~ Joyous Reunions With Deceased Loved Ones ~
©1995; by Bill Guggenheim & Judy Guggenheim

co-authors of Hello From Heaven! published by Bantam Books

Have you been contacted by a loved one who has died? After-death communication (ADC) is probably as old as mankind, but ours is the first complete research study of this field. These spiritual experiences are extremely common, and in many other parts of the world they are discussed openly and freely.

Between 1988 & 1995, we interviewed 2,000 people who live in all fifty American states and the ten Canadian provinces. Ranging in age from children to the elderly, they represent diverse social, educational, economic, occupational, and religious backgrounds. We conservatively estimate that at least 50 million Americans, or 20% of the population, have had one or more ADC experiences – and the actual numbers may be closer to double these figures!

We collected more than 3,300 firsthand accounts of ADCs from people who have been contacted by a deceased family member or friend. These are spontaneous and direct communications that may occur anytime and anywhere, but no third parties such as psychics, mediums, hypnotists, or devices of any kind are involved.

Based upon our research, the following are the twelve most frequent types of after-death communication people report having with their deceased loved ones:

Sensing A Presence: This is the most common form of contact. But many people discount these experiences, thinking, "Oh, I'm just imagining this." It's a distinct feeling that your loved one is nearby, even though he or she can't be seen or heard. Though most often felt during the days and weeks immediately after the death, you may sense his or her presence months and even years later.

Hearing A Voice: Some people state they hear an external voice, the same as when a living person is speaking to them. However, the majority of communications are by telepathy – you hear the voice of your relative or friend in your mind. When you have two-way communication, it is usually by telepathy. In fact, it's possible to have an entire conversation this way.

Feeling A Touch: You may feel your loved one touch you with his or her hand, or place an arm around your shoulders or back, for comfort and reassurance. You may feel a tap, a pat, a caress, a stroke, a kiss, or even a hug. These are all forms of affection, nurturing, and love.

Smelling A Fragrance: You may smell your relative's or friend's favorite cologne, after-shave lotion, or perfume. Other common aromas are: flowers (especially roses), bath powders, tobacco products, favorite foods, and his or her personal scent.

Visual Experiences: There are a wide variety of visual experiences, which we have divided into two broad categories: partial visual and full visual ADCs. Appearances range from "a transparent mist" to "absolutely solid" with many gradations in between. You may see only the head and shoulders of your relative or friend, or someone you love may make a full appearance to you, and you will see the entire body as well, which will appear completely solid. Some visual ADCs occur in the bedroom, next to or at the foot of the bed. Others may happen anywhere – indoors or outdoors – even in a car or aboard a plane. Typically he or she will be expressing love and well-being with a radiant smile. Loved ones virtually always appear healed and whole regardless of their cause of death. Verbal communication may take place, but not always.

Visions: You may see an image of a deceased loved one in a "picture" that is either two-dimensional and flat or three-dimensional like a hologram. It's like seeing a 35 mm slide or a movie suspended in the air. Visions are usually in radiant colors and may be seen externally with your eyes open or internally in your mind. Communication may occur, especially during meditation.

Twilight Experiences: These occur in the alpha state – as you're falling asleep, waking up, meditating, or praying. You may have any or all of the above types of experiences while you are in this state of consciousness.

ADC Experiences While Asleep: Sleep-state ADCs are much more vivid, intense, colorful, and real than dreams. They are very common. Both one-way and two-way communications are typical. You usually feel your loved one is with you in person – that you're having an actual visit together. These experiences are not jumbled, filled with symbols, or fragmented the way dreams are.

Sleep-state ADCs are similar to those that occur when you are wide awake. Your relative or friend can come to you more easily, however, when you are relaxed, open, and receptive, such as while you are in the alpha state or asleep.

Out-Of-Body ADCs: These may occur while you are asleep or in a meditative state. They are dramatic experiences during which you leave your body and often visit your loved one at the place or level where he or she exists. These are extremely vivid, intense, and real – some say, "more real than physical life." The environments usually contain beautiful flowers and butterflies, colorful bushes and trees, radiant lighting, and other lovely aspects of nature – and are filled with happiness, love, and joy.

Telephone Calls:
These ADCs may occur during sleep or when you are wide awake. You will hear a phone ringing, and if you answer it, your loved one will give you a short message. Two-way conversations are possible. His or her voice will usually be clear but may seem far away. If you are awake, you will probably not hear a disconnect sound or a dial tone when the call is completed.

