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Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 6 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Martha Washburn Sep 22, 2022.

Loss of spouse… 3 Replies

For 40+ years we were together…married 39 years….We were to celebrate our 40th anniversary…Nobody who hasn’t been married, and lost a spouse could possibly understand….even though he was into many…Continue

Started by Susan B. Last reply by Connie Sep 1, 2022.

Today is the anniversary of my wedding day 2 Replies

I got married on May 1, 1992 and lost my husband on June 30, 2017. My wedding day was the happiest day of my life and if I had one wish, it would be to go back and live that day over. It has been…Continue

Started by Carol Klotz. Last reply by Carol Klotz May 3, 2020.

Lost my light in the darkness 2 Replies

I lost my wife on the 25 of March after returning from my Dads funeral. She is everything to me. No matter how bad it got, no matter how much my PTSD drug me down, She has been my light in the…Continue

Started by Shane Hughes. Last reply by Shane Hughes Apr 16, 2020.

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Comment by Linda Engberg on March 28, 2018 at 7:30am

If wasn't for the people on thls website, I would lose my mind. We are all in the same boat, this is my 5th Easter without my Husband and I choose to be alone with my thoughts of Easter past with him. Picture with his son Bob

Comment by Linda Engberg on March 19, 2018 at 4:52pm

Hi Maxey,

You don't need to shape up Maxey, because I know I never will.

Comment by Maxey on March 19, 2018 at 1:52pm

Hi, 

i have'nt been around for a while.  I had the ridiculous notion that over time I would get better, but that has not happened.  I think, if anything, I am getting a bit "insane" thinking of how meaningless my life has become.

The few friends I have made since I moved are nice, but I have no inclination to do things with them.  When I do, I am wishing it to be over so I can go home.  When I am home, I then realize how lonely I am and begin the downward spiral of crying and feeling sorry for myself.  I then start thinking, "what if death is just that, and I will not see my love again?".  That makes me so upset that I think I am going to totally lose my mind.

Nothing seems to interest me anymore; I sleep until noon or later to make the days go by.  This surely is "hell" on earth!  Every time I get a pain, I am hoping that it is a sign that I am going to get my wish and die.

Sorry to be a downer, but I am really beginning to worry about my mental health.  I thought I was doing so much better a few months ago, but now I am in an even worse place.  I miss my husband and all the things we used to do.  My neighbor's were telling me how they were planning a cruise and how excited they were.  I had to leave because I could feel the tears welling up.  We used to love to travel and planned something each years when we retired.  Now there is nothing to look forward to, and I am ashamed that I envy others who have their spouses and their happiness.

Wow!  What a wonderful life!?  I hope someone can reply and make me know that this is just not me and I should "shape up"!

Comment by Linda Engberg on March 17, 2018 at 2:41pm

Thank You for caring.

Comment by Marjorie Willcox on March 17, 2018 at 12:23pm

Dear dear Linda we feel for your pain.

Comment by Linda Engberg on March 17, 2018 at 6:04am

Linda,

5 years without my dear Husband and it only gets worse everyday. The only thing to stop is death.

Comment by Meva L Cox on March 17, 2018 at 1:25am

I know I should try to say something like "it will get better, you are not alone, put on a happy face, it doesn't help to feel sorry for yourself, time heals you have a lot of children and grand children which is a great support", and I could go on and on with all the things I have either read or heard. It has been almost 14 months since the Love of my life went to Heaven and I don't feel one bit better. I am on the verge of crying or crying my eyes out most of the time. Jim and I were together for 41 and married for 36 years. It was a second marriage for us both and it couldn't have been much better. I am so lonely and I have a hard time functioningbecause he was my rock and my rock is gone. I wouldn't do anything to myself because I don't believe in it plus I wouldn't do that to my family but I just pray for the time I will be with him again. I pray for all of you going through this unbearable time.

Comment by Sheila Ferguson on March 17, 2018 at 12:17am

I hope it helps because nothing is helping right now.

Comment by bluebird on March 16, 2018 at 11:27pm

Sheila,

It is unbearable. So many of us here are in the same kind of situation, so we can empathize. I hope that coming to this site helps you. {{{{hugs}}}}

Comment by Sheila Ferguson on March 16, 2018 at 11:13pm

I lost my husband in February 2018 and I am finding it unbearable without him.  How are we supposed to carry on like this?  It is terrible.

 

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