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Comment by Connie K on March 1, 2017 at 1:41pm

Silke B

 I am so very sorry to have to welcome you to this group. I hope you can find some support and comfort here.

Comment by Connie K on March 1, 2017 at 1:39pm

Rita

I have had many wonderful and true readings. While it doesn't help the pain, I do find comfort in my belief that spirit never dies and that our children continue in another form, doing amazing things. I know I will be together again with my son in the same form again some day and I feel his presence a lot. I asked his advice and I talk to him often. Last week while visiting my mother in South Carolina,  another sign came.

I had given her a beautiful carved wooden bookmark with butterflies on it from Daniel her angel grandchild. She had it on the table in her living room where she reads. The morning I was leaving, I was outside on her porch and the bookmark was laying on an outside table she has with several angels on it. I had just cleaned the porch the night before because guests were coming for dinner. I KNOW it wasn't there!! And yet there it was just laying there out of nowhere! I asked her if she knew why it was there and she said she had no idea because it was on her table. She feels him visit her too and I definitely think he was saying that he had been there for a visit as well....

I know holding the faith is really hard. You don't have to always believe to pray anyway. To talk to them anyway. It's all that gets me through.

I am so sorry for everyone's pain and hold you all close to my heart.

Comment by Rita on March 1, 2017 at 12:10pm

Thanks everyone for your understanding words and encouragement. Yes Ammy we are vulnerable to thoughtless and insensitive people. I don't know if anyone has tried or believes in Mediums but I went recently with my 2 Daughters and it was very emotional. This Lady knew things she couldn't have possibly known. The things in his shop he was working on, (the fact he had a shop) his dog that he loved so much and had to put down several years ago. Just so many things. She knew he a had a conflict with someone and I told her it was with me and she told me he wanted me to know he was so sorry for it.. (I also blamed some body for his death but I kept it to myself.)   He told her that we could have not stopped his death that it was his time and there was nothing we could have done....So many things she told us that was so true and only we knew...In the same session my Mother appeared to her and my children's Father. The things she said about my Mother were specific to her. There was no mistake in who she was seeing and speaking for....Jesse, my Mother and Ex...The dog....The things she told us she couldn't have known..... Everything was right on.   I did find some comfort but it didn't lessen the heart break and sadness I feel for the loss of one of my babies.....          

Comment by Ammy on March 1, 2017 at 9:46am

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Silke, we are all vulnerable.  At least I think we are.  You have just experienced the most devastating loss.  Others that have not can never understand this and the life altering effect it has on us.

A few weeks, months, even years will never heal your scarred heart, but right now I believe most of us would agree that you are in the shock stage.  We can't comprehend that this has really happened. 

As hard as it may be, try to express yourself with the group.  Even if no one responds (which is rare) it can help you as you share and bond with others that know exactly how you feel.

My heart aches for you, but I know that sometimes in life there are no words that can fix what we are going through.  This is one of those times.  Hugs

Comment by Dolly on March 1, 2017 at 9:39am

WOW Theresa... how awesome ! It reminds me of when my son was looking for a favorite picture of his fiancee for her casket.. she was killed in a horrible accident.. he said he looked everywhere and finally gave up and asked God to help him find it.. the next morning the 'missing' picture was on TOP of the pile  he had been going through over and over... God cares about us and knows how much we miss our sweet loved ones... there's so little real love left in the world today but His never stops.

Comment by Silke B. on March 1, 2017 at 4:59am

Thanks Teresa D. and Ammy for your words.

I don't have faith anymore, since that happened.

Can't write much more right now, to vulnerable.   

Comment by Teresa D. on February 28, 2017 at 8:29pm

Thanks ladies, for your support.  I'm glad I had it to share. 

Silke B I am so sorry you had to find us, just know your not alone. 

Connie, I had to giggle at your sister.  It's funny how everybody wants us to stop crying.  That's how I release and I'm okay with it.  I no longer stand in public and bawl, I wait until I get to my car now. To me that's progress. 

Rita, I'm sorry your going through a difficult time right now and your brothers not there to support you through it. 

Comment by Ammy on February 28, 2017 at 3:19pm

Teresa, I'm glad I was able to check in here today.  What a wonderful blessing it is to have found that tape.  Definitely a Godsend.  I pray it will bring you some happiness even though I know it will also bring you tears.  
I miss the sound of my son's voice too, and I have to put in a video to hear him, but it always has its repercussion.  It's worth it though.  It has taken time to come to the place where, at times, I embrace my grief.  It has gone through several different stages and at times they all repeat.  What a journey this is.
So I pray you are able to embrace both the smiles and the tears when you see the video. 
Hugs to you and all the moms.

Comment by Ammy on February 28, 2017 at 3:03pm

Silke B., I read what you wrote about your son.  I am so sorry, and also sorry that you had to find this site, but hopefully you will find a sort . companionship and compassion here.  We all understand. We are all here for the same reason.  
There is no method to get through your grief.  It's an individual journey and yet there are so many connections too.  Try to take care of yourself.  You need to have your physical strength.  Grieve as you need.  Don't hold it in.  It also needs to be released.
I wish there was more I could say that would help, but hopefully the others will give you support.
Will keep you in prayer; with hope for some comfort.  Hugs.

Comment by Connie K on February 28, 2017 at 11:49am

Debbie Lynn - I am so sorry to hear of your mom's passing. Thank you for letting us know and sharing your story. We are here for you also and I am sending live and prayers

Rita - I am sorry for your situation. There is no way your brother can understand. Same in my family. My sister asked one day when I was crying if there was a pill I could take for that!But at least you were able to say that to him and maybe he is processing how difficult it is to live with the passing of a child. Since there is some money, could you hire someone to come to your dad's house a few times a week , clean the house and take care of the things that you or your brother cannot? I know it can be expensive but offers one solution.

Teresa, Jill, Ammy and all of you here, I continue to muddle through the days. I do the monthly Compassionate Friends newsletter to try to channel this pain into something helpful. But some friends and family don't think I should do it. They say they think it keeps me sad. lol. I told my sister  "I'm always sad. Doing a newsletter doesn't MAKE me sad. And no one talks to me about it so this is a way to express myself and help others." But she doesn't get it. She can't. Thank God. But it hurts so much anyway that people don't understand and can't give you the empathy we need. Thank you to all of you for being so supportive. I wish you all peace and hope.

Teresa- love your story!!

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