It's been about 15 months since my mom died after battling colon cancer that metastasized and spread quickly.

Mom's courage and faith were extraordinary. She seemed to provide us with some final lessons about life and people in the final months of her life.

I miss her so much - her optimism, love of family and her persevering spirit.

Since her death, my family and I have to deal with some difficult things with my stepfather. He remarried within 8 months of her death and tried to manipulate us into supporting his decision.
His new wife was a distant friend to the family and moved in quickly at a time when my stepfather was vulnerable.

I have no hatred in my heart for them. I'm hurt and disappointed in both of them for many reasons. Mostly, for how they have treated my mother's family after her death.
My mom's family showed up to help care for her and provided so much emotional support in the 2 years of her illness.
My stepfather at 81 years old has breached our trust in him. His behavior has been reprehensible, sending wedding invitations that arrived on mom's birthday, withdrawing financial help for their only grandson - a minor child.

The pain I feel for missing Mom is compounded by the selfishness of my stepfather since her death.
I recently found out he bought life insurance for himself and insisted that she didn't need any. He figured he would die before her. When I confirmed this it only added to my disgust at his lack of character and integrity.

I appreciate this support group. Sometimes it all feels so hurtful and hard to deal with. My mother was a loving, generous and giving human being. To think that she trusted a man she was married to for 20 years and he let her down like this is hard. It's to the point my family and I do not interact with him and his new wife.
She moved into the place we called home with him and has since spent thousands of my stepfathers money remodeling.

For those who have dealt with similar situations, I would like to hear what helped you to deal with the sense of loss, hurt and betrayal.

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