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Well I lost my dad back in December 2015 and now my mom at almost any minute or day...We took her to the hospital thinking it was a backache or a pinched nerve but ended up being so much more.........breast cancer that spread to both lungs and bones.....among some kidney failure and other issues about 9 total...she is so weak that she didn't think she could do radiation and has not eaten but one time in about 10 days almost 2 weeks soon and hardly any fluids..........It all happened so quick as where dad spent 15 months battling it....It isn't even 5 full months and I am going thru it again........I find that I am not alone with both going so close together. The only thing I can think of is that god wants me to move on with my life but I feel guilty to do it.......is this normal??/ Someone reach out to me.....
Patricia that is always the case in families...my mom would go see her mom and the sister would say oh good you went now I won't have too......I guess you are right...I feel like I could have done more but I also blame some of the doctors we recently had too, and I won't be going back to that practice anymore....
I know what you mean Shirley Thompson, about wanting them to come and see you in dreams. I actually made Rocky promise me that he would. As if even he could control this. One of my cousins said that somewhere in scripture it says that he has to get permission from God. I never knew this, so I don't know.
It must feel so bad to go over and over the last moments of your loved ones death, and have that death be such a struggle. That would be awful. I would not handle that well. Rocky died pretty quick and it seemed like he didn't struggle at all. He looked shock and amazed, but not in pain or sadness. It looked as if he was looking at something, and I kept getting in his face and asking him "what do you see???" and he would look around me. He was something and was more interested in that than me. I keep wondering if it was his mom, or dad or someone he was close to, come get him and take him through the veil. I hope that is it.
I'm sure you loved one knows your heart, and that you wanted to help him. That you suffered right along with him.