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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Lost Dad to Lung Cancer

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I feel worse 2 and a half years on, than I ever did. 11 Replies

Started by Michael Thompson. Last reply by morgan May 12, 2019.

Give yourself time to heal

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Comment by Michael Thompson on July 8, 2019 at 5:50am

 I am at my wits end with loneliness.  Losing my wife in 2014 has taken away a certain confidence, and this happens to those left behind. Being married is much more than a ring, it is a friend, and companion, someone who knows you better than anybody else situation that you lose when one of you dies. This cannot be replaced. I am completely and utterly lost, and as such im at my wits end to know what to do to reverse things ???. I know it would be great for me to have a female companion, but I am not going looking. She and I met in passing in 1991, and it was instant, we met in a local bar, and she had just walked out on her second womanising husband after 18 years of married life. We hit it off famously, and we married in 1992, and I miss her. They say death is part of life, and of course it is. But just how are we Widows and Widowers supposed to pick up the pieces. ?. I am battling my emotions every day, the mood swings are awful..

Comment by dream moon JO B on May 13, 2019 at 3:00pm

thnx linda

its all thes in my hed

obesetyy is 1 of bigesttt 1s

yes i obesess

2 my diett is rubsishhh

big c runss in famlyy lookss lk bth sidess 

Comment by Michael Thompson on May 13, 2019 at 9:14am

Here in England, im deeply saddened to learn of Doris Day's death aged 97 I believe ?

My late wife and I loved her as a singer and actress.

She was the soul of human decency, with a beautiful voice that radiated goodness.

RIP Doris Day..

Comment by Linda Engberg on May 13, 2019 at 6:19am

Jo B,

It is a big decision to make. I will pray for you. Take Care.

Comment by dream moon JO B on May 12, 2019 at 5:03pm

thnx

linda

got lot on my mondd it min

do i go get big c testt dun or not to

wored in casess moms brestt c is bac agan

bit of me sayin get testt thn othr bot of me sayin evry 1 will thng im only thng of my me not otherss coz thy is mor improtin thn me 

my hedss spinnin in wot to do

Comment by Linda Engberg on April 24, 2019 at 6:19am

Hello Dream moon Jo B,

Good to see you back on the site. 

Comment by dream moon JO B on April 23, 2019 at 6:15pm

iv loss lot of pepplee iv lovd dealy to big c

iv

got to say gud by to sum 1 iv new for ovf 36 yrs to big c

im 44

im her oldeds nbor i am 

iv lovd her dealyy still do i do iv lovd dead pepelel for yrs if no 1 gets it no 1 will only on hear thy do

Comment by Linda Engberg on April 18, 2019 at 3:01pm

I feel it all depends on the relationship, no matter if man or woman.

Comment by M Adams on April 18, 2019 at 11:24am

Have heard the same thing about men and loneliness, based on the assumption that women usually have richer and more developed social networks, a wider range of relationships, etc.  Of course this isn’t true of all women, though it seems to often be the case.  My husband was the more sociable person in our household, and that encouragement to engage with the world, entertain, meet new people, was very good for me.  He sort of brought me along, I guess. Now I look at all the wine glasses, picnic baskets, even the croquet set — they reflect an outgoing, celebratory approach that was mine, was ours, but make me wonder who I am now that I am alone.  Will I do such things again?

Are you finding any successful techniques for being less anxious?  That is something I struggle with as well.  The loss of confidence you mention is definitely part of this anxiety problem...I read a bereavement memoir in which the writer talked about the shame of being bereaved, and that really resonated with me.  Maybe the shame leads to the anxiety by way of self consciousness?

Comment by Michael Thompson on April 18, 2019 at 3:28am

In my opinion as a Widower by 4 and a half years, men find dealing with being alone and loneliness harder than woman, this is what widows I meet tell me. 

I strive on a daily basis to at least be less anxious, but I miss my right arm in my wife. 

There is also a certain inner confidence that comes with marriage, its gone when your spouse dies. 

 

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