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I miss my Mom!

If you have that hole in your heart that you get when you lose the woman that you shared a body with....

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Comment by Brett Bowman on August 23, 2017 at 6:12pm

Bluebell, I do agree with you. Sometimes it takes courage just for a grieving person to go to work each day, or the store. People who have lost a spouse may have to learn how to pay the bills, cook, take care of the kids, get a fulltime job. When you are grieving you may not want to try new things. You are so wounded that you may not want to go out on a limb and take a chance. The balance of your world has been shattered.

It also really bothers me that it can be so hard to find a listening ear. Death can be a hard subject to tackle. Many folks either don't want to talk about it, or they just don't want to hear your problems. People may be so wrapped up in their own lives that they cannot see beyond their own protected world.

I think that we should all help our brothers and sisters, but my grandpa used to say, "Those who have more should give more." Sometimes people who are truly blessed with so much are the least to lend a helping hand. They have theirs.

Grief has been eye opening for me. Not a whole lot of it has been good. Maybe the best thing about the process is that our moms are now in heaven. That doesn't always mean easy skating for the loved ones who have been left behind. We take a lot and I mean a lot of falls.

Comment by Theresa on August 23, 2017 at 6:03pm

Bluebell, I feel the same way, sometimes I say mom I hope you can hear me.

I wish just for a moment I could hear or see her smiling face.

But like you said we cannot....

Comment by BLUEBELL on August 23, 2017 at 5:55pm

I think it does take courage to grieve. We could just walk around like everything is okay. But we choose instead to be real and share our feelings of loss with others who are going through the same thing.

I do not think any of us are in denial. We know our Mom's are gone and it hurts. Yes, I want my Mom back. I want to connect with her more than I can express. But I can not have that. So I cry at about the reality of her death and I admit I miss her.

Bluebell 

Comment by Brett Bowman on August 23, 2017 at 2:04pm

I apologize, Joy. I thought I was replying to Theresa.

Comment by Brett Bowman on August 23, 2017 at 1:54pm

I agree, Theresa. I don't feel very brave. In fact I feel cowardly. The thought of going through life without my mom scares me to death.

I agree that suicide may be a way out. I just don't think that it could ever be an easy way. I think it would be an incredibly frightening thing to do. I want to meet God one day, but I don't want to meet him that way. I want to be with my mom. I want that with all of my heart. I just don't know the short way to getting there.

I could not be a more reluctant griever. All I want to do is hold on to my mom and beg her to stay with me for a while longer. She is already gone though. There is nothing that I can do about that. My hope is to one day get past my own grief and to just be happy for her that she is in heaven and too know that she will never be sick again. The next time that we see our moms we will never have to say goodbye again. 

Comment by Joy on August 23, 2017 at 11:43am

Ditto your comments about being sad and alone Bluebell. I'm not sure I would call it courage to go through grief, as I have no choice. None of us would choose this for ourselves. I get what you mean though because I could always commit suicide as the easy way out, but is that really the answer? NO it is not. Not to say the thought has not crossed my mind. I'm a reluctant griever, meaning that I'm still trying to hold onto my mother. I guess I'm still in the denial phase.

Comment by BLUEBELL on August 23, 2017 at 11:16am

I am feeling sad and alone. The positive thing is that I am still alive and have the chance to recover from the loss my dear Mom. Yesterday I had some relief from the sadness and anxiety during the time I was involved with a difficult situation at work. I find this encouraging and I am going to try and hang on to that.

My heart goes out to all of you who are grieving the loss of your mothers. It takes a lot of courage to get through this very hard time in our lives. 

Bluebell

Comment by BLUEBELL on August 22, 2017 at 7:07pm

Christine and Janie. Thank you both for your comments

Bluebell

Comment by Janie m Snitko on August 22, 2017 at 6:59pm

By her home I meant my Mom's.

Comment by Janie m Snitko on August 22, 2017 at 6:58pm

Hi everyone! Today was a stressful day for me. I found a great website it is called Soul Proof .com.  Bluebell I thought about you as I was reading different things on after death experiences. Both times my daughter and I have been together in her home my daughter's phone rings and says her Mother is calling and I look at my phone and my daughter's number has been dialed. I have been waiting to feel the love and hugs and emotions from my Mom. I take this as one of them as my daughter and I are very close. If you have not looked at the website take a look and see if there is anything useful in it for anybody. Have a good night! I love you Mama as always.

 

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