Hi Carol, Im really sorry you are dealing with the same pain I am.  To answer your question about making big changes, one of the last conversations I had with my husband was one on this subject.  He made me promise to not make any big changes for the one year.  I promised, I told him I would be ok, I promised to be ok and within hours the cancer took control of his brain and we had to keep him medicated and asleep for his own good.  He passed in that drugged sleep 18 hours later.  I think he needed to know everything was in place for me and then he let go.  So I will stay in this house, keep his truck, but there is no rule saying when you feel ready you cant change your situation. I believe we have to trust ourselves enough to know what is right for us.  As long as you are not feeling pressure from some other source, do what you feel is right