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Comment by Bruce Armstrong on September 3, 2017 at 7:12pm

The road to better days seems a long way off I just try to get through one day without tears and now others talk about years-So many years together and now gone there is a empty chair next to mine hate to come home

Comment by JenShep on September 3, 2017 at 9:54am

Alice, your comment so beautifully explains how I'm now living my life after losing my love last October. Thank you. It put a smile on my face today so thank you. And Bruce, I'm so sorry. Like Alice I do recommend just doing anything that gives you a little bit of comfort. For me it is reading about the afterlife. Whether it's Elisabeth Kubler Ross, Brian Weiss, Raymond Moody, etc it brings me some comfort. Everything is about getting back to my love. It's all I want. Maybe reading something like this might feel good to you too?

Comment by Bruce Armstrong on September 3, 2017 at 7:59am

Thanks-yes it is something everyday that brings back tears one cup for coffee one bowl-nobody to talk to starting in the morning-I have learned to say no to people if I don't want to do something-Also I noticed how much I miss just her input when making plans-So alone at home

Comment by Linda Engberg on September 3, 2017 at 7:26am

Bruce,

So sorry for your loss, I feel the same as Alice and Morgan. Everyday is the same as the next, trying to hold on to my sanity, I miss my Husband so much. I just take one day at a time and hope one day I won't wake up and join him.

Comment by morgan on September 3, 2017 at 1:33am

Bruce,  I was married for 35 years.  I knew my husband for 50+ years.  He died four and half years ago.  The road ahead of you is strewn with landmines and you will try to survive the walk.  It is the worst thing anyone can go through.  Losing your spouse, the very soul of your body, the person with whom you shared the most intimate and sacred parts of your life with, is hell.  There simply is nothing other than the excrutiating pain of loss.  The only thing I can say is over the years the crying lessens.  In my own particular walk I have found I can now have a full day of not crying but after 24 or so hours I find the welling up in my mind seems to take me to my crying place.  Yesterday I got through it but today it was newspaper......Yes, newspaper. 

I wish I had a way to say that this was a conquerable experience in our lives but for me all I do is count one day closer to my own end.  Not as despairing and depressing as I was for the first several years but now I am just determined.  Sorry, wish I could write differently but I wouldn't be telling the truth.  

Take care the best you can.......One hour at a time.  You are at a very very early stage and it is raw for quite awhile.  Dont expect too much.  In fact, don't expect anything.  Just get through the hours.  It will be all you can do. May you find some hours of rest where the universe you live in now succumbs to sleep.  

morgan

Comment by Bruce Armstrong on September 2, 2017 at 8:04pm

Lost my wife 2 mon's. ago after 54 years have not stopped crying how do you at least find one good day come home to empty house no body here with a smile for me

Comment by Linda Engberg on August 20, 2017 at 4:48pm

Bluebird,

I always say we too. It is not just I because he lives in Heaven.

Comment by Linda Engberg on August 20, 2017 at 4:46pm

Jackie Cook

It's been 4 years since I lost my Husband, it will always be us not me. 

Comment by Linda Engberg on August 20, 2017 at 4:42pm

John T.

I am surprised that I am still alive after losing my Husband 4 Years ago, I just go day to day hoping one day won't wake up.

Comment by Linda Engberg on August 20, 2017 at 4:40pm

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