Physical Phenomena: People who are bereaved often report receiving a wide variety of physical signs from their deceased relative or friend, such as: lights or lamps blinking on and off; lights, radios, televisions, stereos, and mechanical objects being turned on; photographs, pictures, and various other items being turned over or moved; and a long list of "things that go bump in the night."

Symbolic ADCs: People frequently ask a Higher Power, the universe, or their deceased loved one for a sign that he or she still exists. Many receive such a sign, though it may take some time to arrive. Occasionally these signs are so subtle they may be missed, or they may be discounted as mere "coincidences." Common signs include: butterflies, rainbows, many species of birds and animals, flowers, and a variety of inanimate objects such as coins and pictures.

According to our research, the purpose of these visits and signs by those who have died is to offer comfort, reassurance, and hope to their parents, spouse, siblings, children, grandchildren, other family members, and friends. They want you to know they're still alive and that you'll be reunited with them when it's your time to leave this physical life on earth – and they'll be there to greet you when you make your transition. Their most frequent messages, expressed verbally or non-verbally, include:

"I'm okay ... I'm fine ... Everything is okay ... Don't worry about me ...

Don't grieve for me ... Please let me go ... I'm happy ... Everything will be all right ...

Go on with your life ... Please forgive ... Thank you ... I'll always be there for you ...

I'm watching over you ... I'll see you again ... I love you ... Good-bye ..."

You may be asked to give a message from your loved one to somebody else. We urge you to write down the message verbatim and to deliver it, if possible, because it may help the recipient far more than you realize.

Nearly all ADCs are positive, joyful, and uplifting encounters that reduce grief, provide lasting comfort and hope, and accelerate emotional and spiritual healing. We encourage you to trust your own experiences and to accept them as being real for you.

Unfortunately, some people react with fear when they have an ADC. This is usually because they are startled by the suddenness of the event, or they may have never heard of one happening to anybody else. Such people may assume they are "losing their mind and going crazy." And others find it difficult to reconcile after-death communications with their philosophical or religious beliefs.

Not all people are contacted by their deceased loved ones. We don't know for certain why some are and some aren't, but it seems that fear, anger, and prolonged heavy grief inhibit the possibility of having an ADC.

Based upon our research, we suggest the following: Ask for a sign that your relative or friend continues to exist. Pray for him or her and others who are affected by the death, including yourself. We recommend that you learn how to meditate, especially if you are currently bereaved or have unresolved grief. Meditation will enable you to relax and soften any fear or anger you may have. It will reduce your depression, improve your ability to eat and sleep, and facilitate your healing process. These deep relaxation exercises will also allow you to unfold your inner, intuitive senses. In fact, you may have an ADC experience while you are meditating.

Our research indicates that after-death communications are a natural and normal part of life. Therefore, we feel ADCs deserve the same public awareness and acceptance that near-death experiences (NDEs) have already received.

For most people, an after-death communication from a deceased family member or friend is valued as a sacred and profound experience that will be cherished for a lifetime. ADC experiences usually expand one's understanding of life and offer a deeper awareness of life after death. They consistently communicate an essential spiritual message: "Life and love are eternal."

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Comment by Jesse's Mom on November 8, 2015 at 10:06pm

Recent article on DeathBed Visitations. The comments posted on this article are worth the read

https://uk.news.yahoo.com/most-dying-people-are--visited--by-dead-f...

When people are dying, they are often ‘visited’ by visions of dead friends and relatives - which offer comfort in our final hours.

As death approaches, the visits become more and more common.

The phenomenon has been widely reported, but up until now, has rarely been studied - although scientists are still unaware of what causes the visions.

Scientists from Canisius College, New York interviewed 66 patients receiving end-of-life care in a hospice.

The research – into a common, but little-studied phenomenon – found that most patients reported at least one such vision per day.

Many patients said the visits ‘felt real’ – and that visions involving dead friends and relatives were the most common.

The researchers write, ‘As participants approached death, comforting dreams/visions of the deceased became more prevalent,

‘The impact of pre-death experiences on dying individuals and their loved ones can be profoundly meaningful…

‘These visions can occur months, weeks, days, or hours before death and typically lessen fear of dying, making transition from life to death easier for those experiencing them.’

 

Some of the comments:

On the day my dad died he told me that he had seen his mother, my long dead grandmother and that she had come to take him home. In many respects it was a comforting thing for me and the family to hear. He wasn't frightened about dying and shortly after seeing his mum and once we had given our 'permission' for him to 'go to sleep and rest now dad', he slipped away. Only 59 and my hero. Made me cry writing this.

