"Hi Luna,
I feel bad about your anniversary. It really hit me hard to read your words about how you cried that hard. I can't come up with anything to say, but I get it.
I am at 6 1/2 years. 6 1/2 lost years. "
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"Loves Knows No Death" - This Could Help You!
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First, I don't mean to offend anyone. If you don't agree with my viewpoint, please ignore this post. I am really only trying to help.As I have mentioned before, I am a total hardcore skeptic of…Continue
Started this discussion. Last reply by Jean Oct 1, 2016.
I Feel Bad About My Thinking This Way
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Three weeks ago I lost the love of my life to breast cancer. I did everything I could for her. My story appears here, if you're interested. …Continue
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Things That We Learn
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I never knew how hard it was to lose someone until I experienced a loss firsthand.People will say these things - drives me crazy. I know they mean well, but...1. She's in a better place.2. God had…Continue
Started this discussion. Last reply by Jeff C May 6, 2017.
Just Lost My Girlfriend to Breast Cancer Last Week
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PART 1I knew it was coming, but I am broken. If you're interested, I have chronicled our experiences here: …Continue
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"Hi Drewtoo,
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Yes, I went through all of those things and some of that is still there. This rocks your world in such a profound way. It would be a lie if I (or anyone) told…"
"Drew, thank you for asking. I am doing okay, thanks. It's just the new reality. Nothing feels right. I have had some very interesting dreams about my girlfriend, and I feel that we are in touch late at night. I…"
"That is really good that you have had those sensations. Medium Blair Robertson suggests that we are receiving many signs that we miss because we aren't paying attention, but I think that is easier said than done. I don't know…"
"Cobham is one of the greatest of all time. I don't consider him to be a jazz drummer. He plays everything. He has performed with the Grateful Dead, Peter Gabriel, and a host of other rock guys. I hate jazz. He does the…"
"Bluebird and I touched on your thoughts about the afterlife. As I mentioned, I would like to believe that our separations from the most important people in our lives are only temporary, and that these X-amount of years is the blink of an eye…"
"Wow - what a direct comment! And it's great that you told him that you appreciated it. That is so refreshing. I actually had to pause when I read that.
Not related, but speaking of drummers I saw Billy Cobham at the…"
"We're always on the same page. I think a lot of people just don't know what to say and have never experienced the loss of the most important person in their life. And don't get me started on the ol' "moving…"
"Oh, man, I hate that line! You nailed it! I can't believe that I am admitting this, but I follow medium Blair Robertson and I like his short YouTube videos. But he uses that line sometimes and drives me crazy!"
"Luna,
I am sorry that you are going through this, also. You described it very well. I won't toss out any stupid platitudes or cliches. I hope it helps you a little to write about your boyfriend."
"I understand what you mean. When people tell me to think about the good times, I think about the good times with her that I can no longer have."
"Thank you, Bluebird. You are so good at describing how this is. I hope you are as well as you can be, also..."
"Hi Drewtoo,
Thank you for your kind words.
Nothing is enough. Support, words, friends, etc. Nothing I saw will help. But I think people just adapt. Thing of grief as love turned inside out. The more you love someone…"
"I'm not Bluebird (she really knows about this), but I wanted to say that I am really sorry to see what you wrote. I won't offer you empty words and slogans or advice. Only you know how you feel. No one else can. I…"
"You're welcome, Bluebird. Thanks for asking. Just dealing with this awful reality 6 years later. I'm over the shock and and am just dealing with the way it is. How are you, otherwise?"
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- At 11:28pm on November 19, 2016,
Patricia HELEN said…
Jeff thank you for recommending the book 'The light Between Us'. I believe that the strongest thing we have left now is that loving and being loved will pervade for all time both in this life and the next. I haven't felt any concrete signs in the sense of a butterfly or a humming bird such as others have felt but there is great comfort in feeling loved and that this goes beyond this world... I hope you are finding some comfort also in this book and in the knowledge that you will be loved forever by your loved one who passed in June. helen
- At 11:34am on October 3, 2016,
Ruthie said…
Jeff, I wanted to personally thank you for telling the group about the book the light between us. It has given me so much comfort and hope and I am not even to the middle yet. I had a tree frog on my window about every night this summer catching bugs and watching me--upstairs window--and then one night I went to the bathroom and there he was jumping down the hallway--and so many pennies I find right after something big happens. So Crazy good:)
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