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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by Jackie cooke on April 9, 2017 at 2:35am
People are horrible, I don't know what worse people ignoring you or saying stupid things. Iv even been told I'm still young and plenty of time to meet someone else!! I'm surprised I not done for murder, I have that much anger in me. Also I think I'm going mad as still can't except she has gone, when I'm out I'm praying she will be in the house when I get back and when I'm in I keep looking for her to walk down the path. Everyday it's like it's just happened again when I realise she not here . Pleae tell me this hell goes away
Comment by Theresa on April 8, 2017 at 3:49pm

Sorry that should say "go away"

Comment by Theresa on April 8, 2017 at 3:48pm

Its been one year and four months for me since unexpectedly losing my mom and I am having non stop anxiety attacks, its awful

Not one person even calls me anymore, I had a customer at my job who did not know my mom passed say to me well how old was she and when I told her she said well what did you want, I want like go away

Comment by Jackie cooke on April 8, 2017 at 12:40pm
I wouldn't wish this on anybody but people are so idiotic. I have had 6 week off work with broken ankle then this happened, iv no Money and self employed so have to go back. People seem to think that means I'm ok and moved on. I don't know how I'm driving from a to b it must be aotomatic. I just want it all to stop. Seeing people on here who are the same 5 years down the line is scaring the hell out of me
Comment by Jackie cooke on April 8, 2017 at 6:29am
Why is it so hard for people to understand what this is like. Someone just rang and asked if I'm feeling a bit better now and a little less sad!!ffs this time 4 weeks ago the love of my life and my whole world died in my arms. So sorry if I'm not recovering quick enough but I just want to die as well.
Comment by Jackie cooke on April 6, 2017 at 8:45am
I know it's a living hell, I can't be of much help as I am in same position and struggling to get through each hour at the moment, but sending lots of love
Comment by ROISIN on April 6, 2017 at 8:17am
Hi im not really sure if im working this properly im new its been 9 weeks from i lost my fiance to a heartattack and i feel like i am being tortured i have a great support network around me but i cant seem to let it out i just put on this brave face but really im dying inside.
Comment by Theresa on April 5, 2017 at 5:32am

Jerry can I ask what happened, I am so sorry

Comment by Jewels on March 19, 2017 at 11:48am

2017 Valentine's Day, my soulmate of 12 years had a heart attack driving to work.  This has been very traumatic, because it was sudden and he was only 45 years old.  I wish he was given a sign or a second chance. 

Everything hurts, the way he died, when he died and where he died. I cry everyday and feel like I'm going to die of a broken heart, because sometimes the pain is unbearable

Comment by Theresa on March 3, 2017 at 6:12pm

Ok so here is my story, on a Thursday my mom complained of her stomach bothering her, on Friday she went to the dr he sent her for an x ray and then told her go home and take a laxative......

That was Friday, Saturday morning she called me and said this is really bothering me, I called the dr and he told me to go to the hospital.  So I said I will take you and she said he told me to call the ambulance.

I said ok I am leaving right now, there was no distress in her voice she sounded fine, upon hanging up she said you know what hospital right and I said yes mom, she said I'm going to hang up now I'm getting a pain in my shoulder, I didn't think anything of it.

I got in the car and I stopped at her house thinking the hospital would take time to get her settled in and I was there maybe five minutes, I left and was pulling in the hospital parking lot when I got a call from the hospital stating "your mom is in full cardiac arrest"
 do  you want us to intubate her and do CPR, I was like what is that, yes of course.

I went in and they tried to put in me a room and I went by them to my mom, where they were doing chest compressions, she looked like a rag doll. 

I got there too late my mom died, the past 15 months have been an nightmare for me, we were very very close.

She went home to be with the Lord on 12-19-15, my life will never be the same, I have no one now.

 

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