"I know what you mean. I hope fostering helps you; I'm sure it will help the dogs.
I did receive the e-mail about Zoom, but I am not interested in participating. If you are, I hope you find it to be good/helpful."
Losing Babie J broke the other half of my heart. I know I can never replace her just like Julian but in her honor I will be a foster mom. BTW, did you get an email from Diana at this site with an invitation to join their Zoom…"
"I want to be clear, I am not suggesting another dog as a replacement, just saying that maybe having another furry little one to love might help. Entirely up to you, and there's no right or wrong choice, just the choice that's best for you."
I'm sorry about Babie J. Our cat Benny died a few years ago, and it was bad both because I love him and because he was a link to my husband. So I do understand how hard that is. As for me, I'm the same as always. Sad, angry, wishing…"
"Hello Joe & Bluebird,
Happy New Year. I haven't been on the site since September. My Sweet Babie J was declining with dementia and she needed all my attention. She passed away 5/20/20. After 8 years since Julian died, this past year…"
"I'm still here Linda. Have trouble with some sites but it's in the settings on my end. I had to turn off a privacy setting to get here which I never had to do before. A wee or two ago, I posted on losing someone to cancer with no problem.…"
I am so sorry for you loss. My Husband has been gone 8 years and I still miss him everyday. The folks in this forum really helped me through my grief and I pray it will help you too. God Bless "
I think John has said everything I am feeling each day. I sometimes think during the day of how many of us are out there suffering through this pain. It has been almost two years for me, so, I guess, after three there is still no relief or hope in sight. I feel nothing, and for those who tell you are now free to do things; they are crazy. Why would I want to be free of my love who made all the things we did worthwhile, meaningful, and happy?
Everyone who had a love will someday lose them; it is inevitable. They will then, and only then, understand our thoughts and pain.
I do not wish it on anyone.
Elynn, I can relate to your situation as it parallels mine perfectly. First, I am sorry for our loss. I am aware there are no words that can take away the sting, the inconsolable pain of your loss. I lost my Nancy, April 29th of last year and am still and will for a long time be facing the hell of loneliness, the emptiness and the never ending longing for that person who defined you and was always there for you, your soul mate and best friend. That was Nancy. Now, I too cannot drive and have a limited social network, again, apart from this grief site. I live exclusively on social security and can barely make that last, but I do. I wake up broken and go to sleep broken, spending the day lost and wandering through my empty house, more like a tomb than a home. We are all so vulnerable to to the world we must live in and on that day I do not wake up, I hope to wake up in the arms of my true love, my beautiful Nancy. I pray the same for you and everyone who must endure this cold empty life. May God watch over you and bless you and take care of yourself...Mel
Anyone else feeling lonely and depresxed? I have trouble getting out if the house because I do not drive. My husband used to go everywhere with me. It's really lonely and depressing having to stay in the house all day (luckily my son is here daily). Too hot to go outside (here in the desert ). Wish I had something to look forward to.
My heart goes out to you. Your last comment is worrisome. I don't know what to say to help you other than pls find strength from the love of your lovely wife to keep going. Take care of yourself. Praying for comfort and peace for you and all others including myself.
Hello all. I have been relentlessly seeking. Sorry to be away so long but I am very unhealthy and don't want to spread it. There is hope for you if you truly want it. I however do not. I find peace in the agony that grows deeper each day. With much understanding comes great suffering.
Just want to say Jon-Paul I appreciate your recent posts. "I rendezvous with my Queen daily. I've never felt closer to Her". I found that absolutely beautiful. That is what I am aiming for with my love. It seems the only option to survive this nightmare. To "seek ruthlessly" - if you ever care to share what has been your journey I would be interested to hear.
John-Paul- I want to thank you for creating this community. It's help me more then any counseling or medication or doctors could of ever have helped. This is one of the most difficult and painful times in anyones life. And to be able to communicate with other people who are experiencing the heartbreaking, life-changing, loss of a soulmate.... It's proving to be of sincere importance. So- thank you John-Paul.
"Margie, I am deeply sorry for the loss of your mother - I listened to you speak at this past Zoom meeting and felt my heart hurt at the pain in your voice. I truly hope that you will continue to join the meeting on Monday and pray they will…"
I lost my brother in November 2020. Our family has been devastated ever since. Everyday is a new struggle. I want to support my family but I am myself having a tough time coping with thingsSometimes I get tied up in looking after myself vs looking after them . It's important to do bothBut i dont know how to manage for nowSee More