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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by Brett Bowman on September 24, 2017 at 9:28am

It is true that being anxious will not help anything. There are so many things in life that we just have no control over. This is certainly one of them.

It's just so hard to stop having those feelings though. My stomach is tied in knots right now. The morning has always been the hardest time for me.

Like Theresa, I think of my mom all day. I have talked to many people who have lost their moms. Some actually tell me that a complete day will go by without them thinking about their moms. Some say that they really do not think of their moms at all until a memory is triggered.

I have to say, I want to get better, but I'm not sure that I ever want to get to the point where I don't think about my mom. I want to be able to coexist with my memories. 

Comment by Theresa on September 24, 2017 at 6:23am

Bluebell, it will in time...

I talked things through in my mind a lot and said to myself well I was anxious yesterday and the day before and it did not change anything, I did see my dr and took something for a few months and I am now weaning off of it, the medication helped my anxiety and my body told me enough is enough.

My mom is in my mind morning noon and night I don't think that will ever change.

But I do feel differently towards the so called friends of mine that wrote it off, I don't even talk to some of them.

Bluebell just remember God is next to you lean on him and he will guide you through this, he is always there for us.

Comment by Brett Bowman on September 24, 2017 at 12:10am

Prayers sent. God Bless you and give you strength and peace.

Comment by Luisa Salter on September 23, 2017 at 11:35pm

Today we moved everything out of Mom's apartment. It has uncovered a new layer of grief and I am utterly exhausted. My house and garage are in complete disarray with boxes everywhere. I feel so bogged down with things and things to to. I have been crying almost all day. And my thinking feels very slow, almost like I can't think at all at times. I can't make decisions very well. This week I will have to pick up Mom's remains and death certificates and start dealing with her financial affairs. And there is the obituary and the memorial service to do. Please pray for me, I am overwhelmed.

Comment by BLUEBELL on September 23, 2017 at 1:59pm

Theresa

I am doing my best to have faith that the anxiety will lessen. I find that staying busy helps, but I run out of things to do that distract me or hold my interest. I guess all I can do is keep trying.

Bluebell

Comment by Brett Bowman on September 22, 2017 at 11:11pm

Crystal, you know that you are not being the least bit irrational. My mom died on Christmas Eve. We all knew that it would be mom's last Christmas. She called him and asked him when he was coming. He said, "I'm not. My roommate is going home for Christmas and someone needs to stay here and take care of the dogs." I will never forget the look on my mom's face when he said that. 

I'm still pissed off. There is nothing irrational about it. At the same time I should warn you, being angry at your sister will only make the pain worse. Some feelings are just natural. The anger I feel towards my brother and sister may be warranted, and I am angry, but I wish that I was not. There is not a thing in the world to be gained from our anger. And if your mom is anything like my mom, she would want you to be as close to your sister as possible.

There is another hard reality about anger in times like this. It will not/cannot bring our mom's back. That's the heartbreaker in all of this.

Morning anxiety is horrible for me as well. I go to bed feeling anxious just because I know that morning is my next stop.

God Bless You, Crystal. You are in my prayers.

Comment by Crystal K on September 22, 2017 at 8:05pm

Had better days than today.  My sister decides to move to my mom's native home for six months with her kids to renovate the house and in my head I'm yelling at her 'what's the use now. she's dead.' 

My mom had begged her while she was alive to come with the kids and stay for 6 months or a year with us while she's still alive but my sister would always make excuses. Keep in mind my mom was sick for three years.  And now she drops everything to go home and renovate an empty house?? I just don't understand!

I'm so angry but I don't want to say anything cause I don't feel like getting into an argument.

Am I being irrational? I just feel like they never made an attempt while my mom is alive and the anger is killing me and will probably ruin my relationship with my sisters.  Its becoming more evident that I'm the only one that truly cared about Mom.

Comment by Theresa on September 21, 2017 at 5:53am

Bluebell eventually the morning anxiousness does calm down, it took a while for me

I have been really busy at work doing overtime, it distracts me but exhausts me.

When I get in my car to go home I say ma I'm so tired..

Comment by BLUEBELL on September 20, 2017 at 10:52pm

Keeping you all in my prayers tonight.

Bluebell

Comment by Brett Bowman on September 20, 2017 at 9:44pm

That guilt is completely natural. You don't want to let go of your mom. There's a part of me that feels like the day I stop grieving will be the day I truly say goodbye to her. 

 

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