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Rod

Rod

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My mother was in a rehab unit for Congestive Heart Failure. There'd been no discussion of death, but one day when I visited her, she said to me, "I've a feeling I'm going to be in heaven, soon." I asked why she had such a feeling, and she said her sister, Florence--who passed away in 2004 (this was early 2013)--had come to her with the news. Within two weeks, my mother died. I have absolutely no doubt that she saw her sister. Before she died, my mother also told me that the one person she was looking forward to seeing the most in "heaven" was her dead father. He passed in 1936.
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Ross
Many years ago when I was in 20s my Granddad was in Hospital but was due to be sent home the following week as he was deemed ok by the Doctor. So I visited him on the Saturday with my wife.   After about an hour he asked me if he could speak to me on my own, my wife went off and got herself a coffee whist we had a chat. To my utter surprise my Granddad said that he would not be here after Tuesday as his friend Jack who he worked with before the 1st world war in Winnipeg Manitoba  Canada was coming to fetch him.   Now I had heard my Granddad talk about jack and when they both worked for he Canadian Pacific Railroad in the early 1900s but I also new that Jack had been Killed in action in 1916 when fighting at Pachendale  and that my granddad was there when he got shot.
So I thought he may be going a bit senile at first or just forgetful, so I reminded him about the fact that he had seen Jack shot dead, but what he said next I have never forgot.  Yes he said I know that don't I as I was there but he visited me last night and said it was my time and he would come for me at 2am Tuesday  morning and would look after me and take me with him to make sure I was safe. Anyway I went home and on the way told my wife what he had said, we both thought it weird but took no notice.
   So it was with shock that on Tuesday morning at 8-30am I had a call from the Hospital to say that my Granddad had passed away in his sleep and the nurse on duty had found him while checking the patient in the next bed at 2-10am.  I'm now 65 and still bemused by this but I sure as hell will never forget his words to me that Saturday night when I just thought he was going a bit senile.
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Mary
 have been a nurse for many years and seen hundreds of patient's experience what appeared to be talking to a relative. The first time ever I experienced this was as a young nurse of 18. I was sitting with a dying lady holding her hand when she said her husband was at the bottom of the bed, he had come for her.  I thought she was delirious however learnt later her husband and her had been married for over sixty years. He had died the week before. Since then I have witnessed many many of the same experiences.
Comment by Jesse's Mom on November 5, 2015 at 10:14am

Ari Hallmark's experience. She was in a tornado and lost most of her family. (Also,it should be noted in NDE's that people often see the religious figures that they most identify with.)

Comment by dream moon JO B on October 29, 2015 at 4:48pm

iv had dreams of famly iv nt met in ths lof cyntha i hav wish spookt famly it did evn fottos hav spoot me wen iv toooook thm

Comment by Cynthia Dagnal-Myron on October 26, 2015 at 10:29pm

This post was especially moving to me, as it touches on the subject that brought me here. Someone I loved and lost many, man years ago appeared in my dreams every night for two weeks, and then, after a lull, returned this weekend. I feel profound love and peace, though there is no conversation or "story" to these visits. But I've been wondering what he's trying to say, even so. This does help. Perhaps the next time he'll give me a "clue." For now, as painful as it has been seeing him "alive" again, it has also been beautiful. It reminded me why I loved him so much and seems to prove that he loved and still loves me. That's an unexpected gift I cherish more than I can say.

Comment by dream moon JO B on October 24, 2015 at 3:20pm

Comment by Jesse's Mom on October 24, 2015 at 12:41pm

Here is a link to a website for helping bereaved Parents. Their newsletter is very interesting as it has many ADCs listed in it. I look at their site mainly to read these contacts.

http://www.helpingparentsheal.info/

Here is a direct link to their newsletters where these stories are.

http://www.helpingparentsheal.info/#!links/c1yng

Comment by dream moon JO B on October 16, 2015 at 3:55pm

Comment by dream moon JO B on October 8, 2015 at 3:01pm

dolly hears 1 my dad wud of laft it he wud of

hears fw mre pics of sam web war be bth bean getin it frm

Comment by dream moon JO B on October 7, 2015 at 3:34pm

dolly me u muts of bean sam footo web u cud say 

Comment by Dolly on October 7, 2015 at 8:39am

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