Each day I wake up since you've been gone is so challenging, all of a sudden I have this great heavy burden of sorrow, sadness and loneliness to carry with me. The pain I feel is indescribable, it goes deep into my soul. Smiling and laughing is so uncomfortable now, crying is the new norm. I pray you visit me and comfort me in my dreams. No one should have to go through this much pain.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my wife in April. It was an ugly illness that took her. Sorrow is ongoing. Being alone does get easier. I believe our loved ones are right there with us after death and that it is only their bodies that have died. I find myself praying my wife is in a wonderful place now full of the kind of unconditional love she gave to me. They say God has that kind of love for us. I cry every day and I never have been a crier. The emotional roller coaster is the hardest thing for me to handle. I do hope things can get easier for you. I am not overly religious, but I'll say a prayer for you for what it's worth.

Thank you so much, prayers to you and your family.

Thank you.

We are all in this together.  This horrible night mare that is never ending.  No one understands unless they have lost their spouse.  I cry, I pray, I make deals with God....nothing helps.  I want my husband.  I want my husband.   I love you John.

Kevin,

My deepest condolences to you on the loss of your beautiful wife. Losing one's beloved spouse is one of the most painful of all human experiences and now you are faced with it. It's an experience that no one should have to go through. You're very new to the deep grief--I lost my beloved husband Joseph more than two years ago, and while the acute pain has lessened some, I miss my darling Joseph every single day, I cry everyday, I deeply miss him everyday. It's the price we pay for loving so deeply. I feel for you. All of us on this unhappy forum know about loss, mourning, and grieving. I don't have any advice for you, only that you take one day at a time and take care of yourself.

Sending prayers your way so that the happy memories that you have with your wife will comfort you and in time bring you peace.

In empathy, Trina

I just hit the one year mark last Friday, and, believe me, we here on this site understand your pain. You will now go through some very difficult days, and only you will understand the intense pain, sadness, and loneliness that goes with losing your beloved spouse.
I keep thinking I might feel better, but as the second year begins, I wonder if that is ever going to be an option.
Yes, the pain is indescribable, I, too, feel that ache.
Ask God for help, he will not forsake you if you ask him to be your guide through this. He won't take away the pain, but you will feel his presence. It has given me some modicum of strength on days that are unbearable.

I am sorry for such a great loss, I pray for help for your pain as I know how unimaginable it is.  Kevin was my husband's name and its a beautiful name. It actually means beautiful by birth, kind and gentle. You will be in my prayers, as I cant forget your name. Ruthie

Kevin,

I am sorry you lost your wife. I lost my beloved husband of 37 years on October 8th and the word heartache barely describes the pain I'm feeling. I keep trying to go back in time to when he first got sick, trying to figure out if there was anything I could have done, anything to keep him with me. My emotions are all over the place, from anger to sorrow to depression. The only thing that's helping is keeping busy and then just crashing out on the bed from sheer exhaustion, only to waking up in the middle of the night. I have no one to talk to, so I'm glad I was able to join this group. I'm hoping that it helps. I'm praying for you and I hope you do the same for all of us who are going through this.

I am so sorry for your loss! I lost my precious husband of 34 years to this horrible disease June 7, 2016. My heart breaks for you! I promise she will send you signs that she is still with you. Just as my Tim does. You will see a beautiful twinkling star you have never seen before or a beautiful feather left just for you! It's ok to cry I do every day! A cure for this disease has got to be found!
We all had the beautiful gift to have found true love with another human being and for that I will always be grateful but the sad part is losing that person and feeling the pain and emptiness inside day after day. I'm just trying different things to reach out to my beautiful wife like just going outside alone and really focusing on her and happy memories when we were together. Of course I try my best to see her in my dreams and I did one time. She was happy and when I kissed her on her lips it felt so real but I woke up right afterwards.I know our loved ones feel our love and I know they want so desperately to reach out to us and they will in time. I feel my wife's presence around me, it compforts me. I can still hear her in my ear whenever I'm getting ready to do something wrong, lol.I just appreciate everyone's remark and this is one group no one deserves to be in. We all know what eachother are going through and we need eachother for support or just to vent and most importantly an encouraging word because our loved one's would want us to try to move forward however slow of a process that might be. Thank You ladies and Men so much for your share.

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