Diana Young, LD/N, GC-C, ORDMDiana is a Certified Grief Counselor with The American Institute of Health Care Professionals, Inc since 2015. She is also a licensed Dietitian/Nutritionist for 30 years specializing in weight management, diabetes care, the mind diet and healthy eating. Diana created the popular website OnlineGriefSupport.com in 2008 with over 15,000 members. Currently She facilitates a virtual grief support group weekly. Previously Diana worked for Cornerstone Hospice, providing…See More
Hey everyone, since May of 2020 I lost my birth mother with whom I had established a good relationship. In June my stepmother who raised me passed away. July was a break. August they found my brother dead in his home, they determined he was already dead for 9 days before anyone found him. In September my best friend unexpectedly passed away. Now in February my precious granddaughter who I have helped raised passed away unexpectedly. My heart, soul, is broken to pieces I don't know how to go…See More
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I'm a 58 year-old grandmother a set of twins and a new grandson who was born in October and my oldest daughter is having a baby in August. My daughter and her twins and my grandson live in Nevada I raise my kids about 25 miles from where we currently live. I moved to California after my divorce and when my daughter was having her twins she asked me to come back to Nevada and live with her. I didn't think I'd be out here for almost eight years but here I am.
About my Loss:
My Grand -Twins were born on April 24th, 2013. They were 29.5 weeks one was 3 lb 9 oz and my other granddaughter was 1 lb 9 oz. They found out that my granddaughter was 1 lb 9 oz her name is Zia. We found out she had Down syndrome a week after she was born. It was touch and go for quite a long time until she was able to come home from the hospital about both of them her sister came home a lot earlier than her. After about two and a half years she began to get very sick. I became her primary caregiver for her medical issues. For the last four and a half years I went to kinds of hospitals with her where we stayed for months at a time. They had no idea what she had for such a long time she was diagnosed with cancer they gave her chemo found out it was cancer they did other tests and said that she had this she had that it wasn't any of that. I became her advocate researcher her voice pretty much I was became everything. I learned a lot going from hospital to hospital and I began my research on her medical condition. One day while sitting in a Ronald McDonald House I was researching things and I know exactly what she had. I called Stanford Hospital Lucile Packard and beg them to take her as she was very very sick in our hospital and being in a rural area the doctors don't know a whole lot about a chronically ill child. Upon taking her there they did a bunch of tests and honestly realize that what I came up with was Her diagnosis. We got her all of her medical issues pretty much almost taking care of she was getting better she was growing she had Down syndrome she had SJIA/MAS chronic lung disease which she was on oxygen full-time failure to thrive she had a G-tube which was how she was fed Wolff Parkinson White syndrome she had been through just pure hell in and out of hospitals but she had a smile on her face at every time no matter what they did to her she was the light of everybody's world at the hospital. Her last hospital stay was in February of 2020 after that she started growing thriving happy we started her in school she was I thought getting 100% better. I lived with my daughter for almost eight years and in June of last year, it was time for me to move out of my own. I although it was only 5 minutes away from my daughters house I was still their caregiver of the Twins and my new grandson. February 8th was the most devastating day of my whole life my daughter called me up in a panic and they were taking my granddaughter Zia to a local hospital here which we live in a very small town my daughter and I drove there a hundred miles an hour got there and they said they were still working on her. What seemed like an eternity wasn't they came out and told me and my daughter that she I died. I am dealing with my grief and my own I guess suspicions. I was her Nana who was there constantly everybody knew that I was the one who took care of her pretty much her whole life. The love we had for each other was beyond a grandmother and a granddaughter. We shared a special bond that some people saw. Of course, there are other things that I can talk about that this is long enough. I don't know how to help my daughter who is grieving tremendously I am going through such pain with her but even more pain with the loss of my granddaughter. I honestly don't know where to turn. I feel now I have no purpose to do anything because I lost her and she was my purpose I always told everybody that she saved my life and I saved her life.
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