I just found out that this picture was taken. I didn't remember. Do you think it's strange that I'm glad to have it. Is it wrong to take this kind of pictures in the hospital? This was my kiss goodbye to my daughter Kasey.

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Linda, my heart is aching for you right now. I am so very sorry for the loss of your sister, Sandy. I have lost a brother, so I do know how much it hurts to lose one of your siblings. I lost my son, Zach on September 3rd in a tragic accident. Tomorrow would be Zach's 24th birthday, I cannot believe he is not here, the loss is overwhelming and I know how Sandy must have been feeling too. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers. Peace be with you Sandy.

This really took my heart today.  We all first hand what Sandy has been going through. I noticed the picture of the grave site shows Kasey's birthday was yesterday.  Both Sandy and Kasey will be in my prayers.  It is difficult to get up every day and take on life.  Those that haven't lost a child would never know how much effort and pain we have to endure.  My thoughts and prayers go out to the family.  

Oh no, I am so saddened to hear that Sandy could no longer bear the loss of her beautiful daughter.  It is a huge loss for those of us here.  My heart goes out to you, her sister ~ as well as the rest of her family.  As heartwrenching as this is, I do understand how unbearable life can be at times without our children here.  

Dear sister.... How very Sad and Tragic.   And to this ... you now become a member of such a sad group.   I really felt the saddness of her photo of saying goodbye.... i have those same type of photos of my son Niles.   Grief is such a raw pain... and I have talked about the multitude of pills that have been left behind that one could take and go to sleep and be done with this life.....  I have had this suffering 2 times in my life.... first when I was 21 and my first husband died  (Similar to the way my son died) and then my Son.... since I also have lost my father.... but the Husband was the dress rehersal for this child loss..... 

I don't know why some of us continue to live each day one at a time and then some like Sandra.... just can not find a hope of someday feeling just a little bit better... less lonely...

Maybe the reason I am here is because I have been so Angry with GOD that I don't know if I even believe HE Exists and I don't know or believe that there is that "Better Place" or that I would Join anyone in "Heaven".  I just know there is a box buried in the ground that contains Steve (My 1st Husband) and a box in my dresser with Cremains of my Son... And I look only at Photographs of what WAS.... and IS no longer.  And feel devestated that there is Nothing I can do to change those facts..... Except to keep his memory alive through our Benefit that hellps Families Still Living with Special Needs.... And his Organ Donations have kept so many ALIVE....  so that his death is somewhat not in vane....  Please Sister.... continue to talk with this group.... we are heart sick to learn that Sandra taken her life... I am sure she has had many who could have helped her.... and cared.... just wish she could have found a lifeline here..... like many of us have reached for in this group.  Maybe we need to all learn to grab on and hold on.... Help is On The Way..... FRIEND!

I'm so deeply saddened to hear of Sandra's death.  She had been on my mind a lot the past few days.  Thank you for letting us know.  I hope she will at last find some peace and be reunited with her beautiful Casey.

Thank you, Grace and everyone.  We had Sandy's funeral today and I ask and pray that each one of you PLEASE PLEASE reach out for MORE help if you are feeling overwhelmed by your grief.  I know I have no right to ask that of you--to ask you to keep going on with your unimaginable pain--but I will and I am.  Please......linda v

Thinking about Sandy and her family.

I wish I had one of our farewell to my son... difficult as it would be to have it, I wish I did... anything about him was precious...IS precious to me ...beyond human understanding I think.... I think you are fortunate to have this last goodbye kiss in a photo....

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