Just saw this today in one of my forums.  Grief has been messy for me and this describes it in picture form.  How about you? How would you describe your grief?

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My grief was 95% anger.

Yes, anger makes sense. Are you still angry? Have you been in another stage of grief?  Here are the 5 stages.  We can waffle in and out of any one of them at any time.  

  • denial.
  • anger.
  • bargaining.
  • depression.
  • acceptance.

Thanks.

Not as angry as in the beginning.

I don't really "believe" in the 5 stages of grief. These were discovered/developed by by Dr. Kuebler-Ross who worked with terminally ill patients who faced their own death and she found that they were all going through these similar stages of grieving their own upcoming death.

I do think that these 5 stages can be a help for generally grieving people, but it's not for me.

Thanks for the list, though.

Yes, that's absolutely true that Kuebler-Ross developed them to describe the process patients go through as they come to terms with their terminal illnesses.  Later they were applied to grieving friends and family members, who seemed to undergo a similar process after the loss of their loved ones. However, the actual grief process looks a lot less like a neat set of stages and a lot more like a roller coaster of emotions.  

Looks accurate, aside from a couple. I don't even realize when I'm acting weird. My scattered brain is not helping any. 

I describe my grief as painfully red and something I am NOT allow to have - so I have to wear masks for the world...

That image is a great representation of the chaos that grieving has felt like for me. Time has also had a strange effect, in which it still feels like it just happened yesterday. I can still feel it all as though it just happened. I can still hear the screams, feel the sensations in my body as though they just occurred. My journey hasn't been any type of linear healing whatsoever and I don't expect that it should be. I have grown in certain very positive ways as a human being since being continually devastated by tragic loss, but it is still very much a battle just to make it through each day. I do my best to ground myself in order to make it from one moment to the next. 

I remember this from a group I attended a few years ago. It’s the only page I kept from the binder. 
Still moi.....today. 
thx for sharing 

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