I offer yet another impression of ‘normal’ grief and complicated grief. I approach all grief reactions as a complication in the life of the individual who seeks help with this human phenomenon. We travel life’s roadway and suddenly, around the bend, the bridge is out. A death, a life-threatening diagnosis, accident, layoff notice, or other traumatic change has painfully altered the course of our journey and requires a new way of looking at life. The process of grieving represents a…

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I am giving up as of today. There is simply too much loss and too much sadness.

I haven't slept well for such a long time, and have been looking for a job for five years now and counting. I cannot seem to make things work, and more and more things are being taken away. There is no help from anywhere and I long to jut go home to my real home in Heaven. At least there I won't have to worry about unpaid bills, hurting, and disappointing others because I can't just snap out of this grief…

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So tomorrow is 7 months that you've been gone and it still sucks:'( living with your traumatic death will always and forever be hard. I don't think it will ever "get easier" it will just be something i live with like a heavy burden in my heart that weighs me down. Its like an invisible scarlet letter. My pain is nothing compared to sissys n papis.. Another sucky day i hate the 22nd every month n every year for the rest of my life feeling so sad and down

The love of my will have been gone to heaven almost 3 years ago. I am still amazed about the presence of his soul in my life.

Two days after Christmas, I was standing in the kitchen preparing breakfast. My 3 year old grandson came in to me and said "good morning gramma buttons" (that's what he calls me.) I said good morning baby, are you awake and having a good morning? He said yep. Gramma buttons, I was playing with my dogs. I said, you were? He said yep, Bailey and Shasta were…

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Times have been pretty crazy and I haven't been on this website in months. Halfway through November my mother's absolutely beloved cousin Billy took his own life. I live in Boston but I went to Minnesota to spend time with his family and play music for his services. The next week my nana who has lived with me my entire life -who took care of me everyday until I started taking care of her everyday- passed away. I played music for her services too. Through all of this…

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This Saturday will be the very first time in my life I will not have my mom singing Happy Birthday to me, telling me how much she loves me nor will there be the pure joy that emanated from every pore of her being.. There will be no more of her contagious laughter to brighten my 'special day'; there will be no closure..Each and every minute of each and every day I am overwhelmed with sadness, horrid pain,…

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I remember that you're not there any more and it feels like my heart breaks all over again.

How to start ,Rose Marie my wife of 44years 6 days dies in the night in her sleep.And I found her in the morning a very bad experience,one I'm still trying to process.And I'm a retired Paramedic. Marie and I are among a small group of baby boomers with over a 44 year marriage and only 60 and 64 years of age,we started young and should of lasted a lot longer.I was lucky to be home with her for the last 30 years due to my retirement.

The last 17 days has been the longest and lonelys in my…

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I had one week left of college, I was 17 and my boyfriend just turning 20 went to see his birth dad down in another town one Friday night. He didn't want to go that night, wanted to stay at his friends but i said he didn't see his real dad often so to go, he went and never saw him again. He was at a night club, went out for a cigarette even though he had stopped smoking and they found his body electrocuted in a power station 4 days later 12 miles away on the…

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Today I had to talk my father into going to the ER to get checked out.  He had heart surgery in April that resulted in a bypass and a aortic valve replacement.   He has been swelling up so bad and his breathing is very labored.  When we get to the hospital and I automatically went into "Ms. Fixit" mode.  Long story short I finally got dad checked out and he is now hospitalized with pneumonia.  While we were waiting for his room and all he told me he has not been sleeping because he fears…

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The strangest thing happened to me a few days ago. I went out for a walk on my own, a rare occurrence as I usually have my two little people with me. But this day I was alone. I strode off out of my gate and along the waterfront where I live. A moment or two passed when I realised how tall I seemed. I felt like I was walking on a cloud. Somehow I felt elevated. I wondered if it was simply because I wasn't pushing the buggy and looking down at the…

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