I am so sorry to hear of your loss and the silence of your partner.
Because you are some distance apart and he is not talking right now you don't know what comforting words he needs to hear. I have a suggestion that will show you care but not assume you know how he feels. Follow the link below:
HELP FOR THOSE WHO GRIEVE - The intense feelings associated with grief are normal. when my father in law passed away I got sick, It was like having a virus but knowing that that was the ways some people react was comforting to me... I was normal. this is a page that can be detached and hung on the frig for a reminder.
COPING WITH GRIEF
1: ACCEPT SUPPORT FROM FAMILY AND FRIENDS
According to your needs, balance time spent with others and time spent alone.
2: WATCH YOUR DIET, AND MAKE TIME FOR EXERCISE
Eat healthful food, drink plenty of water, and exercise moderately.
3: GET PLENTY OF SLEEP
Recognize that sleep is essential to dealing with the fatigue of grieving.
4: BE FLEXIBLE
Since everyone grieves differently, find what works for you.
5: AVOID SELF-DESTRUCTIVE HABITS
Avoid the misuse of alcohol or drugs—which creates more problems than it solves.
6: BALANCE YOUR TIME
Alternate periods of grieving with time for socializing and recreation.
7: KEEP A ROUTINE
Regain a sense of normalcy by keeping yourself occupied with a good routine.
8: AVOID MAKING BIG DECISIONS TOO SOON
If possible, wait a year or more before making big decisions you may later regret.
9: REMEMBER YOUR LOVED ONE
Collect pictures and mementos or write in a journal to keep alive your memory of the person who has died.
10: GET AWAY
Make time for a change of pace—
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss and the silence of your partner.
Because you are some distance apart and he is not talking right now you don't know what comforting words he needs to hear. I have a suggestion that will show you care but not assume you know how he feels. Follow the link below:
HELP FOR THOSE WHO GRIEVE - The intense feelings associated with grief are normal. when my father in law passed away I got sick, It was like having a virus but knowing that that was the ways some people react was comforting to me... I was normal. this is a page that can be detached and hung on the frig for a reminder.
COPING WITH GRIEF
1: ACCEPT SUPPORT FROM FAMILY AND FRIENDS
According to your needs, balance time spent with others and time spent alone.
2: WATCH YOUR DIET, AND MAKE TIME FOR EXERCISE
Eat healthful food, drink plenty of water, and exercise moderately.
3: GET PLENTY OF SLEEP
Recognize that sleep is essential to dealing with the fatigue of grieving.
4: BE FLEXIBLE
Since everyone grieves differently, find what works for you.
5: AVOID SELF-DESTRUCTIVE HABITS
Avoid the misuse of alcohol or drugs—which creates more problems than it solves.
6: BALANCE YOUR TIME
Alternate periods of grieving with time for socializing and recreation.
7: KEEP A ROUTINE
Regain a sense of normalcy by keeping yourself occupied with a good routine.
8: AVOID MAKING BIG DECISIONS TOO SOON
If possible, wait a year or more before making big decisions you may later regret.
9: REMEMBER YOUR LOVED ONE
Collect pictures and mementos or write in a journal to keep alive your memory of the person who has died.
10: GET AWAY
Make time for a change of pace—
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