I'm sorry I didn't see your comment, thank you so much...I sure hope I was as good of a sister to her as she was to me....and some day he will get and earful from me on how he was to her....she deserved so much better....I miss her so much :(
I was reading a post you made on May10th, "I tried a psychotherapist but she wasn't much good- maybe I should try again with someone else. I'd like to find a support group but I haven't been able to find one so far." You have found a very good support group here at www.onlinegriefsupport.com and from what I can see of your posts, you are being a good listener for them as they are for you.
Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies, the ancient patriarch Job said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to [Hebrew, “loose”] my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2, 18, 19; 10:1) Job could no longer restrain his concern. He needed to let it loose; he had to “speak.” Similarly, the English dramatist Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth: “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.”
So talking about your feelings to “a true companion” who will listen patiently and sympathetically can bring a measure of relief. (Proverbs 17:17) Putting experiences and feelings into words often makes it easier to understand them and to deal with them. And if the listener is another bereaved person who has effectively dealt with his or her own loss, you may be able to glean some practical suggestions on how you can cope. When her child died, one mother explained why it helped to talk to another woman who had faced a similar loss: “To know that somebody else had gone through the same thing, had come out whole from it, and that she was still surviving and finding some sort of order in her life again was very strengthening to me.”
I will listen anytime you need.I hope you accept my friend request,
For Christina, she has leveled off somewhat in her grief now. However, the first 2 years were exceptionally bad. There were times when I had to drive her in because she couldn't do it so she could keep her job. She was on some medication for her nerves for awhile as well. You are still so early in your grief for your sister just take it hour by hour if you have too. Keeping simple foods on hand was good for us, and if there is one day out of the week that is worst, it helps to be prepared. Also, my daughter did go to a therapist for about a year and a half, it did help having someone for her to talk to, especially not the family. (Since everyone is drowning in their own emotions for awhile). We were careful to choose a therapist with first hand experience with grief, not just textbook. Later, she found a church that ran a grief group and that has helped her tremendously. Again, I am sorry for the loss of your very young sister. Hugs.
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