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Hi Jill:)
Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I see a lot of my process in yours. I am so sorry for your loss Jill:( I totally understand needing to talk about your grief. I am in the same place. We need to share and feel heard,loved and held. I have had that but not enough it feels. My whole life has changed now that my beautiful Mama flew away. I am trying to walk this crazy new path, a trail of tears. I have been looking for an in person grief group too.
May you find the love you seek. May we all...hug
Charity,
I very much relate to you. I had all kinds of friend surprises when my mom passed. People I thought would be there were not, I have a couple friends who have been there, but even then I do not feel I can call them every time I am sad. Her year anniversary of passing is in October and I feel even more alone. Most of my friends have not had a parent pass so it makes them uncomfortable to talk about it. A lot of people are afraid to bring up my mom because I might start to cry and then they feel bad for upsetting me. Really though, that is what I need, is to talk about it. It seems I do not really talk about my mom with my friends too much anymore even though I am still grieving.
I try to remember too that when my mom was sick (she fought breast cancer for 11 years) I had a hard time when people I knew lost a parent. No really close friends lost a parent, but close enough. I could not deal with it and I was not the friend I would be today. I did not know how to give support and it scared me to death because my mom was fighting for her life and it was too close to home when their parent died. There are 3 friends I have actually apologized too for not being there more since my mom passed, as now I have walked in their shoes.
All of this has made me adjust my expectations of friends, but it still hurts and you still want that connection and support.
So right now I am looking for an in person grief group. I was in a grief group when she first passed, I am looking for another to join now as I feel I need it. I do enjoy the online support but I think I would benefit from being with a group of people who I can talk about my mom with, who understand exactly how I feel and can talk about it. I think this will help me a lot. They even have groups for adult children who have lost their parent/s specifically.
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Good Morning all:)
I am feeling pretty raw and alone. I lost friends when my Mama died. I truly learned how people deal with death and grief. I tend to be a very independent lone wolf anyways but loosing my Mama has made me so vunerable, needing support. My Mama was my constant companion:( can anyone relate? thank you...
Hello Megan,
Thank you for sharing what helps you with grief ridden days and nights . I a sorry Megan for your loss. This is indeed the most difficult pain to deal with for me . I know your pain and yearning for your loved one . I break into crying jags anytime . I remember my mom's last phone conversation to me before she ended up at the hospital and then never leaving there again . Breaks my heart . Yes, walking sounds great. I love to walk . I continually get a deep pang of grief around 6 pm and later into the night. I don't care about much right now as I am mourning . Hugs to you Megan
Thank you for sharing Angela and Nancy. I have found the past few nights to be especially difficult, I cannot sleep or stop crying.
Right after Mom died I threw myself into exercising and mindfulness, I gave up caffeine. As the months have gone on I have slowly stopped and I can really notice the difference. I am so thankful for this group. You all help me to remember that I am not alone and keep me on track in terms of self care.
Angela, walking helped me tremendously in the weeks after my mom died. Whenever I had time I would walk until I was tired and then turn around and walk back. In the evenings I was so tired I would fall right to sleep.
I am so sorry that we all have to deal with this. xx
Nancy thank you so much for sharing what you do to help you with the despair and grief at night when all is quiet except the memories of losing mom. You are right that it does hit worse at night. I will try the warm milk before bed and perhaps do some crafting if I can't go back to sleep .
Today , I believe I received a sign from mom and I have experienced some peace even a few smiles talking to mom silently in my mind. Every day is a challenge coping with losing mom. Today , was barely bareable. Hugs to you . I know you and I share similar experiences with our moms suffering. May God watch over you and all of whom lost his or her beloved mother.
Thank you Charity . Can't sleep overcome with grief . I needed some time alone hoping to reflect and unwind instead finding myself overcome with grief and insomnia . If anyone can suggest some ways that helped them with the long sleepless nights from grief I would much appreciate it .
Thank you Nancy;) your words lifted me up. hugs to you Angela...gentle as she goes...
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