preserss mpmtss on mom losss tim i can not get bac not bean abl 2 kiss her sinse 2020

but i no shess in chapl of rets now so i can go ea mushs as i can nxt wk till her funrell

but only 30 is alod in cremtrpm chapl coz of cov 19 ths cov 10 19 got to to answ for

i no im bac 2 wear i wz in 2012 2012 2012 i wz 

num disbelif angr denil juts watin on my slf hlp cds to gt in pots so i dmy fd do mistaks i did wen dad died 

it nal proof thy neededin my brosrs goj  nuts evn mics nt typun on me me its lk ts picin on my grif engy vibs 

im juts dredin fools needin proof shes gon lk i had wen dad diedd yes yor dadad dead but we need to speek to him to r prov hr dead hes got fill formss in ti prov his dead fonin funrell homs not a nenf proff needed 

wz stil not gud eniff im worid in casee it happns agan 

i no frindss hav had simlr exprens evn now its lk thy is dibilty setin us bac on grif stepss bac wishh is dizrecsptfil

still num still full up i no moms freeee of dem but im gonna miss her

i cnt get bac coz of cov 19 i wud try 2 go 3 or 4 tims wk i did 

im abot to got rhu anor majrr loss in my lif my uncl it wz lka 2n dad 2 me hes abot toget his wingss in to spirtt wold 

soon i will hav no 1 

iv no hubby  bf