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Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 6 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Martha Washburn Sep 22, 2022.

Loss of spouse… 3 Replies

For 40+ years we were together…married 39 years….We were to celebrate our 40th anniversary…Nobody who hasn’t been married, and lost a spouse could possibly understand….even though he was into many…Continue

Started by Susan B. Last reply by Connie Sep 1, 2022.

Today is the anniversary of my wedding day 2 Replies

I got married on May 1, 1992 and lost my husband on June 30, 2017. My wedding day was the happiest day of my life and if I had one wish, it would be to go back and live that day over. It has been…Continue

Started by Carol Klotz. Last reply by Carol Klotz May 3, 2020.

Lost my light in the darkness 2 Replies

I lost my wife on the 25 of March after returning from my Dads funeral. She is everything to me. No matter how bad it got, no matter how much my PTSD drug me down, She has been my light in the…Continue

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Comment by Nancy on October 26, 2017 at 5:32pm
Thank you for your comnent Linda.
Comment by Linda Engberg on October 26, 2017 at 4:07pm

Nancy,

After I was done with the hospice therapist, she referred to another therapist as I was still grieving after 13 months with her.  

Comment by Nancy on October 26, 2017 at 11:33am
Thank you JenShep. I will download it.
Comment by JenShep on October 26, 2017 at 11:30am
And Cheyenne, I totally get it. And I definitely wasn’t meaning to push anything on you. Please let us know how your experience is with the grief counselor. Everyone has pressed me to see one but I have resisted so far for some reason. I’d love to know if you find it helpful.
Comment by JenShep on October 26, 2017 at 11:24am
And Nancy, That was the first book I read after Tom died. It gave me some hope. Since then I’ve read so many more. I recently read Love Never Dies by Dr. Jamie Turner (it was only $3 to download from amazon) and this lady got all kinds of signs and communications and it made me think “why can’t I?” so I just started asking Tom for specific things and, amazingly, he delivered. I think reading about her experiences made my mind more open to it and I think this helped. When the grief is at its worst it seems to close off the connection or something. Maybe give that book a try?
Comment by JenShep on October 26, 2017 at 10:58am
Morgan, I think my beliefs are pretty similar to yours. I have that same fear that if I killed myself I would damage something in my soul that would mean I’d never get to be with Tom again, or at least that it would take eons. I definitely don’t believe there is some being calling the shots or that something spiritual could be so cruel, as you said. The only thing I’ve come across that might explain it is related to reincarnation and the idea that we, as souls, choose our next life based on what lessons we think our soul needs to learn. I got this message or feeling once when I was asking “why?” that said I chose it, that I wanted to grow spiritually in a big way. I don’t know if there’s any truth to this but it does make a little bit of sense to me. But if I chose this I’m really mad at myself now.
And, like you, I go up and down with it. Sometimes I feel okay thinking Tom is here and that at some point I’ll be with him in the same form and that will be the happiest day of my life. And sometimes I sink down and lose a grasp on these feelings/beliefs and then the grief is at its worst.
I’ve recently started stating my intention because I’ve come across this idea that it helps to manifest your wishes. And my intention is that I will join Tom by the year 2020 and before then I will figure out how to communicate with him. One day I was out walking and asked for a sign and looked up and the license plate on the car parked in the road was “CU 2020.” I noticed it particularly because Tom’s license plate is CU 1832. So now before I go to sleep I state this intention. It makes me feel a little bit better, like I’m doing something, anything, to get to Tom.
Comment by Nancy on October 26, 2017 at 8:33am
I would like to see a therapist for grief counseling. Problem is I live in a pretty small town and not a ton of choices. Hospice offers it but I had a few issues with Hospice so not sure that would be the best choice. How did you find the right therapist if you are in grief counseling?
Comment by Linda Engberg on October 26, 2017 at 8:16am

TO MY DEAR FRIENDS

BEFORE HOUDINI TOLD HIS WIFE BEFORE HE DIED, IF HE CAN CONTACT HER AND THERE IS AN AFTERLIFE HE WOULD DO SO ON OCTOBER 31, SHE WENT TO MEDIUM FOR OVER 20 YEARS ON THE 31ST AND NEVER HAD A SIGN.

Comment by Nancy on October 25, 2017 at 10:14pm
Very moving comments Morgan, Cheyenne, JenShep and Linda. I read the book Hello from Heaven a few months ago. Every night I go to bed hoping I will get a visit from Dale. A sign...anything. So far nothing. I remember thinking when he passed he would let me know he was ok and eternal and it was so very comforting. The day he passed we had 4 eagles circle over our house. No other houses in the addition. Then they went higher and higher until they were out of sight. There was one day I felt like he was in the car with me and another I felt someone touch my shoulder. It has been weeks since anything like that has happened. I am totally exhausted from hoping I will get a sign. I swear I don't know what I believe anymore. Hoping we will be connected again is all that keeps me going.
Comment by Cheyenne Steffen on October 25, 2017 at 9:30pm
I respect everyone's right to believe what they choose. I am a person of science and that won't change. I have studied religion intensely and have studied science and evolution. My choice is science.
I wonder if any of you have gone to grief counselling? I am going next week and hopeful the therapist can help.
I won't last 5 years or even 2 years being in this much pain and suffering. I need to find a way to cope or I will end it. I know this about myself. I have no fear of dying or of what would happen after I die. That's just my belief and I don't wish to push that on anyone.
Anyway... if you have had grief counselling I will be interested to hear about your experience.
 

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