I took a 2 year sabbatical from OnlineGriefSupport.

The CoronaVirus has been weighing heavy on my 

mind.  I want to be of service and help all those I can.  Let's talk.  How has this virus affected you?  I'm here for all of you.  

~ Diana, Grief Counselor

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yep its efecten lots mentlyy it is 

i no 

a lot of peplee off churchh wish is now cansled 

but eldy elderlyy can not sea frinds famly so on

coz we all hav to keep dsitanse we do esplyy risk gropus 

lk im it rsikk gropups if i go i wear a amskk a maskk i do 

pluss

bordme 

is getin me

as well as evry 1 r esl 

else

grt

to

sea u bac 

I'm glad to be back.  And glad to see you here dream moon JO B.  Where do you live?  I live in Central Florida and we are getting slammed.  

uk

but its bad all ovr uk 

evry wears on loc thy is

its bad all overr it is 

v 1 or 2 frindss its fitin ths viriss  pluss efect my anxstyy levilss ev n frindss famlyy but only keep in contactt by fon or vidio carlss

Yes, it's making everyone anxious.  I'm glad you are only in contact with your friends via phone or video calls.  Stay safe.

yep

loss a frind 2 day 2 cov19 its gonna efect lots cov 19 coz of loss or ptsd coz of it 

I'm really sorry to hear that.  And yes, I believe PTSD will be a result of this virus.  And to be honest, a person really needs a therapist that specializes in PTSD because PTSD is complex to say the least.  I had 2 family members with PTSD - hard to watch what they go through.  

 So, you live in the UK.  What part?  

thnx

n/e uk i do 

we all need 2 sea a conserl wen its all overr we do 

it juts feals if we in a a diastr horrorr moviee it duz

got my meds 2 day only tripp iv had evn thy wearn hazzrdd maskks thy is 

my frindss famlyy all i cud wz put a cardd thru door 

Hello Diana.  I don't know if I've ever thanked you for starting this website, but thank you, both for starting it and for continuing/maintaining it.

This Coronavirus situation is insane.  Globally, in terms of how many people are getting sick, and how many are dying.  Nationally, in the U.S., due to the utterly incompetent narcissist in the White House not giving a damn about anyone other than himself, and not taking the necessary steps to protect people in this country (not to mention that horrifically sorry state of U.S. healthcare -- not the doctors and nurses, but the system itself).  

I find myself terrified of catching coronavirus, as well as terrified of passing it to my family members if I were to get it (my sister has asthma, though she rarely has any occurrence of it anymore, and my mother is somewhat immunocompromised).  At the same time, I have wanted to die ever since my husband died, so I feel pulled in two directions.  Mostly, worrying about all of this has really kicked my panic disorder into higher gear, whereas I had it largely under control for a good few years prior to my husband's death, and barely felt anxiety/panic at all after his death (which I have always attributed to depersonalization, lack of affect, and there being no damn point to panic because the worst thing had already happened).

Anyway, I don't know if that's the sort of response for which you were looking, but that's how it is for me these days.

Thank you! You are very welcome.  It's very good to hear from you.  

Yes, I agree about the coronavirus.  Crazy times!  Yes, I am doing my best not to catch this virus. I am a thinker and boy do I think and study about this virus.  I have a history of panic disorder as well.  I too have kept my anxiety at bay in the past, so I am feeling some anxiety as well.  

I'm glad you shared that with me.  Let's keep in touch!  I will continue to visit this site.  I'm glad to see it's still up and running.  

Hi Diana!

My mother died in a care home last April from vascular dementia. I was not able to see her in her last month and change of life because the pandemic shut the care home to visitors. I was in phone contact with the staff daily.

After my mother died, I could not see her remains, either at the care home or at the funeral home, because of the pandemic. The only option was cremation.

My mother died in April. I only buried her last Friday, 17 July, because funerals were not allowed until them. I did a horrible job of the funeral, warning older relatives in advance that, although I welcomed their presence, their presence would expose them to the virus. I also told those who decided to attend that masks were absolutely necessary and to avoid hugging or touching me so that they would not get the virus (As far as I know, I do not have the virus, but I do not and did not want to take the chance of passing it on to a vulnerable person.) Of course, this was monstrous of me to demand, but I did not want to infect anyone. I also avoided any kind of reception afterwards for exactly that purpose. Monstrous of me again, but, again, I did not want to infect anyone.

My mother was diagnosed with vascular dementia two years ago and change. Since then until her fall "while getting ready to go to work" last November, I was her caretaker. I only got respite 1-2x a week, so I am used to not going out much. The difference now is that I no longer have the mission of protecting my mother's life, and then of burying my mother. I just go out for groceries and other unavoidables. My doctor will only talk to me on the phone. If it was not for the pandemic, I would try to find a bereavement support group near me. I would also try to volunteer and help people.

Sometimes, I feel the walls move in a little closer. The worst part of my days are whenever I am between deep sleep and waking up. That is when I remember and realise that my mother is dead. That feels like a kick to the stomach.

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