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Theresa, that is a wonderful tribute to your mom. That picture says a lot about the kind of person she was. I guess, for me, the only tribute to my mom is in my heart.
I didn't talk to my mom on the phone. I never had to. She was always with me. It's the silence that bothers me the most. Just hearing her television playing in the sun room. And if my dogs were not under me it was because they were cuddled up next to her. I miss listening to all of the phone conversations between my mom and her sisters. Mom always talked on speaker phone. I never realized the amount of security hearing my mom's voice gave me. As long as I could hear her laugh, all was right with the world. Without her the world just seems like a cold and lonely place. I have plenty of friends and I certainly get out enough, but there was a sense of security that being loved so much provided. I knew how much I mattered to her. I can't replicate that. I can't wave a magic wand and be loved like that again. I can't pray it back.
Yes it is 8:30 am
Have a restful night, namaste my friend....
Theresa thanks a lot. I guess guys generally talk less on phone but yes it does not mean that they don't love their parents.
It is 6 PM in India and I am just about to leave my office.
Have a great day ahead, I guess it is early morning at your side.
Avi you should not have guilt, my brother lived far from her and only spoke maybe once a month, it doesn't mean you don't love her.
Thank you for commenting on the pic
Have a good day or night I don't know what time it is there.
Amazing Theresa. It is great that you used to talk to her multiple times in a day because few people like me will live with life long guilt of not talking to their mothers often.
Thanks for sharing the pic as well.
Brett so touching, it hard every day, to get up and do the same thing over and over again, but with one thing missing our moms, it was a whole life change for me, I used to get up in the morning and call my mom before she went to 7am mass, just making sure she was ok, because she has lived alone for 17 years in the same house she and my dad bought in I think in 1955, then I would call on my way to work and on my way home, then to tell her about my day, and two more times before bed, and the last one at bed time where she would end our conversation by saying "Love you sweetheart".....she was the best mom, patient, kind, compassionate, she had no hate in her and I still am amazed at how many peoples lives she touched, from the 7 Eleven to the Wawa to the Acme and all over. :( The photo I am going to try to post is from where she used to go every day for coffee with the gang and sometimes for dinner, the girls who owned it loved her and she had one seat she would sit in all the time. When I look at it my heart aches.
I had a friend who lost her mom in high school. I remember feeling so sorry for her and thinking how horrible that would have been if that had happened to me. My friend was at my mom's funeral. She told me that she would have rather have lost her mom when she did, than to lose my mom when I did. I can kind of see her point. I not only had a lifetime with my mom, we just became inseparable as time went by. But this is not a competition. It's horrible for everyone. There is no ideal way for your mom to die. I will say that I wish I had been retired when my mom passed. I'm not even sure why. It was just hard to start over again after mom died. I was tired. Emotionally exhausted. I still am. It would have been nice to stay at home and collect a pension. But that wasn't how things worked out. I'm still tired. Emotionally, it is so hard to to try to get up the gumption to live each day, not simply exist, but to live each day. I miss her so much. I remember how many times I would sit by her bed and hold her hand while she slept. I would put my forehead on her hand and just pray that she would make it for a little while longer. I miss the feel of her hand in mine. I would kiss her on the forehead and say goodnight. I would always tell her that I loved her. She would mumble (half asleep), "I love you, too. Thanks for taking care of me." That was my purpose. It was as if my whole life had led up to that point. I wasn't ready for it to end.
Thanks for sharing the pic Bluebell
Love from India
Below is a picture I took at the Dana Point Marina In Orange County California. I thought it might bring a sense of peace and serenity to your day.
Bluebell
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