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Comment by Theresa on April 14, 2018 at 11:55am

My apologies for the typo that should say which is

Comment by Theresa on April 14, 2018 at 11:55am

Bluebell thank you for your thoughts my thoughts are with you also I’m 

i’m probably not doing what I should be witches working to occupy my 

mind.  I work in retail so I’m busy all day which sometimes is a good thing. 

Comment by BLUEBELL on April 14, 2018 at 11:42am

I am just checking in and sending caring and comforting thought to all of you. As far as myself, the death of my sister's husband has opened up thoughts of Mom and how much I miss her. I have shed many tears this past week.

Bluebell

Comment by BLUEBELL on April 11, 2018 at 12:46pm

Crystal

My sister is playing the " If I had just intervened sooner, he would be here today." She is also replaying the whole incident in her head. I understand as I did and still play the same things about my Mom's death. She reassures me, when I need it, that I did everything I could to help Mom. Now it is my turn to help her get through this and to listen to what she has to say. I do not try to distract her when she cries or when she wants to talk about it. I know from personal experience, that distraction from an outside source does not help. When it is time, she will distract herself. 

I wish I could lessen her pain. I wish I could lessen everybody's pain. But I can not. All I can really do is offer emotional support and also try to help with some of the responsibilities she will have coming up. I think we all know how physically and emotionally draining a time like this is.

Bluebell

Comment by Brett Bowman on April 11, 2018 at 12:00pm

Sometimes hearing the words, "The circle of life" just does not suffice. 

Comment by BLUEBELL on April 11, 2018 at 10:32am

No complications from surgery. He had one day of not feeling well like he had the flu, then that night he could not stand and had difficulty breathing. 911 was called. He went to one hospital, then was transported to another. He made it to ICU, but then began coding. What complicated things was that for some unknown reason, his platlets were very low which meant his blood had lost some of its ability to clot. When my sister learned he had started bleeding into his brain, she said to let him go. He would not want to live if his brain was not functioning. He had just had a full blood work up maybe 2 weeks ago, and everything was fine. He did not believe in an afterlife because being a scientist, he said it was not proven. But he was a good man and helped many people through his teaching and research. I have to believe that he has a place in heaven now and that he and my Mom are together. And if there is political debuts in heaven, they are having one now, just like they did when they were both on earth.

Bluebell 

Comment by Crystal K on April 11, 2018 at 6:26am

Bluebell i feel for you. Sepsis is a horrible and very deadly illness thst not a lot of people know about. My mom also died from complications oftom sepsis, heart failure, etc. It kills me everyday thinking about it. Im sure your sister woll be replaying the circumstances leading to her usband’s desth over and over. Send her our love. 

Comment by Theresa on April 11, 2018 at 5:27am

Unfortunately I have unanswered questions, but guess I have to live with those.

I lean on my faith everyday...

Comment by Theresa on April 11, 2018 at 5:26am

Brett you are so right always.

Bluebell, did he have surgery and get sepsis?  

Do any of us ever sit and think when will it by my time and how will I get there?

Its the mystery of life 

I still cry when I think of my mom and seeing a happy go lucky person one day and in cardiac arrest the next.  

I just try to accept what was given to me.

Comment by BLUEBELL on April 11, 2018 at 4:39am

Sepsis. My brother in law died of sepsis. My sister had to make a decision after he coded 3 times. We all loved him very much. He was a very special person and a respected scientist and professor. I am devastated. My sister is crushed. Things happen that are horrible and it is just not fair. First there is Mom and Dad. Then there is just Mom. Then there is no Mom. There is my sister and her husband. Now there is just my sister. Then there will be no more sister. I just hate this. I hate adding grief upon grief upon grief!

Bluebell 

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