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surviving family members' murders

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When I was twelve years old, my mother was brutally murdered during a robbery of our home.  I came within minutes of finding her body but by sheer chance I didn't.  It has been over 35 years since…Continue

Started by Christian Miller May 26.

Nothing feels real

My husband was brutly murdered 6 day ago and nothing feels real to me I'm still waiting to wake up or him to call me the pain is unbearable I don't know if I can go on anymore

Started by Deanna N Nash Jun 22, 2019.

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I come from a family of seven children, 4 boys and 3 girls. Our mother died back in 2005 of lung disease. All 7 of us have never really been close (some closer then others) but her death tore us…Continue

Started by Susie H. Last reply by Kate Toivonen Jan 14, 2016.

I dont know

if im even writing this in the right spot or what im doing. In technical terms biologically she wasnt family i guess but to us she was.  She was my brothers girlfriend and i really liked her. She was…Continue

Started by Shy Jan 1, 2016.

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Comment by Wendy on December 6, 2019 at 7:10pm

My heart goes out to you as I recently experienced the loss of my husband who was murdered. We had been together 31 years, married 27. I remember as if it was yesterday, the phone call, the driving frantically to reach the crime scene, waiting for the official word. Telling my Sons and grandchildren. My husband was murdered June 8th in White Swan, WA. One of five people shot and killed. It was important for me to know where his body was up until the time he was buried although I remember few details during that time as it was the most horrific day of my life. Like you, I dreaded seeing him but needed to. I was told by law enforcement that I should not. While waiting for the coroner to release his body I waited by the door of our home, just waited. I held his phone in my hand at all times. I knew he was coming back. I knew what I'd been told and what I was hearing in the media could not be true, could not have happened to my family, to my husband. The media was relentless. There was nothing for us to say, almost six months later, there is nothing to say. Because as you know, it's not a news story to us, it is our new reality. I wish I could say it gets easier, unfortunately I don't know that it does. Every day I think about what happened, so many unanswered wuestions, so many things I've second guessed. Along with my sadness, I feel stigmatized, as if everyone knows and has opinions about what happened. I suddenly became the woman who's husband was murdered. Not a membership I'd wish on anyone. Please know that you're not alone, we both are here and so are others. We are not alone in our grief. Thank you for sharing. 

Comment by Deanna N Nash on June 22, 2019 at 11:11am
6 days ago my husband and soulmate was brutly murdered and everyday gets a little harder I haven't seen him yet he's held up at the corners and I'm terrified to see him but I need to see him to convince my mind that this is real and get closure my life seems so out of touch with reality
 

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Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Bluebird, I am glad that you took that the right way.  I had a feeling you would know what I meant.  And your description is correct:  I have a general idea of how you feel but it's impossible for me or anyone else to know…"
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Luna Nightshade replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"I guess I can emphasize with the things you loved to do dying with the one you loved - as if that feeling has been pulled along, stretched thin to behind the veil. You don't have the energy to pursue them anymore, and just having something that…"
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bluebird replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Please don't apologize; I'm sorry I didn't respond to your last post in April, I'm not very good about keeping up with things anymore.  I don't feel that I'm moving forward at all, but I can see how that would work…"
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Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"You're welcome, Bluebird.  I didn't agree with everything she said.  The key for me was the "moving forward with" part.  The "move on" expression is very grating to me.  When I am in a nice place I…"
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bluebird replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Luna, You don't sound insane to me; you are SO lucky that you feel your love with you. I do not. I did a few times, in the month or so right after he died, but not since. I worry that this may be because he doesn't exist, because there is…"
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bluebird replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Thanks for the ink to that Ted Talk, Jeff.  I just watched it, and I can identify with some of what the speaker said, but not all of it. It's good that her phrase about moving forward with her husband, not moving on without him,…"
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Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"That's a good way to put it.  Your second paragraph doesn't sound insane at all.  I know what you mean.  I feel the same, and we're luck to have even that. In the video I thought the laughter was out of place - at least…"
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