I work at a building with over a thousand employees, there is a lot of small talk waiting for elevators and walking from the parking structure. This morning an upbeat co-worker got off the phone with his parents and two stepped to catch up with me for small talk the rest of the way to the office. He started his convo with "ah parents" and I froze. I didn't know what to do or say. Long story short it gutted me and was the worst 3 minutes of my life. Immediately followed by the next worse ten minutes when I tried to write down what happened to me in the height of emotion only to lose it to computer bullshit. Why are there no damn "restart" buttons on life!

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Comment by Linda Miranda on September 26, 2016 at 3:56pm

Hi John the Dragon,

I'm not sure if the co worker has kids or not. I work in a building with over 800 people and we all may not know each other or not. He was a harmless guy just having small talk he just happened to pick his parents has a topic. I don't think he knew I had just lost my parents a few months before. I didn't know how to respond to his small talk. Do I pretend to be ok? Can I even accomplish that? Then his small talk made me think of my parents, then I had to try not to cry. then I was silent for a while so I had to think of how to respond while not crying and it was just a very hard few minutes. He ended up walking away finally and I made some small non committal talk with him. It was a challenging conversation. It's been 3 months and I still have the hardest time answering when people say "how are you"? Truth is, I don't know.

Comment by Billy Jo Colt on September 20, 2016 at 5:03pm

My girlfriend died three years ago past May. I had been keeping a diary for those month's and year's. I'm totally blind and unable to physically write about my memories, emotions and loss. I used my laptop to keep those thoughts of everday event's and feelings. My laptop crashed but I had saved everything on pen drives and sd cards. I transfered the data on to my new computer. Six weeks later, my new computer crashed. I wasn't worried as I had backed up my diary. Or at least I thought I had. Both the pen drive and sd card I had kept my diary and other personal information. somehow got corrupted. I lost everything. I thought about signing up to "The cloud" or other internet sites where I could have saved the precious information but never got round to it. I know how frustrating it is to loss those fleeting thoughts. Yet somehow inside, I realised that although the exact daily memories are gone. What I went through is etched forever in my mind. It is a long road we are travelling after losing someone we love so dearly. Every road is different yet similar. I've learned to back up everything on to cd or dvd. Hard copies rarely get lost. Although as a friend pointed out. What if my home was destroyed., or both my new pc and laptop were stolen. I've now invested in cloud storage. Where everything is safe. I hope you managed to get your thoughts down on your pc? It is good to keep those memories of being in and travelling through this journey of losing those we love. We will never forget them. The best we can hope for is that we come to terms with our loss.

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