Lenora,
In 2001 I lost my grandfather, who raised me, to cancer and my brother to murder. 2001 was a bad year for me. I never met my brother, he was raised by my paternal grandparents, never met them either, and everyone kept the truth from me about my brother. I'm really suffering from not meeting him before he was murdered, I only found out he existed 5 months after his death. It is so amazing that I grieve over someone I have never met, but yet feel such a bond to him. I won't bore you with the details, but I will tell you grief is a journey best taken with others who are experiencing the same. It really helps to share. You might want to post pictures if you wish.
Diana