Five months ago I found out that a girlfriend I had in high school, who I have had no contact with in the 48 years since graduation, died of cancer over 35 years ago at the age of 28. This is causing me such severe grief that I have to think there is something wrong with me. In all those decades I focused on the family I started, and have only thought about her very little, when some event reminds of "one of those times back in the day".

It has been almost half a century since I have seen this girl (emphasize girl) who was 16 years ago when I last saw her. And I am nearly obsessed by this for the five months since this shocking discovery.  Is there something wrong with me?

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